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Being nosey...How many people have you slept with?

197 replies

Midlifecrisisat30 · 04/08/2019 14:13

I've recently had my first ever one night stand after after breaking my virginity at 14 (young I know) and alot of short lived relationships with sex after a few weeks.
Just wrote my list and was surprised that I've slept with 16 men! That seems alot for someone who hadn't had a one night stand until a few months ago!

OP posts:
Kneehighinshit · 04/08/2019 14:16
  1. Lost virginity 17 years ago.
TotheletterofthelawTHELETTER · 04/08/2019 14:18
  1. Or 0. Why does it matter?
Original poster
Midlifecrisisat30 · 04/08/2019 14:23

TotheletterofthelawTHELETTER
It doesnt matter as such like I said I'm just being nosey. Curious what the norm is I suppose.

OP posts:
NameChange84 · 04/08/2019 14:25

0 Sad. I’m 35. I was never going to be someone who’d have slept around but I would have liked to have slept with at least 1 person. Probably no more than 3.

Soola · 04/08/2019 14:26

7

I’m 53 and have never had a one night stand.

Shittiestdayinalongtime · 04/08/2019 14:29

About 22...

sunshineandshowers21 · 04/08/2019 14:32
  1. i’ve been with my boyfriend since we were 14 and we lost our virginities together at 15.
newmomof1 · 04/08/2019 14:33

@Shittiestdayinalongtime how can it be 'about' 22? 22 is a pretty specific number

DemelzaP · 04/08/2019 14:33

15 I think. I'm 40, first was at 15. I've never had a one night stand.

IVEgottheDECAF · 04/08/2019 14:34

More than all of the posters have said on here so far (except the 0-300) but all by the age of 19! One since 19!

mayaschoice · 04/08/2019 14:35

Between 50-60 in a 10 year period.

Lost virginity at 15. Last man I ever slept with was my husband who I met when I was 25.

TwistyTop · 04/08/2019 14:36

Somewhere between 70-100. Don't know exactly. But 90% of those were during a 1 year period in my youth where I went pretty crazy. Lots of sexual experimentation and drugs, it was all a bit of a blur. Outside of that time period I have only had a couple of one night stands and I didn't much care for them. Have been happily married for donkey's years now and I've never looked back.

I don't regret it though. It was all good fun at the time and I was always safe so there were no unplanned pregnancies or stds.

buttertoasty · 04/08/2019 14:38
  1. DH was number 13 so will hopefully stay at that number.

Am 25

MariaVonBratt · 04/08/2019 14:38

More than 10, less than 20. Only the 1 one night stand. Some I truly regret. Am engaged now so won't be increasing my number!

InTheHeatofLisbon · 04/08/2019 14:41
  1. One ONS which showed me ONS aren't my thing.

A few casual relationships, then XH (5 years) and DP (8 and counting).

Lost my virginity 20 years ago.

Original poster
Midlifecrisisat30 · 04/08/2019 14:41

Thank you for the replies so far I appreciate the honesty. I'm having a simultaneous discussion with my friend about this and she sent me this link.
www.mirror.co.uk/science/how-many-sexual-partners-average-13442969
The majority was 22% of respondents said 2-4 people which seems very low? Always dubious of these surveys, wonder who the sample are.

OP posts:
MaverickSnoopy · 04/08/2019 14:41
  1. I was mortified about this at 24 but DH was number 13 and we're still together now I'm 35. Now I'm older I couldn't give two hoots about the number.
elliejjtiny · 04/08/2019 14:43

1 (am 37 and been with dh since I was 19)

itscallednickingbentcoppers · 04/08/2019 14:43

It's around 10 actually I think it's 9 but I feel like I'm forgetting somebody Confused about half those were boyfriends.

SexFarmWoman · 04/08/2019 14:55

I think I lost count around 2001 (the year, not the quantity!).

Only DH since 2005

fairhairedfairy · 04/08/2019 14:58

Only 4 here. 2 serious relationships, one ONS and one holiday fling. Lost my virginity at 22 because I was shy as a teen/student. Came out of my shell when I got my first proper job.

AuntieMarys · 04/08/2019 14:59

Lots and lots

SlinkyDogDash · 04/08/2019 15:01

Between 80 and 100 I think. I had some one night stands in my 20s but been single for the last three years and have had a few short term relationships, so I probably average 3-4 per year now.

The numbers in articles are prob low as women tend to report less than true and men more than true. If dating and a man asks I tell them I've only slept with a handful 😂

MondeoFan · 04/08/2019 15:02

About 12, 2 of those were long term and 2 or 3 one night stands, the rest were short relationships

Ilovesweatybollocks · 04/08/2019 15:03

Only 3 and one of those is my husband of 20 years. I'm 47

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