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Being nosey...How many people have you slept with?

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Midlifecrisisat30 · 04/08/2019 14:13

I've recently had my first ever one night stand after after breaking my virginity at 14 (young I know) and alot of short lived relationships with sex after a few weeks.
Just wrote my list and was surprised that I've slept with 16 men! That seems alot for someone who hadn't had a one night stand until a few months ago!

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Midlifecrisisat30 · 04/08/2019 18:14

Finding this really interesting. It's interesting how varied the responses are! I dont think anyone should be ashamed of their number. In my original post I meant I was shocked at 16 because I'd not been having ONS so was surprised I've had 15 short lasted relationships. Longest relationship has been 2 years. I hated my ONS I did it purely because it was an experience I'd never had before and the guy was gorgeous but the sex was awful and I got bored and stopped midway 🤣
Thinking honestly about my sexual conquests I've also realised only about 5 of these men have been satisfying in bed 😬

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OMGshefoundmeout · 04/08/2019 18:14

7 between the ages of 18-25 when I got married. Just my husband since then. There were acouple of one night stands, not through my choice - I really liked both of them but it obviously wasn’t reciprocated.

OMGshefoundmeout · 04/08/2019 18:16

I’m shocked that although I know it’s 7 I’ve forgotten who one of them was.

Clammyclam · 04/08/2019 18:18

1

Met husband at 19

We've been together 16 years

TheInvestigator · 04/08/2019 18:18

About 30. Some of them I remember like "guy with the cookie monster T-Shirt" or "guy in that whisky bar". All before I was 21. Then I settled down, had kids and split with ex. Havnt slept with anyone since then.

BuzzShitbagBobbly · 04/08/2019 18:18

Don't actually know.

Slept with 2 people before uni, then went on a bit of a bender.

Maybe 8-10 in the decades since leaving uni.

Easilyflattered · 04/08/2019 18:20

Of the five I've slept with, I've enjoyed them all! All were nice guys. So actually sometimes I wish I'd sampled more if I'm entirely honest.

But I'm married now and won't. And maybe if I'd slept with some idiots I'd have a more jaded view.

Jsmith99 · 04/08/2019 18:20

No idea.

When I was young, free and single I was free and single. I couldn’t possibly remember every random drunken shag of my student days.

MidsomerBurgers · 04/08/2019 18:20

DH is number 5. Been together 25 years.

FlamedToACrisp · 04/08/2019 18:23

16 - but only 3 in the last 35 years.

sheshootssheimplores · 04/08/2019 18:25

About 7 and I’m 44

Anotherusefulname · 04/08/2019 18:28
  1. I am embarrassed to say. I wish it was one. 1 was a man in his twenties who promised he would marry me - I was 15.
The second is my husband who I met at 17 and married at 18 wasn't going to let that happen again. We have been together nearly 20 years. I still regret number 1.
icebearforpresident · 04/08/2019 18:28

Just 1, I lost my virginity to my now husband. I don’t feel like i’ve missed out on anything but do wonder what it would have been like to have sex with someone else. No complaints though, we’re pretty adventurous.

TowerRingInferno · 04/08/2019 18:29

4

womblessofwimbledon · 04/08/2019 18:30

I'm 40. Lost virginity at 17
Have had 3 sexual partners.
Would like to have had more.

Asta19 · 04/08/2019 18:31

About 150, I stopped counting long ago. But that is over a 35 year period, so not as horrific as it sounds! I don't regret it, what would be the point? I've never cheated on anyone, just not had many relationships that went above a few months.

JustLooking2019 · 04/08/2019 18:33
Lost virginity at 16, am now 35. One FwB, one ONS, three relationships
tierraJ · 04/08/2019 18:37

Not going to give a number but I lost my virginity quite late then had lots of short term relationships, & one affair with a married man who was the only man I actually fell in love with.

It wasn't supposed to be that way!!

Sleephead1 · 04/08/2019 18:38

15ish I would say between 16 and 19 met my husband at 19. I would say at least half where one night stands a few were friends / or people I knew and slept with a few times the rest boyfriend's. I can't really remember everyone as didn't know the one night stands but I think it's about that number

derekmorgan · 04/08/2019 18:42

I lost my virginity at 14 and have slept with 7 people. Kind of wish there had been more to be honest! Grin

Blankspace4 · 04/08/2019 18:46

Somewhere between 20 and 25 which is more than I would like, including some I regret.

swissmilk · 04/08/2019 18:48

I'm curious for those who have slept with more than 10 people can you remember them all? and for everyone, what percentage of the shags were any good?

swissmilk · 04/08/2019 18:49

I've only slept with 4, remember them all, and only 1 of the 4 were good in bed

PotteringAlong · 04/08/2019 18:51
  1. Just DH
AnnonniMoose · 04/08/2019 18:55

Six - this includes my first sexual experience when I was 21, and it was date rape. One FWB. One DH and one LTR with the father of my children. The others were short term relationships. Never had a ONS. I'm 48.

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