Neighbour constantly walking through my front garden.

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I am not sure if my dh was being unreasonable for shouting at him this morning so here it goes. Not 100% sure if it is my neighbours eldest son or there daughters boy friend. He sleeps there most nights but doesn't appear to have house keys, I know this because he sits in his car at the bottom of my drive waiting to be let in. So he went through a stage of what ever side of the drive I parked in he would park directly behind me across the bottom of the drive blocking me in. This made it difficult to get off the drive as I was blocked in and had to kind of edge backwards and forwards to move the car to the otherside of the drive to reserve off it safely. We have a dropped kerb that runs the whole width of the drive but this didn't seem to bother him. I started reversing on to make it easier to pull off and out of the blue he stopped doing it. He has now moved on walking through our front garden to get to and from this car. So he comes out of their house steps over a small wall and walks right over my front door step and behind my car. He will push my kitchen windows in if they are open wide so he can fit behind the car easier then trotts off down the drive. On occasion if we have been leaving at the same time he has bumped into my dc or I have had to step back to stop him walking into me, I have asked him to stop but he doesn't. So this morning when dh was leaving for work he did it again and dh lost his temper and shouted at him and swore a bit, was dh in the wrong for this and how would you deal with the situation?

I find hosepipes and/or buckets of water useful for shocking intruders. We have a huge ginger cat prowling the neighbourhood's garden fish ponds. (My street is obsessed with ornamental ponds.) Anyway, said ginger cat gets a regular dousing from the residents...maybe worth a try?

Yy to something tall, sharp and spiky by the dividing wall.

Try knocking on the neighbour's door every time it happens - it might then spur them into action if it's as much as a pain for them. Be grovellingly polite - "we're SO sorry to disturb you again but X has climbed into our garden/blocked us in etc etc again"

If he continually trespasses on your land and caused your DH to spill his coffee down himself I don't blame him for shouting. Why haven't you spoken to your neighbours about this before now though? That would probably solve the problem.

I can't understand why you haven't told the neighbours yet though? He's their guest, they are responsible for his conduct if he won't listen to a polite request. Most reasonable people would be very cross if their guest was irritating the neighbours so much.

Can you raise the boundary divide in some way? Add fencing on the top of the wall or some sort of trellis?

If he used to park his car inconsiderately and then stopped all of a sudden, it might be that your neighbours became aware and showed him the error of his ways. So I would have a polite word with the neighbours who will then have a word with him? Perhaps he has additional needs . Perhaps he really doesnt understand? Or he might be a lazy entitled twat.

If he doesn't react and looks at you blankly could he be deaf? I cannot think why he would be walking across your garden it's very peculiar

Nice diagram

I don't think your DH was BU, I think my DH would have reacted the same way. You've asked him to stop more than once, I would now take a deep breath and talk to the neighbours as he is their guest. Here's some info about trespassing and also mentions a 'notice to stay off' which you could try if nobody listens to you!
www.howtolaw.co/deal-with-trespassers-392207

I haven't said anything to the neighbours yet as the lad is an adult, I would say early 20's not 17 just passed his test. You should be able to ask another adult to stop doing something and it register.

This morning after bumping into dh he said nothing just looked a bit shocked that dh had shouted at him, kind of deer in headlights type moment.

Don't think he is deaf as doesn't wear hear aids and is very vocal in the back garden.

This is precisely the moment to knock on th front door and speak tonneighbours. You've been tolerant up to now but after this episode they must insist their guest stops trespassing on your property!!

Deer in the headlights? No shit. Honestly OP, I would put up some trellis up to about 4-5ft high. I reckon the cheeky blighter would simply try to clamber over a normal fence. Please speak to the neighbours as well. Even if your DH swore at him they need to know him walking into someone really isn't acceptable.

Looking at your diagram his route is batshit crazy. Even if he felt the need to step over your wall, why not just walk down the path, rather than squeeze between your house and cars?

Really odd.

So weird his route saves him literally no time! Def talk to the parents, it can through the girlfriend if he is too daft to listen to you.

I think he's after a response, just one of those people who gets off on pissing people off. Not really sure what you can do other than but a camera up and report him to the police for trespassing?

Your Dh was perfectly justified .

It's a hell of a coincidence that he is timing it to literally bump in to you - is he doing it on purpose?

Not surprised your DH lost it. He clearly wasn't expecting to get broadsided by some idiot on his own front door step. Have you thought about making the wall he steps over a little bit higher, even as a short term measure, until he gets the message? Maybe install some fencing/wire netting or similar along the boundary. If the neighbours ask why you've done that, then tell them you're sick to death of this lazy, entitled moron using your property as a short cut.

Your DH was right to have a go at him!

I don't think he is timing it on purpose to bump that would make the situation more ridiculous than it already is. He will go that way to enter the house to but anybody else travelling with him use the normal route of entry then he just laughs. Now reflecting on this I think he does it to be annoying as the laughing would indicate he knows it is not on.

He is following the route a dog would take, along borders. Is he a dog?

Lol definitely human

when you say you have asked him to stop, what exactly did you say and HOW?

I have this vision of you speaking ever so gently and saying 'Please don't walk across our property' rather than stopping him and engaging in meaningful conversation about it ie 'Can I have a word with you please?' and reading the riot act.

You need to talk to the neighbours- you and DH go round, go in if you can and thrash it out. It's trespass and you'd be entitled to get legal over it all if they refuse to be cooperative.

If mine or dh' s car is not parked there he cuts across the middle of the garden, he only skirts the edges when both cars are present.