To not want to date a tory?

[VladmirsPoutine]

I know you don't have to date anyone you don't want to. But I'm currently dating someone who's told me he's a tory. He's a good person and I like him but I can't really get to grips with his ideologies about things. I'm politically aware but not active iyswim? I'd basically be ending the relationship purely because he's a tory but he's not actually a bad person so I feel a bit ridiculous.

Haha ok seems extreme to me but each to their own!

'Sounds like a cliche, but she's changed. She always used to be very smart, switched on and questioning of everything. Now she's gone total Little Englander. Looking on the bright side, she hasn't professed any admiration for Trump.....yet'

you sound like a nice friend! If she has offered 30 years of friendship but because you have found out that she votes differently to you and due to that fact you have since decided that you no longer like her (despite assumingly being perfectly happy prior to this discovery) then maybe she is best off if you let the friendship slide! I find it ridiculous that people would judge friends and possible partners in this way. Would it be the same if they held different mild religious views? Yes don't date someone who is a raging racist but perhaps judge people by their characters and deeds rather than political or religious affiliations

I think that the last few months have pretty clearly demonstrated that there are plenty of people on the left who don't feel the need to treat people who are different to them with respect and decency, what with all the rancid post-referendum name calling. Have a read of the Guardian, that bastion of liberal left wing values, if you don't believe me. And I say this as a left wing person (sadly with nowhere to go these days).

I think someone said on this thread or elsewhere, the right think the left are wrong, the left think the right are bad. I think there is something in this - not for all the left, but a substantial part, and it's not just the right they think are bad, it's anyone who disagrees on various issues. It's so damaging and we really could do with a left wing opposition at the moment but heyho.

My best friend is a staunch Labour vote, I am most definitely Conservative - we never discuss politics and have been friends for more than 30 years! It can be done.

I once had a relationship with a tory.
A more misogynistic prick I have never known.

In my defence I was very young and recently divorced/bereaved.
It lasted eleven months before I left him for somebody twenty five years his junior.

So on this basis alone I will evermore avoid romantic entanglements with older, right wing, chauvinistic men.

do you love him? do you believe he loves you?

They've only just had their first shag, cat! Might be a bit soon for that.

I'm sorry, Startled, I'm just a bit old fashioned and tend to think in terms of feelings coming before shagging, or at least at about the same time. If all we are talking about is sex, I would have thought it does not matter two hoots whether he's a Tory, a Stalinist or completely apolitical. As far as I know no such allegiance has any impact on sexual performance - indeed you might well be better off with a performing Blue pillock than somebody who needs a little blue pill.