To have corrected this child when his mother didn't.

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Background, we were at birthday party for a 6 year old. There were anout 16 kids at it ... 4 mum's present to supervise.

One boy was rude all day and just causing havoc.
He was upsetting all the kids , calling them names and using really bad language. The mum was there and just laughed everything off, didn't once correct him.
I ignored him and his mum as much as I could until he pushed another boy off a trampoline and the other boy was screaming in pain. Tg no damage done...no head injury or broken bones....but I'd say a good bit of bruising.
At which stage I brought the boy back to his mum and asked her to deal with him as he had injured other child ( who's mum wasn't there). She just laughed it off at which stage I explained to her ds how dangerous it was and that the other boy could have been very badly hurt. cos she wasnt about to explain it to him!
I asked him to apologise and he downright refused.
I went back to injured boy and the mum said the injured boy had started the argument at which point I said that her ds still shouldn't have done what he did. The mum said it was none of my business but I felt there was no one there to stick up for the injured boy as his mum was not present.
Did I overstep the mark ?
By the way I know for a fact this boy has no special needs etc as I know the background well.... if he did, I would of course have handled it differently. I was more annoyed with the mum than the boy tbh!

Good for you

YWNBU

I would have done that. I don't know if it was the right thing to do, but it is what I would have done.

YANBU. It sounds like something badly needed to be said!

I would have done the same.

No good for you!

I bloody hate when other parents don't bother to parent it makes my blood boil!

Well done! It happened right in front of you so it absolutely was your business. I get sick and tired of being expected to tiptoe around the precious feelings of people who can't be bothered to parent their own kids.

Well done. Wtf is wrong with some parents?

Of course YANBU, you should have also told her if she could actually be bothered to correct her child than other people wouldn't have to.

Yadnbu

As a teacher, I actually have to get involved if the safety of a child is at risk. Part of our responsibilities apparently. I often parent my DD loudly if she is about to copy something another child is doing that I believe is dangerous or could make them ill. For example, we were queueing for a ride at Chessington and the boy in front of us (about 3 like DD) was licking the fence. This fence was covered in all sorts, including bird poo. Dad was with him but was too busy on his phone. DD moved towards the fence and was about to lick it when I loudly told her not to as it was dirty. It got the dad's attention so he then stopped his child too.

OP, YWNBU. Someone needed to tell him. His mother sounds awful!

Well done OP!!

Good for you! I bet the injured boy's mum was grateful someone stood up for her son.

Shame on the naughty boy's mum though! Do you know if he's this obnoxious and horrible at school/elsewhere?

YWDNBU I would have done the same. Can't stand parents who just choose not to parent, especially if their child is then hurting other children or animals.

YANBU completely the right thing to do from the information given.

This mum probably thought she was parenting by taking her son's side no matter what - some idiots think parenting means ensuring their kid "wins" every situation, and don't think it means teaching their child to grow up a decent human.

I'd lay bets that this rude kid's mum thinks she's a bloody brilliant mum because she was there to ensure her kid had fun and defend him if anyone criticised him or told him off. She's probably somewhere slagging you and the mother who dropped off the well behaved, well brought up child her kid injured off.

IMO if someone has brought their child up to behave well when they are not there they are a good parent, but other people think they don't have to teach their kid anything or control them but that being a good parent is being ever present to take their child's side no matter how badly they behave.

You did the right thing, I would say. Her child was being a horrid little shit, yet she did nothing about it and seemed to think it funny.

I can't stand parents who don't bother to parent.

YANBU

You did the right thing. He should have been made to apologise too by his mother. He will be a real delight when he's older. The mother will soon get the message when he stops getting invited places but by then it will be too late. I really don't get parents like this.

Yes you did . I have a child with SN. if his behaviour was dangerous to other children, in this case it was...He still has to be corrected or removed from the situation.

She possibly knew he wouldn't apologise or respond if she tried to tell him off so wanted to save face by trying to say it wasn't his fault.

YWNBU
Well done
Sometimes it really does take a village to raise a child.

you did absolutely the right thing.

No you did the right thing. SN or not, he can't be a danger to other children.

Just FYI though unless you can read minds and also tell the future, you don't know if he had SN or not.