Things you 'should' feel guilty for but don't

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I don't like my mother but she helps with childcare

I don’t feel sorry for someone I know who has cancer. She still has all the same personality flaws that make me dislike her.

Surely you can dislike her, yet still feel sorry for her?

I really need to stay in bed all morning on a day I don't work!

I suppose I've had to re-frame my feelings about working 3 days because to start with DS was only 3, I had cancer just as he started school and Tamoxifen side effects until last December. I'm only just starting to really enjoy it.

I absolutely love this

Thank you

I am bloody proud of him (and his silbings!)

He knows (as they all do) how much I love them and how proud I am of them

He had every right to tell me to fuck off and he was never going to speak to me again,but he didnt

It's the way he said 'mum,you where ill'

I cried so hard that day,we both did-the guilt will never really 100% leave me but I simply dont remember it

I know what I've been told and ill never know how true it all is-i do remember standing by the window and the weight of him in my arms

After that?

Who knows?

(Thank you for being so nice-i really thought id get my arse handed to me)

I maybe should feel guilty about not pushing myself to get more out of my career but i can't be arsed

I'm really hopeful that someone at work will get sacked or pushed out. She isn't very nice.

Oh loads if you go by MN standards.

I live and work in the ME (in an NGO capacity but prob would still get grief as the entire region gets a hard time regardless of the topic);

I've 'abandoned' my parents in the UK to live in said ME; and

I travel a lot; I don't have children BUT I am an (evil) step mother if you believe MN threads involving inclusivity and how they shouldn't be treated the same - or, should! Depending on the thread.

I don’t feel guilty not sponsoring my friends for various events that they would probably want to do even if it wasn’t for charity. I work with a lot of disadvantaged young people so rather than sponsoring a walk I’d rather spend it on treat for the kids I work with

🤣🤣🤣I’m on MugMug’s side!

Apparently (on another thread) I should feel thoroughly ashamed of myself for buying concert tickets through a third party site and it’s morally reprehensible..

Sorry not sorry - IM GOING TO SEE THE CURE IN AUGUST WOO HOO!! 🙌 🥳 🎉

I don't feel guilty for snoozing people on social media when they go on holidays. I really don't care about following their trip.

I lie about being busy if I don't want to do something, including if SIL visits. My time is too precious to waste & lying is more effective.

I work compressed hours on school holidays & have Friday's off. It's supposed to be to spend time with DC but I let them have screens & sit on my backside watching something I want. It's the only time I get to relax. DH has hobbies, conferences etc & I do everything, so I feel no guilt that he doesn't get any days off except vacation leave.

I also put DD in more days of child care 'for her development'. I was taking her out of MIL's care to do it. She filled DD with sugar, junk food & screens.

You’re so right about peeling. I just boil and mash unpeeled potatoes and call it ‘rustic’!

North Somerset? I hate the crunchy water here.

My exh has our kids EOW but he also used to see them Thursday evenings, until this week. I’m sure people will come for me and tell me what an awful person I am for “reducing contact”.

I stopped it because it was at my house and having him here was difficult and unhelpful. He was supposed to come and do dinner for them then put them to bed but as they’ve got older and go to bed later, he’d leave before either of them are asleep. He refuses to read ds2 his favourite book at bedtime because he (exh) reads him an aeroplane book instead (which ds2 has no interest in).

I once went out and left him here and came back to find he hadn’t supervised them properly and ds2 had fallen onto and broken a cat litter tray, and hurt himself. Last week exh broke a slat on ds1’s bed.

I’ve suggested exh takes the kids somewhere out of my house for dinner etc but he’s always refused, even when I was ill with Covid before Christmas and would have appreciated an easier evening. So I’ve had enough and told him not to come on Thursdays anymore. I’ve said he can take ds1 to his swimming lesson on Wednesdays / take them out then but he’s not interested.

Last night was so much easier without him here and I don’t know why I tolerated him here for so long. Well I know why, because I didn’t want to reduce his time with them, but I’ve been seeing a counsellor recently who told me to reinforce boundaries, and also that it’s not just up to me to ensure they have a relationship with their dad. So I don’t feel guilty.

Having a daily nap when wfh (which is most days!). I concentrate so much more afterwards and am much sharper and focused than I would be if I was struggling and falling asleep at my desk

further east but i feel your pain!

I don’t think anyone in their right mind would expect you to feel guilty about any of that - he is taking the absolute piss out of you.

I cannot stand my fil. Hes so arrogant & selfish. Hes alot of health issues going on, but I still cannot be arsed to be around him, hes been horrible in the past & i won't erase that just because hes got health issues
No guilt!!

No guilt for this. I prefer to support charities in ways other than blindly giving them my money when I don’t know how wisely they spent it.

I've never been arsed either. I'm a solicitor and I've never felt the need to go for partnership. Our CEO is younger than me, works incredibly hard. Good for her, but bugger me I never would.

Absolutely love this.

I bought a really big bar of fancy lindt chocolate the other day for £8 with the intention of sharing. I hid it in my bedroom and have been eating it myself.

I think it's those of us in N.Somerset who are keeping Oust (descaling products), in business.

I have muted all my friends on social media. Their updates are mostly inane.

Buy frozen! Game changer and soo nice!