All this "be Kind" when I know they are not kind themselves

[dogmothertoanother]

I'm feel the hypocrisy flooding my Facebook and social media with all this be kind posts, frames and hashtags #bekind I know most of these people can be total thoughtless bitches and yes you may ask why I'm connected to them and that's a good question- Circumstances, school mums, work.

I don't need to be preached at to be a nice person. I try my best to speak positively to people and be inclusive, friendly and polite ( it's how I was brought up and how I bring up my DS too.)

I know the idea behind "be kind" is a from a good place, but do you think posting it on social media will change people?

OP you should’ve enabled voting, you’d be getting 100% agreement. Yeah fuck off with your virtue-signalling “Be Kind” Facebook bitches!

The rudest, most thoughtless people I know like to go on about how they were brought up to be respectful, kind, polite etc and how they are now bringing their kids up the same way.... It's hard to objectively look at yourself and see where you can improve if you're busy finding faults in others and if you think everyone else needs to change except you.

And I know for a fact that many of the people who are posting the "be kind" stuff on my FB feed are the same ones who read all the crap written about that poor woman and many others too. Bloody hypocrites.

One of the many reasons I left Facebook last year. Along with ‘if you don’t repost this message, then you don’t care about cancer/dementia/homelessness’ 😳

My second post on this thread but, another thing that irritates me is the 'Be kind and if you can't be kind be silent' meme.

I know so many people who are 'kind' but super passive aggressive. Everything bubbles below the surface, no one is honest about their feelings, they just expect you to fall in to line with their expectations.

I noticed an article being shared on fb last night about Katie Price, and how dirty her mansion is. The author seemed to take such spiteful pleasure in sharing these shameful secrets with the world. It happens all the time, in various forms. I saw another article, comparing how Kate M is portrated by the media, compared to MM.

Yesterday, I overheard someone I thought was a good bloke, telling another bloke to "get a life", when he was talking about a hobby he's into. Nearly every other sentence my mother utters, (and my aunt at times), is a criticism. When did society become so horrible, and malicious gossip so popular? Or has it always been this way? Is it any wonder people don't want to open up to others?

Just save the meme and repost it when they forget to be kind. Tag them in and remind them that they posted it originally. I do think we have to start picking people up when they're being mean or spiteful, if we want people to change their behaviour. Sharing a meme is too easy.

Agree with all pp's, it's knee jerk jumping on the virtue signalling bandwagon. There's no genuine thought or sentiment there. Just sheep do what everyone else is mentality.

Must be a guilty conscience for these people. It's the usual suspects I've seen posting the crown polishing and selfie posts recently

Sorry, but on the back of Kates case last week - and the judge's demand that she should 'be kind' - I'm not inclined to be any nicer than I usually am.

In fact I am more inclined to be more assertive and less 'keep quiet to keep the peace'.

I'm always kind, until I'm treated badly, then it's open season.

I am glad to have found this thread. My Instagram and Facebook feeds are the same. I found it baffling because the same people can be anything but kind in daily life. It irks me as well because it feels like another way to control behaviour - be kind, be good, make sure you put other people first. Alot of women I know would be better off if they were a little less kind.

I do my best to be a decent person, sometimes that involves being less than lovely in order to set a boundary for myself or support someone in my care.

That was my mum's mantra - never start anything but always finish it.

By the way I only name changed before posting as I didn't want the daily fail posting about me and my threads about post birth incontinence, my feral children and that I own a loo brush three of them

I'm curious as to why posters even have FB friends who have been horrible to them in the past? Surely you would delete them?

I've had two friends post that tagged be kind thing, I hate it too but to be fair they're both really nice, thoughtful people who are unfailingly kind so I'm just ignoring it.

“Be kind” always seems to be aimed at women who imo are already disproportionately “nice” and who care far too much about what strangers think of them.
It’s meaningless too. I’m not inclined to be kind to bullies, Gary Glitter or people who are arseholes.

I'm curious as to why posters even have FB friends who have been horrible to them in the past? Surely you would delete them?

Mine is a close relative so I cant delete them without WW3 kicking off. I wouldn't personally accept friends unless I like them, but I have only got a small number of people on there, not 300+

I'm sick of it too.

And I wouldn't mind but there is nothing kind about reality TV which is where CF made her fortune. Feel heart sorry for her and her family and friends but can't help but feel that it's all very ironic.

Fair enough Lego makes sense

My FB feed is drowning in “Be Kind” avatars at the moment. I hate it. I’m obviously not in favour of people being unkind, but the endless memes - always aimed at women - about kindness just make my teeth itch.

Do men tell each other to be kind. Do they share memes amongst themselves about kindness? So they hell.

And a relative of mine has been posting “be kind” memes for days, and has now posted about how kind her children are... except I know her son got into trouble for racism at school earlier this term so 🤦‍♀️

Yep - they're full of shit. Since I kicked out my abusive husband in June when he physically assaulted me and was then arrested, I've had about 5 people actually indicate they care. The rest couldn't give a fuck or use my life as gossip...it's total bollocks.

Also, it's not about us being nice to each other, it's about us being kind to OURSELVES!

Haworthia it is never aimed at men. It’s not only memes either but merchandise. I’ve seen clothing aimed at both women and girls and water bottles aimed at women with be kind on. Where did this shit come from?! Who invented it?! They can fuck off!!!
My DD’s school were doing “be kind”. I am trying to teach her to be appropriate. If someone is horrible then we avoid them thank you very much! It’s quite hard to teach girls not to be pleasers and rescuers when society conditions them to be so.

I e been tagged in something earlier to post a picture of myself in solidarity to CF and the be kind stance. I won’t be partaking. It’s just band wagon jumpers and the need to belong.

It’s quite hard to teach girls not to be pleasers and rescuers when society conditions them to be so.

Exactly @Siameasy. Although I’d be tempted to add “doormat” to the mix. Because the subtext of “kindness always” is so sinister - be quiet, don’t speak up, don’t rock the boat...

Decent people don’t need to be told to “be kind”. It’s like telling people “don’t steal” etc The people who I’ve seen posting this are the most horrid, nasty, gossipy and critical people in real life. It’s just virtue signalling. Posting a be kind meme actually takes much less effort than actually..... being kind to people. I’m sorry but it’s BS. The kindest people I know are t doing it because they’ve been told by Facebook to do it. They just are kind, it’s in their nature.