All this "be Kind" when I know they are not kind themselves

[dogmothertoanother]

I'm feel the hypocrisy flooding my Facebook and social media with all this be kind posts, frames and hashtags #bekind I know most of these people can be total thoughtless bitches and yes you may ask why I'm connected to them and that's a good question- Circumstances, school mums, work.

I don't need to be preached at to be a nice person. I try my best to speak positively to people and be inclusive, friendly and polite ( it's how I was brought up and how I bring up my DS too.)

I know the idea behind "be kind" is a from a good place, but do you think posting it on social media will change people?

Well I don’t know if it’s Brexit, the rain or corovirus. It I’ve just been to the shops and been bumped, shoved, banged with baskets and elbowed. Is there civility rationing on?

Been discussing this today, totally agree. I've been tagged numerous times in that crown thing but ignoring - anyone who knows me well already knows I'm the biggest cheerleader anyway for my fellow women! And again, anyone who knows me knows that kindness is one of my default settings, and that I'm there for my friends day or night if they need me.

My advice, just scroll past and ignore!

I said this to my friend about a particular ex work colleague who bullied me, was horrible when I was depressed and tried to stop people talking to me, she even tried to claim the nicest person I know bullied her which was completely untrue. She has done nothing but post things about been kind, support mental illness etc
It actually makes me furious to see it!

Yeah, especially the ones who are bitchy post shit like this, though a handful have been from genuine people.

Totally agree, dp and I were commenting on the irony of the people posting this earlier. You shouldn't have to remind anyone to be kind.

And that one where you're choosing the "most fun" people- ouch

Yes, it’s puke-making, all this sickly-pious, look-at-me, kindness-signalling.

I notice Russel Brand bravely came out of his retirement from fame to do a bit of lecturing today.

Funny how all these people can’t just express their thoughts to their nearest and dearest. Always have to get online and tell the world.

Yep, I'm sick of it. I am kind. I didn't "slag" Caroline Flack or anyone else on social media. I have also posted to object to the posts where they talk about "we" need to be kinder... more thoughtful... whatever. Speak for yourself.

Is there civility rationing on?

I reckon. I was on a thread earlier where somebody was asking for some simple parenting tips and It was like a cunty-person dog-whistle went off somewhere. Some people were being unnecessarily horrendous. Maybe there's a full moon coming up or something.

Anyway, I'd bet they are the same people spamming social media with the whole 'be kind' trend.

@Plsnomorepeppapig

Ah thank god I found this thread. Was beginning to think I was the only one thinking this. Am relieved.

Yes to the sentiment and a big yes to your user name

I do have been feeling this, I get the good intention behind it but some of the people posting are not going to practice what they preach.

Focusing on not being "unkind" and not engaging in/reading gossip would be more useful.

A friend share an article on how to best support someone who feel suicidal which was far more helpful!

Being "kind" is not a fix all when it comes to mental health and actually a lot of pressure to put on people when the definitions of kindness are blurred.

Completely agree.
The people I know who have posted that tend to be vile in real life and a more exaggerated variation of that in social media.

In a way its good you feel upset by this hypocrisy it shows you aren't a part of it. the people who are doing it haven't the wit or the self awareness to see themselves for who they are. That's their shame not yours. Be decent and do the right thing wherever you can, that's a lot harder than simpering about kindness. Doing the right thing isn't always kind and it's more than an empty platitude. If people want to post from behind their puppy dog noses and filtered faces about being kind. Let them. That's not the real world, it's not their reality either. If you can sleep straight in your bed at night just try to ignore the careless spite, it means so little to them they don't even know they've done it. Don't carry it with you.

It’s a load of trending bs

I always say treat me how you'd like to be treated back . Ie if your a complete bitch to me you'll get the same back .
Yes be kind but don't think you can speak to someone like shit and I don't react .

I totally get this. Friends who ARE actually kind, are just, well, kind. They don't need to post a fucking meme on fake book/ instagrim. The other day one of these meme friends sent me a msg asking how I am, do I need a shoulder to cry on. I thought, wow that's so kind and thoughtful. Nope. She's writing a book. Clearly needs cannon fodder for it.

Sarahlou
That’s a pretty sad take on what is being discussed. People are saying their bullies and people, who've been blatantly nasty are virtue signalling Be Kind. The mother I discussed is not attentive to her youngest., who is clearly the scapegoat. I had to inform the school about the child’s very worrying behaviour. Yet the mother is a mlm hun. Sure I judge her.

Instead of 'be kind' it should be 'just don't be a dick about other people....'

I agree. The person I know who posts a lot of stuff like this was a horrible bully at DD's school. One girl left because of her, and her bullying caused a downward spiral of depression, self harming and borderline eating disorder in my daughter.

Yep, I'm sick of it. I am kind. I didn't "slag" Caroline Flack or anyone else on social media. I have also posted to object to the posts where they talk about "we" need to be kinder... more thoughtful... whatever. Speak for yourself

I am so with you on this. I’m not even on twitter or Instagram so I’ve never slagged off a celebrity on SM! Stop fcking telling me to do something I’m already doing! I do voluntary work in the community for mental health charities (not a humble brag but it relates to my point), I dont need to be told to “be kind” by some arse on FB who does absolutely nothing for their community and is a bully in real life. It’s utter BS

Just seen Philip schofield has jumped on the be kind bandwagon?
Give me strength

I totally agree with you @dogmothertoanother

Don't do nice. Do what's right.

Granny weatherwax has the best attitude regarding this.

They’re all at it on their Instagram pages. Who are they directing it to? Their followers? They think their followers are unkind people who need lecturing? No, these people just need to weigh into everything for publicity and profile. The sound of their own voices.

Most people are dickheads.

Yes I agree PlomBear