To not want to date a tory?

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I know you don't have to date anyone you don't want to. But I'm currently dating someone who's told me he's a tory. He's a good person and I like him but I can't really get to grips with his ideologies about things. I'm politically aware but not active iyswim? I'd basically be ending the relationship purely because he's a tory but he's not actually a bad person so I feel a bit ridiculous.

I wouldn't date someone who had opposing political views to me. For you I suppose it depends on how right wing he is.

I grateful that DH isn't a Tory, I imagine I'd love him even if he were, but it'd be a bitter pill to swallow.

I have some Tory friends - I view them almost like exotic creatures, I also have favourite Tories (Kirsty Allsopp).

Personally I wouldn't do it as our values would be so different that we would be incompatible.

Does he support Trump? Total dealbreaker IMO

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I couldn't. When I've done OLD I've made it clear on my profile that I'm a massive lefty, that seems to deter them.

I don't think a persons politics is that important in the grand scheme of things. Unless one of you works in politics. Think of the impassioned debates you can have.

There is nothing less sexy than a Tory.

I did and it lasted 3 months.

I'd want to understand more before deciding - I have some (a few) Tory friends. In most cases we agree on the issues but differ about solutions. In many cases they are honest decent people who have been good friends and I can respect their right to an opinion even though I disagree.

There hasn't been a lot to choose between Labour and Tories since Blair anyway - it's anathema to me that Blair was such a Thatcher apologist that tosser Brown invited her for tea - so in some ways despite being on the Dennis Skinner wing of the party I'd be more worried about a "Tory lite" Labour supporter.

DP voted Tory but identifies with the Green Party more. We just don't talk about politics.

I wouldn't date someone whose views were completely different to mine. Obviously where you draw the line is down to personal preference.

I couldn't do it.

FrankAndBeans How did that happen? The Greens and the Conservatives aren't cut from the same school of politics at all.

Dh and I have different political views. Brexit was fun in this house!

Why would you vote Tory if you 'identify' Green?! There's virtually no policy overlap.

My husband used to be when we got together.

He isn't anymore.

if you don't want to be with someone then don't waste your time [or theirs for that matter], sorry but it's not rocket science is it? politics, religion, culture any stark differences are always likely to cause opposing opinions and there are better things to be doing than arguing or debating.

People change their politics...
I've gone more left, DH has gone more right.

Husband is BNP but I still love him.

Just kidding

My DH has been centre left most of his days but has recently started to identify more with the right.
We're Scottish and voted to remain part of the U.K and I think the downturn in Labour up here has pushed him more towards the throws because we are not (and never will be) SNP supporters.

*tories not throws!!

I was raised by a Daily Mail reading Tory and turned out a Liberal Lefty. I could marry a Tory if he wasn't too right wing and as per pp above, if he supported Trump I'd steer clear!

I don't know, you could have some good debates/ discussions... Could be quiet fun to have something to argue about if you can keep it purely impersonal... Would be fine while only dating I think but having incompatible world views might make it inadvisable to move on to living together / marriage as you might start to dislike one another for your views after the honeymoon period...

Depends on why he is a Tory, and how extreme his views are, and why you aren't and how far that is a reflection of deep seated beliefs and personality on both your parts, or whether it is more superficial and prone to change I suspect...

I couldn't date a Tory. But a pro-Brexit Tory would be beyond the pale.

For me there's no political party that I feel represents me right now so I don't honestly know. I think DH is the same.

Me and DH are on the same side re brexit and trump. I think I would have struggled a LOT if we hadn't been.

I couldn't date or be in a relationship with a Tory.
Myself and DP are Left wing but my whole birth family are Tories. I love them but I hate their views and they drive me mad( as I do them)
We tend to avoid talking politics but it does come up time to time when my sister starts ranting about scroungers on benefits..