So apparently I am a hateful bigot. Who knew?!

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This has been playing on my mind since it happened. In a pub on Thursday night just gone. Very old building - toilets not great. No separate mens/ladies. Go through one door and there are 3 cubicles for all. Everyone has to queue together in this very small space. Big queue - a 6 foot 4 ish man with a beard wearing a flowery blue dress and lipstick, who was stood behind me, suggested that we speed things up by "us girls" going in together. I refused. That led to a tirade of abuse including that I was a hateful old bigot and it was known that 'girls' always shared a loo. Obviously he told all his pals at the table he was sat at, and they loudly discussed my transphobia until I necked my drink and left. It has been bothering me ever since! Just sharing/venting more than anything.

That's terrible! I'm sorry you had to put up with that

Just embrace your inner bigot. 🤔

Glad you made it out without anyone attacking you.

He meant share a cubicle? Women don't do that (assuming he meant women not female children), unless with a young child they are accompanying.

just embrace your inner bigot

Oh, I do! It felt surreal, like my first actual experience of this kind of shit out in the wild.

Certainly not the fault of the venue but I have never felt safe in those toilets, although this was the first time anything has actually happened!

Yes, he meant share a cubicle. I have done that sometimes with close female pals/my sister (usually when drunk!). The idea of locking myself into a cubicle with a random man....no thank you!

I don't understand the point of sharing, there's only one loo so how is that quicker than waiting outside the cubicle?

Dd and I sometimes share but I certainly wouldn’t do this with anyone else I know

and certainly not with a random stranger!

Oh gosh .. my post was deleted!

I said “ I don’t believe that happened! “ meaning “Wow…unbelievable “ not that I don’t believe you !!

It isn't any quicker, as I said it's only something I tend to do with close pals when we are well into the drink. He just loudly announced it in the queue and I had to stand there and refuse.

Wtf how would that be quicker anyway?

Oh I was wondering what had been said! Haha!

It has never happened to me anywhere ever before. I have always said that the set-up of the toilets in this particular pub are dangerous, but nothing has ever occurred until this time. Usually, in fairness, most decent blokes stand by the door and lean against it so it stays open and you can then be seen by the people sat near the toilets.

It wouldn't but I can only guess he has decided that womanhood is pillow fights in your knickers and sharing toilet cubicles with your gal pals.

He was probably hoping you'd ask him for a tampon.

Ugh, don't!

There is a club in the nearest city to me that has two toilets in one cubicle in the ladies loo

How creepy! I’ve only shared a loo with my female children. I wouldn’t share a loo with a female random stranger yet alone a male stranger.

There is one of those in a pub in my town too!

charming!

No

deffo two toilets in the same cubicle

You think I am making it up? What a strange thing for me to fabricate. How boring my life must be!

Weird isn’t it

Weird isn’t it

I used to wonder who would choose to sit side by side with their mate and have a wee! Although maybe their conversation was just so exciting that it couldn't wait!

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