A Plea to get rid of the AIBU section

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lol connie

whimsy...too much like mimsy !!

has enid really gone???

well fro a while

Connie?

I don't want to be able to exclude them from the threads I see, that's missing the point entirely. They are causing rows which then have a knock-on effect on the whole atmosphere of MN IMHO. Mb's analysis of the two categories is spot on.

'Someone spilled my drink, AIBU to want them flayed?'

'Someone looked at my child in an odd way in the supermarket, AIBU to want to set fire to them'

'My kids teacher didn't change their book today, AIBU to want to get them struck off the regester of teachers?'

'Someone phones during my fave prog, AIBU to go ex directory'

i don't want AIBU to exist At All, LL, it's not the same as my heartfelt desire to exclude post and ante-natals from my active convos. some of the AIBUs are fun, but as MB says would just as easily fit in Chat or Relationships or whatever so just get rid of the topic. there was a thread about someone being cross about being rung on the phone just as she was going out, for god's sake...

really aitch ! like the ringer is supposed to be a mindreader and know the ringee is going out !

i hope enid does come back

yah, worrabitch, lulu. imagine ringing your friend and expecting to speak to her...

god i know, selfish beatch!

Not bothered either way about the AIBU threads but I'm a bit narked about the suggestion to move the ante/post natal threads. It's a bit exclusionist isn't it? Where do you suggest they are moved to? You can't expect a MN board tailored to everyone's different preferences. Just don't read the one's you are not interested in.

I found that AIBU rather .

(Thread has probably moved on now - am replying to 13:50 ish post).

Have started one thread in AIBU though .

because there are loads of peeps on the ante natal, post natal who never go on the rest of the mumsnet boards. In fact, there have been isshooooos because they post willy nilly on their threads (forgetting other people might be reading them) and then get antsy when people not in their group post back on their thread.

I don't hate them, actually, though LOL@www's summing up. I think an exclude from active convos button is a good suggestion. But not just for AIBU - for lots of other topics too.

Becuase I can think of plenty of other topics that get a full share of 'trivial' discussions (for me) ie chat, style, crafts, recipe and TV threads. And all those threads, including AIBU can also attract interesting, funny discussions. Even if I don't find a thread interesting I can see that other people do (and that happens plenty of times). I don't do card making, camping or dinner party cooking but know they mean a lot to other people. So who's to say what is boring and trivial to everyone else here? And actually I have seen plenty of good discussions in the AIBU topic and often look there if I am doing a catch up.

And anyway I like triviality sometimes - doesn't everyone? Ignore what you don't like or start an 'interesting in your opinion' discussion in the AIBU topic. I have seem plenty of them.

Mumsnet talk is what you make it. It is NOT down to the structure of the discussion topic list (in my opinion).

I don't think the AIBU topic is a place for dull peple to hang out. So I certainly don't agree with you aitchtwooh when you say " what a lot of (dull) people seem to want is to be told that they are right to be feeling irritated/wounded etc"

In fact I find that sentiment a bit offensive.

Hmm, I've not found that. But anyway, what are you suggesting is done with them? And why draw the line there? Are you suggesting getting rid of all of the "club" type threads? Or splitting mumsnet up? Can't we just live and let live - skip over the threads we don't want to read, and if half of the thread aren't of interests just navigate to the talkboards that you do like.

perhaps you should start an AIBU thread about it then tigermoth? i stand by what i said, though, i think a lot of people look for validation on AIBU threads and then respond badly when they don't get it.

and bumperlicious, i'm not suggesting the ante and post threads should be moved, just that there be a tick box like the ones above for SN etc where i could not see them. i never read or post on them, so they often take up a lot of my 60 searched threads in active convos and i'd rather see the other ones that i might like to post on, that's all.

Exactly. Live and let live.

atichtwooh - why would I want to start the same thread twice - isn't that making the active convos less 'interesting'? (puzzled emoticon)?

oh for goodness sake, no-one is suggesting that people shouldn't be allowed to post asking for an MN jury or whatever... it's just that some people, myself included (and i think you too tigermoth if memory serves) have noted recently that this place has been more attritional lately and some (again, me included) think that this might be in part down to the existence of the AIBU topic. because things do seem to have got narkier since they were introduced, that's all.

hmm. I know what you mean, tigermoth. but also the existence of a topic which cries out for people to post about their petty prejudices is going to encourage people to post about them isn't it?

I think we should balance AIBU with a topic that encourages more positive posts. LIke MB's amusing whimsy topic, or a philosophy topic (yes, I know we have religion/spiritual stuff but that topic's a bit scarey)

whatever, tigermoth. tried to make a joke, you didn't get it, that's fine.

lol