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To think they invited the wrong child?

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HyunaRiddle · 01/08/2016 20:10

I have triplet girls, they're 8 years olds.

2 are Brownies and 1 is a Cub

Youngest DD who is a brownie is very good friends with a girl, who is also a brownie, we've taken her out numerous times, DD has stayed over at her house overnight, I know the mum fairly well.

It's the girl's birthday next week and we've received 2 invites by email, for DD1 and DD2 not DD3.

DD2 is a Cub, has never spent more then a a few hours with the birthday girl, doesn't really like her all that much, but the name on the invite is clearly for DD2.

Do you think that they just put down the wrong name?

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elephantoverthehill · 01/08/2016 20:16

Completely irrelevant but I met my BFF by inviting the wrong person to my party at aged 5. However I would have thought you would invite all 3. Well I would.

YelloDraw · 01/08/2016 20:20

Oh gosh, you have to call and ask...

Haudyerwheesht · 01/08/2016 20:21

Oh dear I think it's likely that yes it's the wrong kid. I'd ask.

RubbleBubble00 · 01/08/2016 20:22

I would just email back asking if she has the right triplet and say that X,y are brownies and z is a cub

jelliebelly · 01/08/2016 20:22

With triplets the scope for confusion is I suspect quite wide! Double check with the mum.

elephantoverthehill · 01/08/2016 20:23

Are your triplets identical? Could you just swap DD3 for DD2? Would it be noticed?Grin

SharingMichelle · 01/08/2016 20:24

Does dd3 know if she's invited or not? If they're good friends they'll probably have talked about it.

CatsAndCocktails · 01/08/2016 20:26

Bizarre considering it is the name of the girl she is closest to that is wrong. Although I am assuming the mum wrote the invites and perhaps she has always had your DD's names muddled up.

Mumoftwoyoungkids · 01/08/2016 20:30

Could all three have been invited but the child has done a special invitation for dd3?

When Dd had her party she invited both of a pair of twins and then gave both invitations to whichever of the two girls she saw first. Who promptly lost her sisters. (Probably not on purpose!) And then showed off her invitation to sister. And then ages later said "you can come too" to sister.

Very embarrassed mum had to approach me to check. "''Twas rather funny!

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HyunaRiddle · 01/08/2016 20:31

Elephant, if I put a wig on DD3 it may just work. Grin

SharingM, no mention of a birthday party at all, the family were suppose to be away on the date, so I was surprised at the invite.

I think if it were DD1 & DD2 they got mixed up, then I wouldn't have questioned it but they're very close to DD3, so a little surprised that she wasn't invited, it most likely is a mistake, I'll give her a ring and hope that's all it is.

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IwannaSnorlax · 01/08/2016 20:36

Sounds like a mistake to me or as pp said, she's done a separate invitation for DD3 that's a bit more special.

Floggingmolly · 01/08/2016 20:37

Isn't it more likely that dd3's name was missed off by mistake; and they actually meant to invite all three?
Who would invite two out of three triplets? Confused. One special friend, maybe, but not two...

Missgraeme · 01/08/2016 20:57

Send them all and say u thought it was a 3-4-2 invite deal?!

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HyunaRiddle · 01/08/2016 21:04

They did not invite the wrong child Blush

It was such an awkward phone call.

They've had to cancel their holiday last minute, can't have a big party, so have limited their DD to 3 friends, she chose another girl along with DD1 & DD2 not DD3, her Mum did ask her repeatedly if she meant DD3 but no, she wants DD2 there

DD2 is most likely not going to want to go, they're going ice skating/bowling and she's not a very big fan of those activities, DD3 is going to feel awful. Sad

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Floggingmolly · 01/08/2016 21:09

I wouldn't send any of them Hmm. Could they seriously not add another child on, rather than leave out one of a set of triplets?
Who does that??

Newes · 01/08/2016 21:11

That's just ridiculous. I would find something else you are doing on that day.

redhat · 01/08/2016 21:12

I wouldn't send any of them in that scenario. Just send apologies and say unfortunately you can't make it.

Mabelface · 01/08/2016 21:12

A difficult one. With my three, it was easier as I have 2 boys and a girl. Fine to invite one out of the three, but two out of the three is a bit off.

T1mum3 · 01/08/2016 21:13

I would never complain about someone asking one of my twins and not the other - but two out of three triplets? and when the left out one is the one who normally goes for sleepovers. Absolutely not. I would politely decline for the other two and take them all out for the day.

LyndaNotLinda · 01/08/2016 21:14

Oh no! This girl is friend with DD3 but she is the only one of your triplets not invited?

That's got to be a thanks but no thanks.

2kids2dogsnosense · 01/08/2016 21:15

Agree with floggingmolly - don't send any of them. I wouldn't dream of leaving out a single child in a situation like this. If you can't invite them all, don't invite any of them; and if you can't send them all, don't send any of them.

fraggle84 · 01/08/2016 21:15

Could you just send dd1?

LyndaNotLinda · 01/08/2016 21:16

ETA: the parents are idiots for even letting that invite go out.

Gah! Am quite cross on your behalf

inlectorecumbit · 01/08/2016 21:17

Poor Dd3..
I would decline the invire for the other girls otherwise DD3 will feel awful. What a shitty thing to do.
I know it's the birthday girls choice of who to pick but l would have thought her DPs would have more sense.