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Being nosey...How many people have you slept with?

197 replies

Midlifecrisisat30 · 04/08/2019 14:13

I've recently had my first ever one night stand after after breaking my virginity at 14 (young I know) and alot of short lived relationships with sex after a few weeks.
Just wrote my list and was surprised that I've slept with 16 men! That seems alot for someone who hadn't had a one night stand until a few months ago!

OP posts:
SquirellTamer · 04/08/2019 15:04
  1. Always felt I should have had more fun!
twinkletoesimnot · 04/08/2019 15:04

Only 1. And I'm dh's only too. I'm 37. Married at 16. Was discussing this with a friend just last week, and she thinks I must have really missed out!
I'm perfectly happy 😉

Celebelly · 04/08/2019 15:05

11 I think for proper sex.

Youngandfree · 04/08/2019 15:06

3 in 15 years

ComtesseDeSpair · 04/08/2019 15:08

Somewhere around 150, both men and women, mixture of medium term relationships, ONSs and ongoing casual or FwB relationships. I like people and I like sex and I’ve never associated it with love or commitment - I don’t know why and I’m not sure whether it’s a nature or nurture thing, but I’ve also never really felt compelled to question it about myself.

I don’t think I’m “normal” in the sense that women are socially conditioned to see sex as something they are gatekeepers of, to give to men in return for love; and we’re also taught within patriarchy that women who don’t do this are dirty sluts and to be ridiculed and shunned.

SimonJT · 04/08/2019 15:13

One, but then casual sex isn’t for me, anything else sexual however is fair game, so other sexual things would be well over 100.

Likethebattle · 04/08/2019 15:14

8 including DH. I had 4 one night stands and didn’t like them, 1 friend with benefits who I developed feelings for so it ended and 3 LTR’s. I was brought up in a household where women slags if they sleep around and I was warned if o got pregnant outside of marriage I would be thrown out....,my brother, the golden child, got his girlfriend pregnant within a month of knowing her......strangely enough THAT was acceptable!

Sleepyquest · 04/08/2019 15:16

40ish. It stopped when I met my DH 5 years ago and I hope we will be together forever Smile

BoswellsBollocks · 04/08/2019 15:18
  1. All before age 20 when I met DH
Nearlyfriyay987654 · 04/08/2019 15:20

I’m 32 been with DH since 22- I’d estimate around 25-30 but I’d have to properly think about it to get an exact number

Crinkle77 · 04/08/2019 15:56

I lost count years ago but I would guess about 30 or 40.

dudsville · 04/08/2019 16:11

What I want to know is how many shoes you've bought but hardly ever wore.

S0CKS · 04/08/2019 16:46

Dont know.... Whoops!

MangoSpice · 04/08/2019 16:50
  1. Been with DH for 25 years now.
farmlotto · 04/08/2019 16:52
  1. Lost my virginity at 16.
2 relationships 2 one night stands (these were in the same week. I was going through a really bad dark time and I regret them so much) 1 friend with benefits
BillyAndTheSillies · 04/08/2019 16:54

Between 20 and 30. I stopped counting when I met DH 9 years ago. He will hopefully be my last.

Mine were mainly ONS or FWB because I'd only had two boyfriends before I met DH. Just a bit wild at uni and really enjoyed myself.

barryfromclareisfit · 04/08/2019 16:56

None.
There were men for sex ... but I didn’t let them rest.

LaurenSarah22 · 04/08/2019 16:58

4

CakeNinja · 04/08/2019 17:00

15 (give or take one or two!) before I met dp at 18 and for the last 17 years, only 1!
I had a lot of drunken fun as a teenager although I wouldn’t recommend it to my dds Confused

Atlasta · 04/08/2019 17:01

2 long-term relationships
Countless one-night stands (estimate 80ishBlush

hollieberrie · 04/08/2019 17:04

About 35 total (men and women)

Jemima232 · 04/08/2019 17:06

I can't remember.

Msgiggles30 · 04/08/2019 17:07

6...5 of those were between the ages of 16-20 and then only 1 person in last 10 years.

Benjispruce · 04/08/2019 17:07

2
I’m 48 been with DH since 21.

parado · 04/08/2019 17:08

1
Quite simply because I haven’t had many other opportunities ha