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Neighbour constantly walking through my front garden.

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Light69 · 16/05/2017 06:41

I am not sure if my dh was being unreasonable for shouting at him this morning so here it goes. Not 100% sure if it is my neighbours eldest son or there daughters boy friend. He sleeps there most nights but doesn't appear to have house keys, I know this because he sits in his car at the bottom of my drive waiting to be let in. So he went through a stage of what ever side of the drive I parked in he would park directly behind me across the bottom of the drive blocking me in. This made it difficult to get off the drive as I was blocked in and had to kind of edge backwards and forwards to move the car to the otherside of the drive to reserve off it safely. We have a dropped kerb that runs the whole width of the drive but this didn't seem to bother him. I started reversing on to make it easier to pull off and out of the blue he stopped doing it. He has now moved on walking through our front garden to get to and from this car. So he comes out of their house steps over a small wall and walks right over my front door step and behind my car. He will push my kitchen windows in if they are open wide so he can fit behind the car easier then trotts off down the drive. On occasion if we have been leaving at the same time he has bumped into my dc or I have had to step back to stop him walking into me, I have asked him to stop but he doesn't. So this morning when dh was leaving for work he did it again and dh lost his temper and shouted at him and swore a bit, was dh in the wrong for this and how would you deal with the situation?

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rightsofwomen · 16/05/2017 06:46

I don't think it's right to go around swearing at anyone really.

Talk to the parents/adults in the house. Talk to the lad.
Have you tried that?
I can't believe you didn't tackle him blocking you in.

shouldwestayorshouldwego · 16/05/2017 06:46

The daughter might be sneaking him into the house. If the neighbours are reasonable then I would talk to the parents as a first step. There obviously can't be a more general reason otherwise they would all be accessing the house that way.

Chloe84 · 16/05/2017 06:48

Did he bump into your DH? I can see why your DH lost his temper.

You asked him to stop and he ignored you. He would probably have ignored your DH too if he had asked him to stop.

pallasathena · 16/05/2017 06:48

I'd do the same as your DH. The twat has no manners and a massive sense of entitlement to boot. And you can't, in my experience, be nice to twats because they think you're giving them permission to continue their twattish behaviour.
Best to fake outrage and scare him into behaving properly. That's assuming of course that he 'Gets it'. Twats don't necessarily; but perhaps the neighbour will?

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Light69 · 16/05/2017 06:51

Yes he walked straight into dh and knocked his coffee down his front. I have asked him to stop several times and the parents know he stays he is there all weekend.

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Trifleorbust · 16/05/2017 06:51

OP hasn't said he is a teenager. He drives and sounds like he works. He is old enough to understand "Don't walk on our property." I don't blame your DH for swearing.

ScarletForYa · 16/05/2017 06:52

He's sneaking in. Go next door and explain what's going on.

I doubt the parents are aware.

shouldwestayorshouldwego · 16/05/2017 06:52

Of course we need a diagram to truly advise you on the best course of action. Time to get out the sharpies.

AwkwardSquad · 16/05/2017 06:54

Sounds like your DH was justified and I don't think a bit of swearing is the end of the world. The boy sounds like a thoughtless little shit.

haveacupoftea · 16/05/2017 06:55

DH was NBU. The cheeky sod might learn some manners now.

Collaborate · 16/05/2017 06:56

Why would your focus be on your husband's behaviour and not this imbecile's from next door? Jeez.

leighb23 · 16/05/2017 06:58

Yes he sounds a massive pita and you need to be nipping this antisocial behaviour in the bud before it escalates.

jay55 · 16/05/2017 06:58

I'd swear if I got hot coffe down my clean work clothes.
It's not like it isn't clearly your place if he has to step over a wall.
Total cockwomble.

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Light69 · 16/05/2017 06:59

My focus is not on dh but not sure shouting is the best way forward is all. I have asked him to stop and told him to stop makes no difference he carries on.

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Light69 · 16/05/2017 07:00

The lad not dh lol

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AllTheWittyNamesAreGone · 16/05/2017 07:01

He blocks the drive
Steps over the wall
Closes your window
Doesn't move

I'd of done more than yell at him.

InfiniteSheldon · 16/05/2017 07:04

Good grief support your dh he's in the right what on earth is wrong with you?

BattleaxeGalactica · 16/05/2017 07:05

You and your dh have been far more restrained than I would have been.

Electric fence? Cattle prod?

MrsChopper · 16/05/2017 07:06

I am sure blocking your car in on your drive is illegal for a start.

I would have a word with your neighbours. He is their guest, that makes them responsible. If he isn't sneaking in/out I can't see any reason for walking around your property (not that he should be doing this anyway)

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Light69 · 16/05/2017 07:07

I always support dh 100% we are a team no issue there. My issue is shouting at the lad doesn't work he still does it how do I make him stop?

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Light69 · 16/05/2017 07:09

I think he walks through the front garden because he sees it as a short cut and for no other reason.

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Arkhamasylum · 16/05/2017 07:09

Is he pretending that he's staying at your house and not the NDNs?

Your DH shouting at him seems like a natural consequence to his utter selfishness.

OhWhatFuckeryIsThisNow · 16/05/2017 07:09

Ffs, I would have sworn too. Get round and see parents. He's either sneaking In or he's such a pita they won't have him round while they are awake.

HerOtherHalf · 16/05/2017 07:09

It almost sounds like he's deliberately trying to get at you. Is there more to this or a reason he might bear you a grudge?

AllTheWittyNamesAreGone · 16/05/2017 07:10

Talk to the house owners.
Tell him you will brick his car Windows if he does it again