Neighbour constantly walking through my front garden.

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I am not sure if my dh was being unreasonable for shouting at him this morning so here it goes. Not 100% sure if it is my neighbours eldest son or there daughters boy friend. He sleeps there most nights but doesn't appear to have house keys, I know this because he sits in his car at the bottom of my drive waiting to be let in. So he went through a stage of what ever side of the drive I parked in he would park directly behind me across the bottom of the drive blocking me in. This made it difficult to get off the drive as I was blocked in and had to kind of edge backwards and forwards to move the car to the otherside of the drive to reserve off it safely. We have a dropped kerb that runs the whole width of the drive but this didn't seem to bother him. I started reversing on to make it easier to pull off and out of the blue he stopped doing it. He has now moved on walking through our front garden to get to and from this car. So he comes out of their house steps over a small wall and walks right over my front door step and behind my car. He will push my kitchen windows in if they are open wide so he can fit behind the car easier then trotts off down the drive. On occasion if we have been leaving at the same time he has bumped into my dc or I have had to step back to stop him walking into me, I have asked him to stop but he doesn't. So this morning when dh was leaving for work he did it again and dh lost his temper and shouted at him and swore a bit, was dh in the wrong for this and how would you deal with the situation?

I haven't said anything to the neighbours yet as the lad is an adult, I would say early 20's not 17 just passed his test. You should be able to ask another adult to stop doing something and it register.

So what if he is an adult. If he is living or staying in someone else's house they are unlikely to want him to annoy the neighbours and he is likely to listen to what they say. Suggestions by some posters to put up fencing etc seem ridiculous when there is likely to be a much easier solution.

1. Speak to your neighbours.
2. Go to the garden centre and buy a large pyracanthus and put it in a pot against the low wall. One encounter with it's inch long thorns will put him off. It is quite a giving plant with flowers and berries but a bastard if you get too close
3. Go to your top window with a bowl of water and sit in wait. Empty it over him. Then when he yells, shout sorry, didn't expect anyone to be on our drive.
4. Park your car closer to the house/wall to make it impossible to get by.
5. Open those windows nice and wide and wedge them

He is a thoughtless prick and your neighbours need to sort it out. Doesn't matter who he is, he is trespassing.

This is so bizarre. Could he have SEN? My son has ASD and although he is young, this is the kind of thing I could imagine him doing and just not getting what the problem is. It could also explain why he doesn't have his own keys. I think you need to have a chat with your neighbour asap.

I would have starting knocking on the door the moment the inconsiderate sod started to block the driveway.

Go round this evening and state firmly that you do no appreciate him blocking the car in, nor to you want him walking across your garden.

I would also speak to him the next time he appears and make it clear under no uncertain circumstances that he is not to block you in and not to walk through your garden. The fact he steps over the wall shows he clearly doesn't give a shit.

Every time he comes on to your property (who the fuck moved peoples windows so they can squeeze past) go round to NDN and ring their bell, and tell them what he has done - again. Be nice and friendly but assertive. And ask hen to phone him right there right then and ask him to stop.

Make this annoying for NDN until they get some control of him.

Your poor DH must have had a shock - you don't expect someone to smash into you and knock hot coffee al over you in your own garden!

I would be swilling out a kitchen bin or remnants of a dirty bucket of water the precise moment he was passing my front door! What a shame you didnt see him as you emptied it out the door!
The smellier the better!

This will take some planning and the use of several people with time to waste...
Person 1 keeps watching hanging out of upstairs window
They alert person 2 hiding at dining room window.
They give signal to person 3 who is holding handle of kitchen window...
Which they open smartly just as trespasser reaches it, bopping him on the nose.

Roomster101, considering the OP has already asked him to stop and he has ignored her, putting up a fence so is blocked from taking the route is sensible, if expensive and unnecessary for OP and her family because he's going out of his way (literally) to do it.
I just don't get why he's making it hard for himself to maybe annoy someone he's never met? It's just odd.

Be in your garden when he usually walks through, tell him to go back the way he has come and point out it is your garden and he has no right to be in it.
Be firm.
(I like the bin water idea though).

You need a 1970's style wall topped with broken glass!
I would be very pissed off someone was using my garden like this! I have a freind with a similar garden / house layout and even when I'm visiting her, my car is parked in such a way as not to even block her in and also taking the route across her front garden is my easiest route ( I park in front of her house 😇 And I still use her drive and side path which takes longer.
Great fish you ndn's daughter has caught! Little twat. Your dh is a star!

I can't understand why you seem more concerned about this twat/your NDN's feelings than your husband's? I'd be bloody livid at this nonsense, esp had he knocked coffee down my front. Not surprised your DH lost it - I don't blame him!

This is trespass, simple as. Speak to the NDN and if that doesn't work, I'd let your DH pick twat boy up and deposit him firmly on the NDN's garden, saying "trespass on my property again and I'll phone the old bill every single time". 😡

A great big pile of horseshit right where he goes over the fence should do it.

He is deliberately ignoring your request to stop it he deserves all he gets.

Swearing over someone knocking coffee all over you is the least reaction he should expect.
He has no respect for you or your property why on earth didn't you pull him up in blocking your car in? Your drive. He had no right to park there anyway.

You need to play him at his own game as pp said start throwing dirty floor water out the door. Wedge open the window or open it just as he is passing and throw out some cold water.

Tell him he is trespassing and you will inform police if it doesn't stop.

Every time he does it bug the ndn they will get sick of it and deal with it.

Or if you can get any, fox shit....that stuff fucking STINKS.

or have a read of 'The Musicians of Bremen'

He's taking the piss on purpose. You are way too nice OP, that's why he's doing it.

i would sit and wait for him and then ''accidentally' open my window/door in his face. repeatedly. hard.

Put a high fence up so he can't jump it! X

So he went through a stage of what ever side of the drive I parked in he would park directly behind me across the bottom of the drive blocking me in. This made it difficult to get off the drive as I was blocked in and had to kind of edge backwards and forwards to move the car to the otherside of the drive to reserve off it safely. We have a dropped kerb that runs the whole width of the drive but this didn't seem to bother him

This is where you first went wrong,you should have gone to the door each and every time and made him move his car. He was parked illegally. I would have knocked and said unless he was moved in 5 minutes then I would get his car removed. Why did you put yourself out to go round him?

I agree go and kick up a massive fuss and tell him to stay off your property and if he touches your windows you'll assume he is either trying to break in or damage your property and will get the police involved.

Thank you for the diagram, that makes what he does even more pointless and annoying. You need to watch back to back episodes of Home Alone and use those tricks, culminating in the trampoline/ swimming pool one . Seriously though I think some gardening in the area by the wall is necessary. Starting with digging in some manure, lots of hydration to make it really muddy and ending in prickly plants.

The next step should be for your husband to grab this idiot by the collar and forcibly remove him over the wall. He should have your full backing for this.

Technically bumping in to your husband was an assault. Consider ringing 101 and asking for advice.

Your DH reacted like any normal person.

NDN D BF is being a twat. On purpose apparently.

I think after all this i would be over to the neighbours to tell them what he is doing, mention the coffee and tell them it's the last straw. Ask them to have a word with him.

Next time i saw him doing it i would be out there with an 'oi, you!, I've had enough of this' make him turn round and go back the way he came and follow him to make sure he goes, telling him exactly ehat i thought of him as we went.

You have exhausted all the normal reasonable options now.

OP - not all deaf people wear hearing aids or a cochlear implant, most talk and many have a "normal" voice. I'm not saying he is deaf but you can't assume from what you have said.