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Neighbour constantly walking through my front garden.

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Light69 · 16/05/2017 06:41

I am not sure if my dh was being unreasonable for shouting at him this morning so here it goes. Not 100% sure if it is my neighbours eldest son or there daughters boy friend. He sleeps there most nights but doesn't appear to have house keys, I know this because he sits in his car at the bottom of my drive waiting to be let in. So he went through a stage of what ever side of the drive I parked in he would park directly behind me across the bottom of the drive blocking me in. This made it difficult to get off the drive as I was blocked in and had to kind of edge backwards and forwards to move the car to the otherside of the drive to reserve off it safely. We have a dropped kerb that runs the whole width of the drive but this didn't seem to bother him. I started reversing on to make it easier to pull off and out of the blue he stopped doing it. He has now moved on walking through our front garden to get to and from this car. So he comes out of their house steps over a small wall and walks right over my front door step and behind my car. He will push my kitchen windows in if they are open wide so he can fit behind the car easier then trotts off down the drive. On occasion if we have been leaving at the same time he has bumped into my dc or I have had to step back to stop him walking into me, I have asked him to stop but he doesn't. So this morning when dh was leaving for work he did it again and dh lost his temper and shouted at him and swore a bit, was dh in the wrong for this and how would you deal with the situation?

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SaorAlbaGuBrath · 16/05/2017 07:10

Nope I don't think your DH was in the wrong. I know on here swearing is the absolute worst thing you can ever do to someone, but if someone had bumped into my kids, knocked coffee down DPs front and been fiddling with my kitchen windows I probably would have lost my shit too.

StillStayingClassySanDiego · 16/05/2017 07:10

Shouting not the best way forward?Confused

Asking nicely won't get through to this arsehole and having hot coffee spilt down your top would provoke a reaction in most people.

Squishedstrawberry4 · 16/05/2017 07:11

Don't feel too bad. He's been asked lots. Go talk to the adults next door. And the girlfriend.

Arkhamasylum · 16/05/2017 07:12

Motion activated sprinklers? Hose? Sorry, OP. You might need some legal advice. Hopefully talking to your neighbours might help.

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Light69 · 16/05/2017 07:14

No have never spoken to the neighbours apart from a hello once or twice. The houses are new builds and we have both lived here since February this year been going on from the start.

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emmyrose2000 · 16/05/2017 07:15

Your DH was perfectly justified. The trespasser doesn't deserve any leeway.

I'd definitely bring it up to the neighbours.

Doublejeopardy · 16/05/2017 07:16

Sabotage so leave a row of buckets when he steps over the wall he gets wet feet??

Note in his car??

I would speak to neighbours

UrsulaPandress · 16/05/2017 07:17

Place marking for diagram.

Quartz2208 · 16/05/2017 07:19

Have you talked to your neighbours at all? Surely that is the first step

UrsulaPandress · 16/05/2017 07:19

A son of our neighbour used to get off the bus and jump over our wall (it's high) and run across our lawn to get to his house.

Until DH caught him doing it.

wowfudge · 16/05/2017 07:20

How peculiar of him. Do you have gates? If so, lock them so he can't get out. That might stop him. Plant some prickly stuff like pyracantha along the walls. Does he engage when you talk to him or just ignore you?

blueskyinmarch · 16/05/2017 07:22

The young man should not be trespassing on your property. You and your DH need to go have a word with him next time he is next door and make it clear he cannot use your garden as a shortcut.

BreakfastAtSquiffanys · 16/05/2017 07:23

Hosepipe sounds good!
Works for cats.

You have every right to water your own garden /wash your drive...

FanjoForTheMammaries · 16/05/2017 07:25

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Light69 · 16/05/2017 07:26

When I have asked/told him to stop he just looks blankly no other reaction. Will find a pen to draw a diagram and post it in s minute, be warned my drawing skills are well non existent!

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Hairydontcare · 16/05/2017 07:30

He isn't understanding what you're trying to tell him. So all you can do is find a different way to communicate, ideally via the owners of next door, using words of one syllable.

Hairydontcare · 16/05/2017 07:31

And show HIM the diagram because he clearly needs further explanation!

Laiste · 16/05/2017 07:33

find a different way to communicate

Struggling to find a nice way to say how i'd be bloody communicating with him! He's treating you and your property without regard. Where's your anger?

ChardonnaysPrettySister · 16/05/2017 07:33

He walks across because he's a lazy inconsiderate twat.

Hosepipe will sort him out. You can pretend the you were aiming at the petunias right next to him.

Laiste · 16/05/2017 07:34

My foot would be communicating with his arse if i caught him marching over my doorstep again Grin

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Light69 · 16/05/2017 07:34

His route is in blue pen, hope you can see it.

Neighbour constantly walking through my front garden.
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ptumbi · 16/05/2017 07:37

That's mad OP. Why would he walk twice as far to get to his car? Rather than down their own path and along - why go across in front of your windows?

(Other than to royally piss you off, I mean!)

ptumbi · 16/05/2017 07:38

My only suggestion is a wall/fence/brambley hedge between you and NDN!

StillStayingClassySanDiego · 16/05/2017 07:38

Is he staying there unknown to parents and doesn't want to be seen , if he's the boyfriend that is?

Absolutely no reason for him to be taking this route otherwise.

OnionKnight · 16/05/2017 07:39

I'd have done more than swear at him if he bumped into me!

He sounds like a dozy twat, what happened after his run in with your DH?