Beautiful's Road to Recovery for the Recently Ditched

[BEAUTlFUL]

Dearly Be-Chucked, we are gathered here today because, for whatever reason, our man has dumped us!

Whether we were dating, cohabiting or married, we are now to use therapist-speak well effed-off about the whole business and are desperate to regain our fabulosity.

Well, this is the place! This is where we regain our positivity, our self-confidence and eventually our mojos. We might think at the moment that we'd also like to regain our men, but that might not last long, as we'll soon realise that anyone who could put us through this does not deserve us.

Come in and start regaining your brilliance! I will be setting us exercises to complete that are based vaguely on self-help books, beauy tips and Feng Shui, or we'll just have a right good bitch until we feel completely drained and sick of the sound of our ex's names. Whatever works.

Hi Caramela, will see what week brings with regards to painter but the plus side is whatever happens house will be fab. Think PPT is beyond all help, don't think even the sharp pencil would help there!

Fluffy already mentioned she was a nurse on a previous post I think, hense the going to work in new hospital this wk with the dishy Dr.

Had the same concerns re Beauty's NM being a lecturer type!!

What's the story with Bollock Face?? Is he trying to get back with you again?? I thought in your first post he had dumped you, is he now trying to get back with you?? Sorry for all the questions, just wondering if there is any possibility of you resolving this or is he really a bollock face??

Mutha, glad you've seen the light. No matter how desperate we become I think we'd be better off staying single than lumbering ourselves with men with problems/issues of that magnitude!!

Hi Dutchy, welcome to the fold. Seems to have been a w'end for cancelled dates!! I know what you mean about being pulled back in by x's. They know what buttons to push..It'll get better in time & you will get better at protecting yourself from being pulled back in. Deep breaths!!

Really quickly -- new Match man isn't a lecturer, he's a film maker! How sexy does that sound? Film maker. Cor!

But I bet he earns aout 20p a year and won't be able to keep me in the boots to which I'm accustomed. I have his phone number!! Will send him mine and see. Argh. Very nerve-wracking, speaking to unknown men on phone.

Phew on the new Match man not being a being lecturer. A film maker, eh ? That does sound very sexy - good luck with the phone call ( perhaps he makes very esoteric art house films and has contact with Christian Louboutin who'll send shedloads of free boots your way ).

Startingover, are you sitting comfortably ? God knows what Bollock Face is doing - when he finished with me in July ( due to a load of tumult caused by his ex's son, 17, getting distressed ), he broke off contact and got back in touch a couple of weeks later saying that I always had been and always would be the love of his life. So it was all going swimmingly until the end of October when out of the blue there was yet more trouble with his ex. He got really upset again, withdrew from me and then ended it.

I think a major problem is that to be with me he would have to move to the other end of the country and frankly, I don't think he has the balls to do it. He also, because of the distance between us, could easily go the rest of his life and never see me again. He reckons he's loved me for 20-odd years since we first met ( I would normally be tempted to believe that kind of statement was bullshit but for various reasons I think it's either the truth or at least what he believes ).

To be honest I don't know what to think anymore, I feel foolish that he's done the same to me again. I don't think he's about to ask for another chance but I can imagine that he's sitting around feeling very sorry for himself and wailing about how he loves me 'very,very much'.

So there you go, at least we've got no children together, we've never even lived together - so many of you have had such a dreadful time that I feel rather embarrassed about complaining.

Sorry, I have become a complete cynic, I am translating film maker to mean makes cheap porn flicks in some back street dive & that he's looking to recruit new blood!!

Caramela, Ah jaysus, that sounds awful being dumped around like that. Did you say you had been together 3 yrs?? Maybe you just need to step back for now (in the meantime getting on with your own life) & see if he grows those balls or not!! If you're really the love of his life, he'll step up to the plate.

Startingover, I toyed with making the porn film comment myself - we must both be cynics then. Beauty - don't let him suggest a screen test !

Thanks for your comments about BF, I am stepping back - although frankly it's killing me. I'm going to concentrate on the kids , meanwhile hoping some filthy sexmonger with a wicked sense of humour and a cunnilingus fixation turns up on my doorstep ( You listening, Santa ? )

Caramela, you just gave me a great laugh.....can I get one of those too Santa please!!

I had to do the same with xh. Unless they change you'll only keep getting the same old shit over & over again. Remember that when you're feeling the pain, if you took him back, you'd probably be dumped again next time there's any trouble from the ex! You'd just have to go through this all over again.

Tits out, onwards & upwards, & here's hoping Santa, or the Universe, or Some Devine Force will bring us the men we deserve!!!

I work in the x-ray department, usually next to A&E, I trained as a paeds nurse a few years ago. Cute doctor's are few and far between though.

Morning Dumplings

Sorry for delay reporting in been Christmas shopping most of weekend.

CLGS situation is good , turned up on time stayed over , made me laugh took me Xmas shoping and carried the bags, I know I must think positive but the cynic in me keeps thinking what's the catch?! I have got to start thinking woo hoo not blimey too good to be true!

Beautiful I am so sorry about your date being scared of a bit of bad weather good grief what a loser move on girlie find another victim worthy of you and your fab boots hey just think how great your boots will look on film

Startingover shy painter could be good especially if your ex was the complete opposite, anyway if he turns out to be a learning curve for dating again then go for it, you might be able to teach him a thing or two could be loads of fun trying anyway.

Caramela I have just dashed off a quick note to Santa for you re the filthy sexmonger think you need one to rid you of B*llock face twerp who was so not worthy of you.

Mutha no you are not being a cow totally agree with you why waste hours of your life tolerating somebody just because move on girlie, I have done the trying to date not quite right guys thing and they always remain just that not quite right

Fluffy he forgot?! tsk what a loser!!

Waves at Happy and Dutchy

On a less positive note 5 times cheating ex sent me another text over the weekend still wanting to meet me for lunch this week I am ignoring him but oh how I wish he just go away rather than messing with my head

Afternoon Dumpettes,

Perhaps if we're all very good Santa can get us a job lot of filthy sexmongers - he's had port and mince pies off me for a great many years now, it's about time he did something to earn it.

Loobie, CLGS just sounds better all the time - maybe there isn't a catch with him, enjoy a bit of fun for once, it sounds like you deserve it. Sorry you're still getting hassle from the ex, surely he'll get the message at some point.

Fluffy, at the risk of outing myself ( god forbid Bollock Face should find this thread, It'd be so obvious it was me ) - I'm a radiographer. You don't think it's the radiation repelling non-twazzocks do you ? You're not kidding about the lack of dishy doctors - I think there's some kind of screening protocol that only allows a small % of attractive, normal people into medical school.

Hello Startingover, Mutha, Beautiful, Happy and Dutchy

No news from the banker guy, said he would call when back in London, I am puzzled what happened, I could have met up with friends for Sunday lunch if he had bothered to text/call/email urgh so annoying..

I did go to Christmas ball Saturday and had lot of fun. One of the fitness instructors put my hand on his bum to prove how firm it was, big blushes on my part .
My friend's brother thinks I am great apparently, only thing he is based in Scotland.

I am not great at taking compliments though, I was told a few times I am very pretty, not sure how to take it though I just blush like mad.

Afternoon Dumplings, well dc's back at school today after flooding tg. I went straight to hairdressers to restore my crowning glory. I decided to throw a few hints the painter's way today, so when he was asking what Santa was bringing the dc's, I said I was hoping Santa might bring a man to mummy, that I could do with the physical relief etc.. So lets wait & see!!

Loobie, I'm delighted to hear that your w'end with CLGS went well. It would have been disheartening for all of us if anything went wrong!! Should be easier to ignore ex with CLGS on scene.

Caramela, you might have a point there on the radiation, maybe all the radiation from my scans on the last two dc's turned ex into a twazzock!!

Have been having fantasys about having sex with painter almost continuously over past 24hrs. Sad thing is that I'm so sex depraved now I think I have fantasys about anyone who possessed the right organ!!!!!!!!

Dutchy, I'd be delighted to have the chance to grope someones bum!! Then again, as previously mentioned, I'm sex depraved at present!! The banker was obviously a twunt, delete his number. Enjoy the compliments, there's enough people out there that will drag you down given half the chance.

painter is just leaving!!!!!!!!

Can you not abduct him and force him to be your sex slave, Startingover ? ( legal disclaimer - I'm joking )

Dutchy, you are streets ahead of most of the rest of us, fancy copping a feel of the fitness instructor's arse. Was the other one a merchant banker by any chance ? If so, is there an rhyming slang relevance ?

Starting, have only just read your post above - I think you really need to have your wicked way with painter, if only to avoid joining me as a victim on the wanking oneself to death statistics.

I always maintain that a bit of radiation, and I'm not talking Chernobyl here, is good for you. Well that's my theory anyway ( another disclaimer - this theory not in any way supported by legitimate scientists ).

Caramela, ha,ha, "if only to avoid joining me as a victim on the wanking oneself to death statistics". One way or another I'm going to have sex for xmas, I just have to find an semi decent obliging male now!! (Fu*k just had flashback of PPT!! Nearly put me off).

Am not going to go there on the whole radiation thing .

"a" semi...dah....over excitment due to lack of sex.

Beauty, hope you're ok & not gone into depression about womaniser! When are you hooking up with the porn film maker??

Yeah you want to be careful with flashbacks of the PPT - what if the memory 'pops up' just as you're getting it on with sexy painter ? - most unfortunate

Oh Christ, I'd start roaring laughing mid deed & how would I explain PPT without coming accross as totally desperate??

Just got email from Firm Bum Guy asking if I had a good time etc and that it was nice talking to me. No idea how he got my email , he must got it from the office as I train with the organisation he works for.

Not sure if he is just trying to be nice/polite or what?

Dutchy, he's not trying to be nice or polite, he's trying to chat you up & went to lenghts to do so. Reply, reply, reply....

Dutchy, he luuuuurrvvves you , go fer it

Startingovernow, grab your painter, don't let him go!

Have replied to Firm Bum Guy, he actually seemed nice/decent/well-mannered and made sure I got home safely. He is the same nationality as ex though so not too keen on that.

Dutchy, my ex is a man & so is painter, I can't let that put me off!!!!!! Go for it girl, you can always dump him if he turns out to be a twunt!!!!

Am on the verge of booking babysitter to head out to stalk meet painter at a club we're both involved in. Want to view him in social setting again. I've become such a sad individual. It's amazing what lack of sex will do to you....