Hi all. I've got an 18mo DD who is just, a firecracker. She's always called a happy baby by everyone, and she is, but she's also absolutely savage and insane. Everything is a delight and a game and a reason to get overexcited.

Sometimes she gets handsy, other times she throws toys or pulls hair. With us, we don't mind so much but nursery have now put her on a behaviour plan! I never heard of such a thing.

When she started to be like this around 12-14mo we used to firmly tell her not to, remove her from the situation or toy or person, but not over labour the point so as not to give her attention over it. She loves the attention. We also got given a sticker chart and a set of laminated cards with red stop signs or happy or sad faces etc to help her identify her feelings or to know when to stop.

I know all toddlers can get this way but my older DD who's now 6 was never this bad. She's now on a behaviour plan where the nursery tries to track any triggers or particular people but they're not spotting any pattern. They ring us almost daily now with something she's done, and mostly she's not hurting other kids though there have been a couple of occasions of pushing or pulling. She knows how to say sorry and does it well, so understands the concepts of no or kind hands. But the thing is, for her, it's never a tantrum or upset or malicious behaviour it's the opposite- she's just happy and overexcited and misplaces the energy. She doesn't realise when she could hurt someone, she just has this thrilled look in her eye like it's all play.

At this point I genuinely feel like my little happy girl might be the first ever baby to get expelled from a nursery! I half feel indignant because, why are the nursery staff ringing me to check if I've been using the sticker chart properly when I'm at work... she's literally a 1 year old baby who can't speak yet. She's just about starting to pick up single words now. On the other hand, I know she's more demanding than my first and handsy and I'm starting to feel like a bad mum. But I literally don't know what else I can do? If I tell her off even more she just wiggles away or gets happier from the attention and eye contact. She's kind of feral but we love it and think it's just her baby nature and will grow out of it. But is there something I'm missing? Could we be trying something else? Any advice much appreciated! At this daily rate I'm sure they're going to tell us they can't handle her and we need to leave soon!

There are about 2 places in our house where we all get an overwhelming smell of weed! It's just bizarre. Downstairs hallway and toilet. It is definitely not cannabis and it's not neighbours either - terraced house but our neighbours are in their 70s and def not smokers.

Is there anything else that smells like weed that we should be exploring? Under floorboards etc. Thanks

My husband has been acting strange/secretive with his phone for a couple of weeks now so I took it on myself to look at his phone. Yes I know it’s morally dodgy but we have each others log ins and I looked at it whilst he was feeding DS dinner (it was charging upstairs).

There is a woman who is obviously a co-worker. I only had time to look at messages from the past two days. He was in the office today. He messaged her to say please walk past my desk again so I can look at your arse. She said she’d be back up in an hour and she will walk slowly this time. He then messaged again (after about an hour) to say that was the highlight of his afternoon to which she replied she knew her trousers would get attention today and sent a peach symbol. That was the last message.

I confronted him straight away and he stormed off and hasn’t come home yet. Said how dare I look at his phone. I have tried to call him and he just declined the call. He sent a text to say I’ve betrayed his trust and he can’t believe I did that instead of speaking to him.

Am I wrong to have done this, I think that if you know something is up then it’s within your right to investigate?

Lisa Nandy ran for leadership of Labour against Starmer (I voted for her). So how come Wes Streeting is being talked about and pushed forward, but Lisa isn't?

YABU - no one's heard of her
YANBU - this is weird and sucks, especially for a party who is yet to have a woman leader and has been bested by the EDI loving Conservatives on this repeatedly!

I am desperate to find a pinky nude matte-ish lipstick similar to the ones Lucy Punch wears in Amandaland. I’m quite pale and find Pillow Talk comes out REALLY orange on me.

Does anyone have any ideas?

I’ve started looking for a wedding dress - not booked yet but very, very low key next year - 2nd marriage for us both and likely a family meal and night in a hotel for us.

I’m 45, 5ft6, hourglass size 14, grey hair and olive skin/brown eyes. Suit bodycon (appreciate not in fashion rn!), midi or maxi length and like structured, modern looks. Ideally sleeves or shoulders covered, though could add a caplet or similar if sleeveless.

I found this Roland Mouret which is a bargain, and assume I would need to size up to a 16?

Or if anyone has other dresses/designers to suggest -
My budget is around 1k (my dream would be this 5k Vivienne Westwood or this). The only other I have liked online is this (bit ott)

There's a school Mum that I've known for a few years. She's recently been acting strange around me. I suspect I know why and I'll explain shortly. I've also noticed that the other mums who are close with her have also being acting strange with me. They are giving off 'mean girl' vibes and it has me pondering what on earth has been said to them.

We all see eachother a lot due to clubs, parties, school runs etc. I'm happy to say a pleasant hi/bye, keep it simple and will continue to do so.

They have all been incredibly hostile for a while. I've ignored it and focused on my own happenings as I have too many real problems in my life to give this too much head space however, they are really rude and it's getting a bit weird.

I suspect this behaviour has stemmed from me missing the 'main culprits' childs' party. Of course it wasn't a great thing to do. I mixed up my days thinking the party was on a Sunday when it was actually the Saturday. I seen the bday Mum make a fb post, on the Sat and realised my mistake. I instantly messaged the Mum to apologise. Bday Mum didn't respond.

In my defence, I had 5 different kids parties that month, including my own child's to organise. I was 4 weeks into a new career and up to my eyeballs with training. I have a demyelinating chronic disease that flared up and hospitalised me for 2 days that same week requiring some invasive treatment and my head was all over the place trying to juggle everything. A mixed up in days was an honest mistake given the stress I was under.

I then noticed I was deleted on fb by bday Mum and a few others. Fine, we weren't that close so it's understandable. They also left some joint WhatsApp groups.

Then came the more hostile behaviour from bday Mum. 'Growling' acting 'standoffish' going to weird lengths to avoid contact and interactions. The other parents in her circle started behaving the same way towards me.

It's all a bit bizarre really and I won't be acting on it because I'ts all very batshit and have real life problems to deal with.

But aibu to find this all very childish and unnecessary? I really can't understand why grown woman would feel the need to act like this, especially the ones I don't really know and are following what the bday Mum had told them.

She's brilliant, I've always thought so but she is getting better all the time. Doing this really suits her.

Full speech from yesterday:

https://x.com/i/status/2054588111317811649

I've seen lots of positive comments online and I agree with them. She said what needed to be said (although I do disagree with her on the trail hunting issue), and the govt really had no comeback.

She also looks fantastic and I bet she's great fun at parties 🥳

I only wish her time had come a bit sooner, when the Conservative party still had a chance. I think they'd have been far better under her than Boris, or any of the others.

However she's doing a great job of holding Labour to account right now.

I recently got Invisalign and am now paying off the 5k debt! I am really happy with my teeth. I hated them before I and I do feel more confident.

However, they were done pretty quickly as my dentist told me to start changing them every week and I had no refinements at the end. although I am happy as they are so much better then before, I just don’t know if they were completely finished or could have done with some more time.

ive had wires put on top and bottom so I can’t go back to my trays. I am in the process of whitening which will make them look better and I am considering composite but I can’t justify more money on them right now.

they do feel inline, maybe a couple teeth are millimetres out, but they just look a bit messy still? Or am I being anal!? It’s just a lot of money when they aren’t perfect.

thanks for reading!

I always wonder. And reading a recent thread prompted me to ask the question. Why do people do it by choice? People complain about the house prices (rightly), ulez, nursery fees, cost of everything being more expensive, commutes, tubes etc.

if you’re not absolutely tied to London for work or health or I guess family. Why do you choose to live there when there are so many cheaper easier lifestyle options in the country?

As the title says. It’s sitting in my fridge and I’m too scared to start it.

need to shift about 2-2.5 stone, it’s gradually built up after each pregnancy and now I’m coming up to perimenopause it’s starting to pile on.

I only plan to be on it for about 6 months and then to carry on doing calorie counting after once a chunk of the weight has shifted

utterly fed up of feeling big frumpy and uncomfy in everything I wear, so it’s something I really want. But I’m so scared

i I have health anxiety as it is, and I’m so scared of side effects, becoming poorly and not being able to look after the kids!

can anyone give me the push!

Does anyone owns these who also owns Tevas and rates both? I absolutely love my Tevas and recommend them constantly but I really want a gold pair of sandals but they must be comfortable. I feel Fitflop might fit the bill and like the look of the Gracie's.

In short: Can someone please recommend iron supplements that are VERY gentle on the stomach? Or has someone paid for an iron infusion privately somewhere in London?

I'm horribly exhausted (not the sort cured by a good night sleep) and in a lot of pain (PGP, back, hips) since I had my daughter TWO YEARS AGO. I've had blood tests, MRI, X-ray etc recently because of how much agony I am in. Absolutely everything is fine except "slightly" low iron (ferritin of 12) and some inflammation in my pelvis.

GP told me to take iron supplements. I've spent ££ on various ones and they leave me so sick, I actually had to call in sick at work once, which is very unlike me.

I do have a very sensitive stomach after a series of food poisonings and then ulcer in my early 20s.

So I gave up on the iron supplements. But my new physio (I have a new physio helping with my PGP who is brilliant) told me today that low iron can contribute to inflammation and could be part of why my PGP is so bad.

I'm close to a breakdown, I'm so tired. I already know the basics about avoiding dairy and caffeine with iron, eating lots of meat, take iron with vitamin C etc.

Posting in AIBU for traffic as I'm desperate and close to quiting my job, I'm so tired.

I would like to take my daughter to Africa on holiday. For context, I am Black British and my husband is white. He does not like long-haul flights and is refusing to agree to the trip. His view is that because I visited South Africa four years ago, there is no need for us to travel to Africa again, and that we should choose a closer destination such as Europe instead.
My daughter, who is of mixed African heritage, has never been to Africa and is devastated that she is not being allowed to go.

My husband is threatening to divorce me, should I go ahead and book the holiday?

So my partner of about 6 months - his son is getting married in about a months time but he told me I’m not invited. Im thinking it’s because we are only “new” ? I mean it hasn’t really bothered me but he wants me to go with him to pick out a new suit and I’m hearing about it nearly every day obviously my partner is excited and I was thinking it would be nice to get dressed up and be included- even if they didn’t want me in family photos which I would understand of course. Is this normal - not to be invited.

A friend is getting married in NYC later this year. The dress code is black tie. The venue has not been disclosed and will not be disclosed until the day of the event to avoid media attention as they are within the celebrity sphere (I know them through family and am very much not from this world)
Any advice on something suitably glamorous given there may be a few A listers present and I don’t want to look out of place? I’m 5’7, size 8-10. Budget not really an issue

when did you have people visit you after birth?

I live at the opposite end of the UK to half my family and on a different continent to the other half. All very keen to see the new baby and want to be here a week.

Having a c section. Did you have guests at the hospital? Or did you want none for the first week?

AIBU.... to be pissed off and feeling like my Childminder is gossiping about my DC?

So youngest DS (7) can be a real handful at times..... it's not major stuff though but I am mindful and I'm keeping an eye on it etc...... anyway a couple of weeks back School rang to inform me of an incident in School dealt with and move on... Teacher mentioned on the call that he isn't naughty but she does have to remind him to sit down or to be quiet etc but in her words all very low level.... I don't do drop off or pick up and calls home are not frequent so when they do I always check in in general etc.... anyway, I know he has an ongoing love/hate friendship with a boy in his class who he has and probably still is best friends with.... this boy is just as bad if not worse than my DS except he is also very sly with it he is also small and acts the quiet one so can hide in plain sight.... my DS unfortunately is tall, he is also loud and bloody well opinionated at times 🙄however, said childs mum thinks the sun shines out of his arse quite frankly.... last week whilst with his afterschool childcare there has been an altercation on the park involving my DS, this boy, this boys other friend and 2 other youngsters on the park..... my DS has snapped and tripped him up and also swore which he has been punished for.... it was a small issue and dealt with. Anyway mum of other child has now decided she doesn't want her angel near my demon child, no issue with this tbh as I have seen much for myself and I'd be happy to keep them apart. Friday when with the same childminder he has apologised straight away as he also has to the child and the child's mum which I think is very brave for 7..... they have ignored him which is fine and my DS has played with other children really well without any issue.... however, said child wouldn't leave him alone and was continuously coming to my DS trying to get a reaction.... I am working on his reactions as he will take so much then snap but this child knows this and imo is doing it deliberately....his mother said nothing until my CM actually pulled her and said get that sorted it's not on.

I gave dropped my DS this morning at breakfast club and the care provider has said "are you ok? is XX ok, he isn't coping well at the minute is he?" I have asked what she means and find that she has been told about the park last week and the one incident in school....... I don't think this is a not coping issue just that there have been 2 issues but totally seperate.... turns out her brother has told her and she has sat discussing my child with him at weekend...... she also then said she was talking to his teacher last week about him and said how she was saying him and other child remind her of her son and his friend.... childminder & teacher are friends which I am aware of......... and I also know friends talk.... but I'm really pissed off that she has had the front to actually tell me and to act like she is caring but has discussed behind my back....... AIBU?

I’ve been seeing a man since February but I have known him for a few years. We both split from our ex partners around the same time (by genuine coincidence) over Christmas.
Everything has been going well, we’ve had lots of lovely dates together, spend what time we can together. He’s said he thinks I’m his “soulmate” which I thought was a bit forward but other than that he’s funny, caring and I thought we were happy.
We’d had a few drinks in a bar the other night and I posted a photo of us to social media . I don’t really post on mine that much or care about likes but for context it got around 70 likes and lots of “I hope this is what I think it is” “happy for you” type comments.
as soon as I posted it, he went very quiet and the atmosphere changed. He said he was worried it would upset his ex with it being so soon? (What about my ex, we have a DC together!) and he hates SM. He took me home in more or less silence and that was the end of what had been a good night. I don’t think he’s seeing the ex as I know his mum and I’ve seen she’s gone back to London where she was from.

what do you think?

A couple we know (our DC are friends). OurDC took part in a competition recently and afterwards we went to a restaurant for lunch / drinks. 4 adults and 4DC. My DH paid on the day and said let’s sort it out afterwards as there was a massive queue at the bar where you had to pay. The bill was £230. My DH forgot to text them bank details and they didn’t remember either. Nearly 2 weeks have gone by. Do you think it’s rude to send a text saying we just remembered and asking for their half? To add - they have expressed they are hard up at the moment!

If not rude / awkward then how would you phrase it?

Hi all, hope it's ok to start this here.

Thought it might be fun and stretch the old grey matter a bit.

I'll attach a shot of some opening lines and whoever guesses correctly post their own?

We could all just post pics but then we might lose track. I don't mind.

Let me know what you think (of the idea, and the opening lines here - hopefully started off with an easyish one but let me know if any clues are needed!)

If it's being done elsewhere please someone direct me 😊

Everybody knows that if you are in England (rest of UK?) that anybody can turn up at a church and can’t be turned away, from a wedding or baptism for example.

We know that this is a law from the Middle Ages.

But would you?

On any thread on here re: not being invited to wedding or particularly if children aren’t invited someone always suggests to just turn up at the church.

Would someone really do this?

Dear Style gurus, Can I ask what outfit you’d wear to a wedding please, country house hotel. I’m mid 50s.

my family are divided. I think the blue dress, my husband and daughter think the khaki one, the stripy skirt and top is no one’s favourite but liked by all.

I’m torn, and I’m not usually, simply as my family don’t like the blue one and I do. I suspect as it’s not my usual style..

I was a few days late submitting my Tax Return due to being in hospital last year and as result I was charged £100 late filing penalty.

AIBU to think that Angela Rayner should have to pay interest and penalties for underpayment of Stamp Duty. This makes me so fucking angry.

Help! 37 year old mum of 3 looking for cruise fashion advice.Does anyone want to take on a fashion case??
We have a cruise coming up and I have realised that most of my wardrobe is leggings, jeans and clothes that are more practical than stylish.

I am a size 12 to 14 with a bit of a mum tum and a medium bust that is not quite where it used to be! I want to buy just a few nice pieces rather than lots of cheap items. I am looking for clothes that are comfortable but still smart, flattering, and suitable for spring and summer. Nothing too revealing, but I do not want to look frumpy either.

I absolutely hate shopping in stores and find online shopping overwhelming. I have been looking on Facebook and Instagram for outfit inspiration, but I cannot seem to find anything that feels realistic for a normal 37 year old mum.
Can anyone recommend good quality high street shops that offer stylish clothes that last? I would love suggestions for cruise outfits, flattering styles for a tummy area, and comfortable but stylish shoes.

I am also looking at the UGG GoldenGlow Sandals as they look lightweight, supportive and practical while still being stylish.

Any recommendations, favourite shops, or holiday staples you swear by would be hugely appreciated.