Things you 'should' feel guilty for but don't

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I don't like my mother but she helps with childcare

Buy frozen! Game changer and soo nice!

Buy frozen! Game changer and soo nice!

Buy frozen! Game changer and soo nice!

Buy frozen! Game changer and soo nice!

Same and I shamelessly post on SM each and every time
I also shut down the stupid ‘you’re so lucky’ from younger colleagues who are just starting out in life, in the trenches with the kids reminding them that once they’ve been grafting since 16 for 35 years and all the kids grow up if they plan well they too can go long haul several times a year but till then button it

I care about the planet in the abstract couldn’t give a shiny shit about my carbon footprint with regard to flying 10odd times a year - 2 long haul !

Having a cleaner
Flying up for 10x a year -2 long haul
Stealth quitting at work while on a high income
I can’t be arsed to recycle and have never rinsed a jar
I don’t tip -ever
I will sometimes only empty half the top of the dishwasher to put in one or two bits on the side and then run the whole thing again.
Buying ‘Cook’ meals and sometimes the sides which are extortionate
Doing child care and seeing grandkids daily in the week but rarely weekends as that’s my time
Not attending social events at the last minute as can’t be arsed

Oooo! Good idea! Xx

They are rolling that out at my DH’s company and we will be taking FULL advantage !!!

We tumble everything -even in summer zero fucks given

I have at least a week off and a three dayer period of sick leave once a year without fail

I just ‘had Covid’ for 10 days as needed a break after Xmas
full pay obvs

Me too!!! If we don't go away my husband just works as he's self-employed and I just love being away!!!

Same. I hate seeing washing on a line. We have solar though so costs us nothing

Spending so much of my salary on GLP1s (have lost 5 stone) and ADHD meds (calm brain, finally). Am single mother, no help / contribution from their dad. So one salary for the three of us. But then I think - I’m keeping this whole ship sailing so maybe they need the best / healthiest version of me running things. Maybe I can work harder and look after them for longer. It’s still a lot to spend on just me, though.

I've zero interest in having a heat pump / eco friendly housing. Our gas boiler has functioned perfectly well for years and is serviced annually. When the time comes to replace it, we intend to replace it with the same.

When I hear of friends / family spending £000s on heat pumps, solar panels, brand new radiators/ heating system with all the inconvenience & upheaval, I really wonder why they bother at all. I imagine their contributions will have nil impact on climate change.

Losing 5.5 stone on Mounjaro and taking all the credit for doing it the ‘hard way’

I phone my mum once a week and we talk for at least an hour. I say ‘we’ but it’s 97% her doing the talking. I love the woman but goodness me can she talk….about more or less nothing and often doesn’t ask about what we’re doing. Anyway, not a big issue, it’s an hour and I’m not falling out with her about it. However I spend most of the time doing other things - online food order, spot of cleaning, occasional bit of mumsnetting. She has no idea because my contribution to the whole thing seems to be saying ‘hmm’ or ‘oh dear’ on a semi-regular basis and I can do that, keep more or less up to date with what she’s saying and clear a few jobs of my own all at the same time. I don’t feel guilty at all!

Ours probs costs loads but I don’t care
see also hotub which runs at 40 degrees all year around and I love it !

My DH used to have to go away with work for 1 week every November. I would book 3 days A/L every time he was away, even after the DC were grown and out of the house. I used those days to do whatever the hell I wanted. FIL was always baffled by this.

I think you are lovely.
Edited to say I am not being sarky. My mum is the same and she appreciates me talking to her at all.

There's absolutely no reason to feel guilt for this, anyway. Your money, your choice. I don't understand why people on this site are so weird about having a cleaner.

OMG same. I feel similarly about most environmental issues, TBH. I don't understand why we in the UK allow ourselves to be guilted by this nonsense when China and India do naff all about Net Zero etc. Just stupid virtue signalling.

This! No guilt if it happens - sadly not that likely - as I've seen what she's done to others over the years.

It's not me who's weird. I've genuinely had people (family) tell me I should stop being lazy, that my DH will leave me if I don't start cleaning. I've been tutted at. That I should get a job (even though DH doesn't even want me to anyway) etc.

I don't get the big deal either.

I buy a week's extra annual leave. This time is exclusively for me to do whatever I like: nothing for husband, kids or elderly parents.

You can't pour from an empty cup.