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A Plea to get rid of the AIBU section

195 replies

Pruni · 12/05/2007 20:11

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bumperlicious · 13/05/2007 14:20

That's fair enough Aitch, but really makes this thread into a different topic which I know has been mooted before which is Tech can we just select our favourite talk boards?

Despite that, I think it is interesting to see all the topics that are being discussed. I've learned a lot on her through sheer accident of reading titles. I'd have never have heard of things like BLW without seeing them in active convos. Nor would I have known that crocs were such a heinous fashion crime

AitchTwoOh · 13/05/2007 14:21

i didn't think you were, LL... i was just responding to you. but the thing about ignoring them would mean that you'd miss out on the better ones. but the better ones would be just as well in chat or relationships or something less black and white than aibu, to which the answer is only nyanbu or yabu, really.

foxinsocks · 13/05/2007 14:22

those ante natal threads are really the only threads where people post on them without posting on the rest of the board. And they periodically cause rows. They can be there (she says graciously ) but we could have a tick box to exclude them.

AitchTwoOh · 13/05/2007 14:24

i thought that existed already, does it not? i can't really be arsed doing it, i just want to click active convos and see who's talking where. but without clubs and buying and selling which take up a lot of room on the page.

foxybrown · 13/05/2007 14:24

If you remove the AIBU and A/P natal threads, everyone would have to go and find something else to complain about

littlelapin · 13/05/2007 14:24

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vimfuego · 13/05/2007 14:24

I love AIBU

It's my favourite section!

tigermoth · 13/05/2007 14:27

aitchtwooh, in answer to your question, I think any change in mumsnet (and yes, I did start a thread on this recently in relation to baby and toddler issues) is mainly down to what people post, the good manners, sense of humour of the individual posters. It is not governed by the names of the topics they choose.

'In the news' threads can also see lots of nasty comments at times. I don't think that is because the title is worded incorrectly.

WideWebWitch · 13/05/2007 14:30

lol at Mb's summing up.

I didn;t know enid had flounced, waht a shame. I've seen Wong today though.

AitchTwoOh · 13/05/2007 14:39

i broadly agree with you tigermoth but disagree on the subject of AIBU, i think it's a shite topic and encourages pointless ranting. the more interesting/amusing stuff will survive elsewhere.

MaloryTowers · 13/05/2007 14:40

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daisybump · 13/05/2007 14:45

I said this earlier, but a check box to exclude it would be the best way...like chat and buying/selling, and this could extend to AN/PN as well, but where do you draw the line.

As a side issue in response to foxinsox....not all ante-natal thread posters stick to their own corner (I don't and lots of my fellow ante-natal thread posters don't either...hi foxy, bumper ) and as far as I'm aware the rows only start when people from other areas of the boards butt in with their unwanted criticisms of thread titles.....(she says speaking from personal experience).....

daisybump · 13/05/2007 14:45

LOL Mallory Towers

DumbledoresGirl · 13/05/2007 14:45

I am going to claim smug git of the day award: not only do I dislike the AIBU threads but I have searched my messages and found out that I have never once posted on one!

Rantum · 13/05/2007 14:52

I am a total hypocrite as I have responded to AIBU threads in the past, but yes - get rid of them!!!!

UNREASONABLE 1. immoderate; excessive

  1. refusing to listen to reason 3. lacking reason or judgement.

FGS - we are all UNREASONABLE!!! Have you read MN?

ShinyHappyPeopleHoldingHands · 13/05/2007 14:53

Lots of sites have "Need to Rant" type forums allowing people to get things off their chests. How about don't read them if you don't want to be irritated by people's whinging?

Blandmum · 13/05/2007 14:55

as other people have said, though Shiny, the AIBU threads can take up a lot of 'active conversations. So they are kind of hard to miss.

A filter, like the one we have for buying and selling, might be a good compromise

AitchTwoOh · 13/05/2007 14:55

"butt in with unwanted criticism of thread titles", daisybump? are you joking?

ShinyHappyPeopleHoldingHands · 13/05/2007 14:56

I suppose so.

Poor MNHQ.. they only created it because of popular demand. We are such a needy bunch aren't we!

AitchTwoOh · 13/05/2007 14:57

did they, shiny? i remember thinking it was odd when they created it because there hadn't been any posts asking for it that i'd seen. were there some?

Blandmum · 13/05/2007 14:58

Are We being Unreasonable?

Yes (usually)

edam · 13/05/2007 14:58

Just get rid if it's irritating everyone so much, people are perfectly capable of wording their own thread titles to reflect the fact that they are grousing.

DumbledoresGirl · 13/05/2007 14:58

And while you are at it MNHQ, could you also do something about buying and selling? That and AIBU is turning MN into a low-grade market place.

ShinyHappyPeopleHoldingHands · 13/05/2007 14:58

Yes.. or at least.. MNHQ started a thread asking if we wanted one and LOADS of people said yes, so they did... I am sure I didn't dream this...

suzywong · 13/05/2007 15:00

why not retitle it
"Am I Premenstrual?"

agree, I would gladly do without the prenatal threads, as am wizened dried up old gimmer now.