All this "be Kind" when I know they are not kind themselves

[dogmothertoanother]

I'm feel the hypocrisy flooding my Facebook and social media with all this be kind posts, frames and hashtags #bekind I know most of these people can be total thoughtless bitches and yes you may ask why I'm connected to them and that's a good question- Circumstances, school mums, work.

I don't need to be preached at to be a nice person. I try my best to speak positively to people and be inclusive, friendly and polite ( it's how I was brought up and how I bring up my DS too.)

I know the idea behind "be kind" is a from a good place, but do you think posting it on social media will change people?

‘Don’t be unkind’ would be more reasonable. Women are often expected to ‘be kind’ rather than stand by what’s important to them.

I don’t go onto fb much. I have because I’m away and following my doggies. Ive noticed the be kind from people, I wouldn’t think of as kind. Virtue signalling from the mlm bots for example. One particularly woman made my eyeballs roll out of my head. A pouty be nice. 🤢 Does she have any concept of how ridiculous she looks? Instead of getting her head out of her arse to deal with her dds poor mental health, she is selling shit online and pressuring people to buy / sign up.

What does being kind actually mean? Sometimes the answer is simple but often it isn't. We've all known cases where we or others have had to be cruel to be kind. Sometimes being kind to one person is unkind to another.

How often is 'be kind' used to tell people (often women!) to stop doing or saying things that someone doesn't like regardless of how truthful or valuable that thing is.

Not a very kind attitude is it? I don't see anything wrong with it. People are feeling shocked and reflective and it's a reminder to themselves as well as others.

Couldn't agree more. Some of the nastiest people I know have been sharing this.

Yep I feel the same OP. I have even seen Caroline's ex Andrew Brady gushing about her on instagram yesterday, saying he'll love her forever, when he was quick enough to slate her when she was arrested. He shared a lot of private information which flamed the press up even more.

Agreed.

I'm not a particularly fluffy, lovely person. I'm quite grumpy, opinionated and love a good swearing cunty rant.

I also work incredibly hard to improve working conditions for my staff, provide support to my friends, barely post on social media and don't watch any of those awful reality shows where the main agenda is to throw vulnerable, talentless people to the wolves of public opinion.

I'm perfectly happy with being that person.

Totally agree with you op.

Agreed. Makes me annoyed, this girl who bullied me at school to the point where I ended up in hostipal from the stress of it all is posting #bekind like I just want to comment have you forgotten how you behaved for 5 years solid when we was growing up? 🤦🏻‍♀️ Also seen some of the school mums posting it, yet they’ll happily bitch and gossip about their friends behind their back. Hypocrisy at its finest!

Huns innit.

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Oh this really winds me up. People who are absolute horrors to each other (and to us) posting about kindness and tolerance! They really can't see the irony. As if being kind to people online means that you can be a bitch in real life and get away with it?
And another one that is doing the rounds is "will two of my friends share this (post about "suicide prevention") to show that someone is always listening?"
At least three of the people I've seen post the above in the past day or so, are members of my DH's family who didn't give a toss when he was having suicidal thoughts and had to give up his job due to severe depression and PTSD. It's been 6 years now and I could count on one hand the number of times he's had a text or call asking how he is. Shows how much they care. Hypocrites the lot of them!

Makes me laugh when I see posts on Facebook, someone I know is always saying be nice don't spread hate and slagged off others when they said they felt for Phillip Schofields wife after he came out, yet she shares things that are fat shaming and memes that are just digusting

one of the reasons I am no longer on FB - been off it almost a month as it is just full of self-indulgent idiots. I'll be kind when the situation warrants it and do plenty for people who need kindness. This tripe is not going to change already unkind people though they are usually the ones posting such rubbish, usually for attention.

'Be kind' is what you say to children who aren't capable of understanding a more complex argument.

Absolutely spot on!

it's also like those who are terrible to others but go to church on a sunday so think that absolves them (like my ex-MIL).

Ah thank god I found this thread. Was beginning to think I was the only one thinking this. Am relieved.

I've been laughing at this. In the last month someone I know has verbally assaulted the grieving daughter of a man who died and turned the friends of mentally ill woman against them went on a night out with them solely so she could make sure she saw it all on Facebook. (( Her words ))

But yeah. She's there spouting be kind shite

And this is why I have come off of Facebook - well actually I haven't, I've just unfriended EVERYONE and left myself a FB account for the glorious pictures of greyhounds that adorn my feed now - win-win.

But FWIW no, yanbu. I hate the fakeness of it all (which I'm aware isn't actually a word).

Some of the people on social media posting, ‘Be Kind’ are such bitches themselves!

Ooh, I do like this thread. Some great comments!

I’ve done an awful lot of eye rolling since the news broke of Caroline’s death. People (who didn’t know her or have any connection to her whatsoever) on my Instagram posting all sorts of BeKind messages.

It feels so benign. A bit like when you post thoughts and prayers when there has been a natural disaster.

Only one person I know posted this. To say that her behaviour of late has been unkind, is an understatement.
She has created a persona of sunny, personable lovliness with bluebirds twittering round her head and the sun coming out wherever she appears. In reality she is colder than last weeks beans. Has no personal insight and runs at the first sign of anything difficult. DH's family in crisis for 6 months now and there has been barely a peep out of her and BIL. Its all been on DH's plate.
I got deeply annoyed but thought rather than try and put up with anymore of her shite, I have unfollowed her.
Fuck the pair of them actually. Relationships take effort on both sides and if she is this shallow, I cant really be arsed.
She's done me a favour really. One less stream of toss that I don't have to look at anymore.

I'm about to now traipse off to my FB to see who has posted it. In fact, we could have a contest for the best sanctimonious posters/pictures/ads doing the rounds on FB (or would that be unkind?).