New mum clubbing

[MrsG841]

A friend of mine has just become a first time mum and her LO is 6 days old.

She messaged a few us to organise going clubbing at weekend.

AIBU to think that she shouldnt think about this at such an early stage?

I agree giles

Again as you have said, most but not all

Yes that's what it's all about. Making women stay chained to the kitchen sink.

Nothing at all to do with her being hungover, sleep deprived, judgement impaired and basically hanging with a week old baby to breastfeed.

It was a selfish, stupid thing to do. And I would put money on it not being a one off, let her hair down thing. Parents (not just mothers) who spend every weekend clubbing until the early hours and hungover for the rest of it are shit parents. Flame away, but it's true.

Again you are basing your opinion of her parenting on something she hasn't even sodding done yet.

essie

Has this mother spent every weekend clubbing and being hungover?

No

Has anyone at all ever on this thread said that going out clubbing every weekend and being hungover is a good thing

No

At the time if the thread she hasn't even gone and no one knew for sure she would even get drunk

Pretty sure OP said at the beginning of the thread that her friend has never not gotten shitfaced on a night out, but hey, you seem to think you know the friend better than OP does.

And I said that people would have said the exact same thing about me. I'd never really been out and not got drunk either.

Pretty sure OP said at the beginning of the thread that her friend has never not gotten shitfaced on a night out, but hey, you seem to think you know the friend better than OP does

Pretty sure the OP had never known her friend as a mum either...people can change with motherhood

OP it serves you right. You made your friend sound terrible and now you're woe is me. If she's on MN - which I hope she isn't - she will know this thread is about her as you've been quite specific. If she were my friend Id keep my thoughts to myself and mind my own business not create an internet thread knowing she was going to be villified, then sit back and watch it. You've the cheek to make it all about YOU feeling attacked, but you don't mind shit stirring so your friend is attacked tho

As for those complaining about your friend they're as silly and two faced as you are - dissing her to high heaven for having the audacity to leave the house.. When baby has a dad and he is doing the childcare and he is not complaining about it. Added to that you've no business approaching the dad to say fuck all - he's not your man, sit down.

I bet you'll be talking to her as if butter wouldn't melt. Frenemies are the worst thing ever

And I said that people would have said the exact same thing about me. I'd never really been out and not got drunk either

Me, me, me, me, me, me. I couldn't give two hoots about your drinking habits then or now.

That seems a bit of an extreme reaction to giles post

Who wants to go out clubbing when your leaking from every hole, your fanny is swollen, battered and stitched up with fish wire?

Good grief, there isn't half a load of projecting own experiences onto this poor mum on this thread!
You do realise that's you right, and not necessarily every other mum?!
I've given birth twice, and one of them was 10lb. No stitches anywhere, nowhere leaking after a week either!
Everybody's DIFFERENT.
How does everyone know she's going to throw some shapes and get shitfaced anyway as was put upthread? She might just want a couple of hours to feel "normal" again so she's leaving baby with dad for a few hours.
Listening to her favourite dance music and having a drink.
I used to go clubbing, I didn't "throw shapes" just had a drink or two!
I think people have an outdated mental image of her in their head of shouting "acceeeeed" and pogoing around to 90s rave music whilst popping pills or something.

That seems a bit of an extreme reaction to giles post

Not at all, have you conveniently missed all the shit she's been giving the OP?

People..shouting acceeed and pogoing around to 90's rave music
I agree, clubbing's really gone down hill these days.

jenna

Are you just taking in turn to be rude to posters

There are loads you seem to have missed

Look forward to your next few posts