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All this "be Kind" when I know they are not kind themselves

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dogmothertoanother Tue 18-Feb-20 14:42:16

I'm feel the hypocrisy flooding my Facebook and social media with all this be kind posts, frames and hashtags #bekind I know most of these people can be total thoughtless bitches and yes you may ask why I'm connected to them and that's a good question- Circumstances, school mums, work.

I don't need to be preached at to be a nice person. I try my best to speak positively to people and be inclusive, friendly and polite ( it's how I was brought up and how I bring up my DS too.)

I know the idea behind "be kind" is a from a good place, but do you think posting it on social media will change people?

LeekMunchingSheepShagger Tue 18-Feb-20 14:43:52

Oh I hear you op. Someone on my Facebook has posted memes with the be kind hashtag a lot over the last couple of days. She’s the biggest bitch I know.

sickandtiredofsick Tue 18-Feb-20 14:44:28

No and I totally get what you mean
It’s just attention seeking 99% of the time and these are people who only care about their image

Patchworksack Tue 18-Feb-20 14:44:31

Virtue signalling. Mostly from the same people who love the bitchy s'leb magazines and papers.

JJPC Tue 18-Feb-20 14:47:13

Completely agree.

My Facebook is full of this let’s polish each other’s crowns nonsense. The first line is if I’ve not chosen you don’t be disappointed, I picked people who I thought would make this fun.

Can they not see the irony?

funinthesun19 Tue 18-Feb-20 14:49:40

Exactly! My ex’s exw said some shitty things to me when we were together and now it’s all “be kind” and
“if you have nothing nice to say then say nothing at all” grin Oh the irony of that one!

ActualHornist Tue 18-Feb-20 14:50:13

What is this from?

I’ll be kind if the situation warrants it. I don’t need to be told to be kind - or if I do, it’s because I’ve actually said something mean (unlike someone on another thread who seems to believe that disagreement is unkind and therefore shouldn’t happen).

Member984815 Tue 18-Feb-20 14:51:46

I totally agree , it's all over my Facebook , I don't need to be told to be kind

SueGeneris Tue 18-Feb-20 14:51:59

I’ve seen loads of this and totally agree. Especially the post a photo of you so all your friends can gush about how beautiful you are. Isn’t the point we’re meant to go into life doing our best to be good to our friends, not seeking validation on sm, which surely is part of the problem?

Toria70 Tue 18-Feb-20 14:52:55

Virtue signalling.

And all posted on social media whilst complaining that social media drove someone to their death. Without seeing any irony.

My fingers are itching to comment but I'm refraining................

Lottapianos Tue 18-Feb-20 14:53:02

It's just the latest thoughtless, trite, infantile little soundbite that's doing the rounds. A way for empty headed people to feel smug. Nothing more. Life is way more complicated than can ever be summed up in a cute little hashtag

I’ll be kind if the situation warrants it'

Spot on. 'Be kind' is what you say to children who aren't capable of understanding a more complex argument.

kelper Tue 18-Feb-20 14:53:55

I've seen this loads. I'm struggling at the moment and the last person Id want to speak to are the ones posting this Be Kind stuff.
I think I need to step away from it all.....

ALemonyPea Tue 18-Feb-20 14:54:27

There is also the crown yourself and 50 beautiful women one doh g the rounds. I won't be joining in with either of them, it's not a bus I want to all of a sudden jump on to show I'm in the popular girls group.

My friends know I'm there for them

EuroMillionsWinner Tue 18-Feb-20 14:54:50


knightlight Tue 18-Feb-20 14:56:49

Yep I saw this today on a woman's profile who was completely horrible to me last year. I thought about writing "were you being kind when you were cheating on your husband the first two years you were together"?

I should just delete her but I'm waiting for the right amount of time so as not to seem petty 🙄

Sparklingplasters Tue 18-Feb-20 14:58:17

I hear you, I’m ignoring this trite and focusing on my friends, some of whom are really struggling

Binterested Tue 18-Feb-20 14:59:17

Totally agree. I’m in New York at the moment and all the ads are “Love life, be kind, drink Starbucks’ sort of thing. It’s nauseating. Especially when these massive corporates are not in the least bit kind.

On another note our hotel delivered us a letter to our room saying “We are delighted to announce that the spa is currently being renovated for your enjoyment” meaning “We are delighted to announce that we think you are too stupid to notice that it’s actually a negative for you that the spa is being renovated because in fact you won’t be able to use it and won’t be able to use it for several months but hey, sparkles and rainbows. Be kind !”

DrSeuss Tue 18-Feb-20 15:01:48

If you need to be reminded to be kind, you are the problem.

Francina670 Tue 18-Feb-20 15:01:49

Caroline herself wasn’t being particularly kind when she whacked her sleeping boyfriend over the head with a lamp

RightOnTheEdge Tue 18-Feb-20 15:01:53

I've had a rant to my Mum about this today!
My Facebook is flooded with it! They will all have forgotten about it next week and be back to bitching and gossiping like normal.

I don't need to be told to be kind. I always try to be but being constantly told to be kind is making me feel very grump and unkind angry

Anybody who is not a very nice person and who doesn't treat other people with kindness normally is not going to suddenly see the error of their ways and turn over a new leaf because Janice changed her profile frame to Be Kind! Urgh!

MrsTerryPratchett Tue 18-Feb-20 15:02:25

IME there are three types of people that post it:

1. Struggling with their mental health and need support.
2. Virtue signally arseholes.
3. People who want you to be kind to them with no intention of being kind themselves.

May I suggest blocking persons 2 and 3?

Tara336 Tue 18-Feb-20 15:02:44

People are oblivious to their own hypocrisy I’ve seen posts before now saying how lovely an old school friend was and how sad they had passed so young, yet this same personality n bullied them mercilessly at school. These same people are posting be nice memes on their Facebook now

RightOnTheEdge Tue 18-Feb-20 15:03:36

I think I might have to throw my phone down the toilet or something to stop myself writing on social media for a while grin

Freddiefox Tue 18-Feb-20 15:04:28

All my kind friends haven’t posted it, it’s the unkind ones who are - Might make them think twice next time

megletthesecond Tue 18-Feb-20 15:06:12

Yanbu. Superficial nonsense.

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