Beautiful's Road to Recovery for the Recently Ditched

[BEAUTlFUL]

Dearly Be-Chucked, we are gathered here today because, for whatever reason, our man has dumped us!

Whether we were dating, cohabiting or married, we are now to use therapist-speak well effed-off about the whole business and are desperate to regain our fabulosity.

Well, this is the place! This is where we regain our positivity, our self-confidence and eventually our mojos. We might think at the moment that we'd also like to regain our men, but that might not last long, as we'll soon realise that anyone who could put us through this does not deserve us.

Come in and start regaining your brilliance! I will be setting us exercises to complete that are based vaguely on self-help books, beauy tips and Feng Shui, or we'll just have a right good bitch until we feel completely drained and sick of the sound of our ex's names. Whatever works.

Startingover the painter guy is clearly very shy just bite the bullet think of the rampant sex you could possibly have with him not forgetting he might like the C word that you are not allowed to use in this thread anymore and say how good a job he is doing, how much he has lifted your mood by making your bedroom more attractive with his work of course and that you simply must buy him a drink to say thank you... sheesh if that does not do it the man is numpty!!!!

Dutchy you better have replied ...polite lol noooooo he wants you for sure like startingover said he went to great lenghts to get your e mail address so go go go

Beautiful where have you gone?? have you been abducted by a hunk and you are not sharing the joy with us fellow dumplings??

Yes CLGS is making it easier to deal with texts from golden b*llocks the ex I almost feel smug actually no thats a huge lie I do feel very smug

Caramela you are right i am going to stop looking for thing to go wrong and just enjoy it, tomorrow night CLGS is going to become a kitchen mender as I have had a teenager swing on the unit door so many times it is hanging off it's hinges .... at least i will get some real screwing action if only in the genuine form it was intended

OMG OMG startingover is making positive action plans to jump socialise with painter man I am soooooo excited you go girl oh and pls pls report back

Loobie, ha, ha, re the screwing action. Ok, with that vote of confidence, I'm going to book babysitter now, beautify myself & go. I won't have an opportunity for anything to develop tonight but it'll give me a chance to observe him which is better that another night of fooling myself that I'm going to do my college work.

Hello Loobie - waves. Startingover, get the babysitter sorted and get out there, go on, go on, go on ,go on - I'm channelling Mrs Doyle here . Like Loobie says make sure you report back

Fingers crossed startingover hope you are having a fab time stalking observing painter hunk

Hello Caramela seems we are the only ones left lately and I think when we get to 1000 posts we have to start a new thread oh the anticiption hopefully beautiful will be back and can launch us off again by then

Right thats me done a proper lightweight and off to bed full of herbal nytol I am officially off alcohol this week and it feels rather strange almost surreal to have a fog free brain

Hi all

Good news for you Dutchy - sounds very promising interest.

Mutha - yes would be politically correct not to worry about depressions etc but think youve got to look after yourself and if you have doubts....

Loobie -very glad to have a smug non married on the thread - show that wazzock up who was foolish enough to let you go. And CLGS sounds very handy indeed in every way

Starting. Glad you are having fun but would be cautious myself as he sounds a friend and you need to be careful of friends hearts

Beauty - bit shocked on the Womaniser front -what went on thereHope porno art film maker is the biz and appreciates your boots properly.

Happily not feeling so sex deprived as worst part of month for that past tg. Survived H birthday fine - met up with local single parents group and really liked them so strategy of widening social life starting to work. Gone back to counselling as have lot to deal with - and that is ok - worried about it as was so painful before.

Glad to catch up a bit at last

Hi - waves at everyone

Just checking in and have been much cheered up by reading all of your posts.

Has been a strange 24 hours with too much twunt and much pondering about how to be a super parent to troubled DC's.

In serious need of action to cheer me up but still just so much on the fringes of various dating sites that no-one is likely to show any interest. Gradually resorting to more serious flirting.

Dumplings, I am a right fecking lala, there were two simultaneous events in the same location, guess who ended up in the wrong location?? In my overzealous enthusiasm, I strutted my stuff into the wrong one, immediately realised my error but was unable to make a hasty retreat as I was surrounded by friends who I hadn't seen for ages. Had to offer it up to the Gods & just made the most of night away from dc's anyway.

Mumfun, know what you mean about being careful with friends (eager puppy was a friend too), will have no male friends left soon as I'll have shagged my way through the lot of them . Good luck with the counselling, I am just coming to the end of mine tg, until next catastrophe anyway. Remember, no pain, no gain.

Ifyourhappy, to hear about dc's. Mine went through a very sad time of it too (ex has serious mental health problems/addictions & no access now). I got outside help to make sure I dealt with it in the right way. Basically it was about helping them express their feelings & listening to them. My eldest keeps a diary, all three drew pictures when they were sad/angry etc, thought them how to kick the shit out of a bean bag or ball out the back when they were angry & to just cry when they were sad etc. Mostly I'm just there for them when they want to talk. To avoid them having feelings of rejection, I've explained that Daddy is ill in a way that makes him do nasty things, that it's not his fault & that he still loves them very much etc. Your situation may be v different but you might get a few ideas from that.

Girls, thank you for the encouragement as I have a date lined up with Firm Bum Guy . He knows I am a parent, was a bit nervous about that as this will be my first proper date since single without kids - years.

To be honest, I would have never thought he would have been remotely interested in me as women were throwing themselves at the fitness instructors at the party, but that just proves you never know what is around the corner.

So don't throw the towel in ladies.

Dumplings, I'm on my way to sex & the cunny deed . My painter had a job he was due to start tomorrow cancelled so I'm getting him to stay on for another day to do some more bits & pieces. Anyway, got a joke text from him earlier after he left, he's always joking me about my age/being old etc as he's two years younger. Anyway, he's was joking that I could pass for 30 so I replied that was great as I could go for a toyboy next time around. Just got a reply saying he'd be happy to oblige!!

I'm on my way girls, I told ye all I'd be having sex again for xmas .

Dutchy, am delighted to hear your news. I hope the date goes well for you & don't forget to let us know how you get on.

Evening Dumplings waving to all

Blimey what a day from hell and I have realised that I am a complete numpty when it comes to programming things eg automatic switches to make a lamp come on and off I have given up in disgust feeling a complete failure even though it is just a bl**dy time switch thingy

Startingover the wrong venue lol thats just typical isn't but at least you had a night out with proper grown ups. So what has happened today with painter guy anything??

((hug)) to all dumplings with younger children and rage it must be hard going I am luckier that mine is older but he just refuses to see his dad because he thinks he is disgusting although I am glad of the stand he is taking in support of me it makes me sad too because I would never want him to lose his dad

Dutchy woo hoo firm bum you say lucky lucky cow

Beautiful is still missing in action I note, if you are starring in porn in Belguim these days don't forget us dumplings love Belgian chocolates so bring back loads pretty please.

Caramela hey how was your day today? Any news

oops sorry startingover we must have been typing at the same time sounding like progress yipee!!

Hi Loobie, sorry about your frustration re the lamp timer, you'll have to get CLGS to have a look at that for you aswell .

Feel a bit like a silly teenager, my dd has been asking why I'm smirking, can't believe I'm thinking about doing this!!

Yes I am going to I feel like I am taking advantage of him but it also feels nice.
Know exactly what you mean about feeling like a silly teenager fab isn't it

Hello everyone - I'm still here just not much to report and trying to curb by MNing a bit.

Sounds like there are dates a plenty, good good. Remember to steer clear of lecturers and all will be well!

Right, I'm knackered (looks like ds2 has a second tooth on the way) so I'm attempting an early night. Will report in tomorrow.

Hi Mavis, Glad to hear you're still with us & well.

Dumplings, for those of you who have not been put off online dating by PoF etc, check out IE. Was just reading on another thread that men have to pay £100 per mt but it's free for women, so weeds out a lot of the twunts & perverts. Might be worth a shot.

My friend has just been sent a penis picture text by a chap from direct dating they are everywhere these perverts shall we send it on to startingovers penis pic happy pervert?

Hi Loobie, It's hard to believe isn't it. You wonder if they actually manage to get women like this?? My PPT has sent a few text's since but hopefully he's given up at this point as I didn't respond to any of them.

Painter still here, not sure where things are going. A lot of talking & joking about toy boys etc.. but no move as of yet. Will keep ye all posted.

Very hard to believe I just think men are so proud of their todgers that they think send a woman a picture and she'll throw herself at my feet ... my mate is ignoring him now thing is she is 39 and he is 23 so it's never going anywhere anyway

Fingers crossed re the painter

Hello everyone, hope you're all feeling suitably chins up, tits out ( or was it the other way round ? I'm getting a bit senile ).

Loobie, another Phantom Penis Texter ? good grief, mind you having said that I've known plenty at work who will get it out and wave it around at the drop of a hat ( patients not colleagues, thank god ) - usually saying ' I don't mind if you don't !' - err yes I do mind actually, I have no interest whatsoever in your miniscule genitalia.

Startingover, it sounds promising on the painter front - I hope Operation Shag The Painter is progressing well this afternoon.

Dutchy, good news about Mr Firm Arse.

I assume Beauty is still missing in action, presumed starring in Shaving Ryan's Privates IV ?

Hello Mavis, it's nice to hear from you again.

PPT ...yup to be fair it was a fine specimen but men and their todgers

Evening all

Been a bit tied up the last few days but back now.

Startingover - I am enjoying the painter exploits and just hope that you get what you need from him . And thanks for your thoughts on the DC's. All a bit of an on-going nightmare with one DC on that front (can't really explain here I'm afraid) but suffice to say tis my biggest stress right now.

Rest of dumpettes, glad to see all going well but shall we get a search party together for Beauty?

Managing to console myself with a very early dialogue with ok looking guy on GirlsDateForFree. No dodgy todge issues as yet but will provide special email address to him I think just in case he gets the urge to share. Crazy really that the slightest hint of action gets me pathetically excited

Sorry dumplings, I fell into a depression. So stupid - that bloody Womanise messed me around and I'm gutted. It's all just hit me at once - this, right after XH.

I've realised that although I feel the same as I did when I was 25, I'm not the catch I once was! I have to face a future without any men in it, and I can do that during a feisty, defiant mood -- but then I get really fed up.

XH is looking better than ever but I know that's not the answer... i just don't know what is.

God, i feel shite! we need to start a new thread, don't we? I might just copy/paste the feisty intro from this one and put PART TWO at the end. Not up to writing anything witty and positive now! I feel awful.

Sorry lovelies!

I started a new thread. Come round!

Hi There

Sooooo glad you're back was beginning to get a bit worried.

Sad to hear you're feeling miz but do remember it will pass - I know you know that even though it feels crap at the moment.

"I have to face a future without men" - no you don't - you know that - but you get to choose (isn't the expression I say what, I say who, I say when, I say how!). Just take it at a pace that suits you and steer clear of men if it feels good for now. TBH part of me wants to dabble now but equally I couldn't deal with anything heavy just some light fun (easier said than done mind you).

Take care