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To have corrected this child when his mother didn't.

186 replies

Designerenvy · 25/06/2017 08:49

Background, we were at birthday party for a 6 year old. There were anout 16 kids at it ... 4 mum's present to supervise.

One boy was rude all day and just causing havoc.
He was upsetting all the kids , calling them names and using really bad language. The mum was there and just laughed everything off, didn't once correct him.
I ignored him and his mum as much as I could until he pushed another boy off a trampoline and the other boy was screaming in pain. Tg no damage done...no head injury or broken bones....but I'd say a good bit of bruising.
At which stage I brought the boy back to his mum and asked her to deal with him as he had injured other child ( who's mum wasn't there). She just laughed it off at which stage I explained to her ds how dangerous it was and that the other boy could have been very badly hurt. cos she wasnt about to explain it to him!
I asked him to apologise and he downright refused.
I went back to injured boy and the mum said the injured boy had started the argument at which point I said that her ds still shouldn't have done what he did. The mum said it was none of my business but I felt there was no one there to stick up for the injured boy as his mum was not present.
Did I overstep the mark ?
By the way I know for a fact this boy has no special needs etc as I know the background well.... if he did, I would of course have handled it differently. I was more annoyed with the mum than the boy tbh!

OP posts:
1forAll74 · 27/06/2017 02:50

You did the right and proper thing here, sometimes a misbehaved child might take more notice of some chastisement from another person,as opposed to their parent..

AcademicOwl · 27/06/2017 03:02

I'd make sure both children were safe & removed from the situation. But get involved with 'telling off' someone else's child? Nope. You don't know how the child or parent will react.
Plus a quiet word with mum might get her on side. Publicly telling off her child is very unlikely to have that effect... more likely to make her defensive

JanKind · 27/06/2017 06:50

If you saw it happen then it was your business. The boys mother is out of order.

cazzaG · 27/06/2017 07:09

Horrible child horrible parent..well done you..yanbu!!!!

Prideinmyplace2 · 27/06/2017 07:34

I believe we are all responsible in society & not saying anything perpetuates the problem

EMSMUM16 · 27/06/2017 14:14

I wouldn't have told the boy off but would have challenged his mum more. Also whoever was in charge of the party i would have said the boy was causing an issue. I definitely would have taken the boy who was hurt to one side & made a fuss of him, making sure he knew it wasn't his fault. But from what you've said the boy needs more supervision & that's the parents role

EMSMUM16 · 27/06/2017 14:29

I agree completely

Mapenzi · 27/06/2017 19:52

For real?

Mapenzi · 27/06/2017 19:56

I would have done the same....this is what's wrong with society nowadays.Ignoring bad behaviour because we are not responsible/doesn't concern us untill we have lunatics terrorising all of us then we take it to social media 🙄
A 6 year old is well capable of containing themselves....my nearly 4 year old wouldn't get away with it!

Gromit78 · 29/06/2017 20:40

I imagine that boy has no respect for his mother either. If she doesn't start parenting him soon he'll end up bullying her and making her life a misery.

I believe very strongly in community parenting. If a kid is acting up and their parents are not dealing with it than others should step in, otherwise a whole generation will be raised to be spoilt brats and Britain will be a broken society.

PersianCatLady · 30/06/2017 02:38

I'd lay bets that this rude kid's mum thinks she's a bloody brilliant mum
Don't they always???

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