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does anyone occasionally get woken up in the middle of the night by their dp/dh trying to 'get it in' while your asleep?

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juicychops · 26/05/2009 19:36

my dp does this occasionally, the last time being 2 nights ago. its not something that bothers me and we've got an understanding ive basically told him it doesn't bother me as long as he doesn't expect any kind of cooperation (we are talking about 2-3am, not around 10pm!!)

does anyone else have this situation??

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sweetkitty · 26/05/2009 21:39

I asked DH about this, he said there is NO way I would even think about waking YOU up, I am fond of my bollocks.

I said wouldn't you be completely turned off by me lying there not doing anything and he said "erm what's the difference?" I said "well sometimes I open both eyes!" he did say it wasn't for him although of course being a man he did say if I ever felt the urge to wake him with a BJ that would be OK

I suppose I am the most unerotic sleeping thing ever, I drool into my pillow, I wear old baggy PJ bottoms, I usually have one boob hanging out as I fall asleep feeding and cannot be bothered hooking my bra back or have a baby hanging off me.

Stinkermink · 26/05/2009 21:46

Erm I am one half of a mutually respectful relationship, have never been abused in the past and have never been assaulted as an adult. So on that basis, being woken up a in the middle of the night by DH trying to slip it in, I would be extremely annoyed! A gentle tap on the shoulder would be courtesy to be honest. Knock before you enter. I wouldn't be amused in the slightest to find DH half way through while I'm semi conscious.

nickytwotimes · 26/05/2009 21:49

Not sure what to write in response to this other than
What the hell kind of guy would want to shag a sleeping person?

OptimistS · 26/05/2009 21:54

Quote: yes dp is very satisfied with our sex life

But what about you, JC? Are you happy with your sex life?

at sweetkitty's post.

Nahui · 26/05/2009 22:29

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MaDuggar · 26/05/2009 22:30

its actually a sleep disorder

en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Sleep_sex

LobstersLass · 26/05/2009 22:58

It's her that's asleep not him! It's not a sleep disorder at all.

luvoneson · 26/05/2009 23:03

I'd want to smash the bastard in the face. Cant stand being groped when i'm asleep. My dh has done this before. Awful.

whomovedmychocolate · 26/05/2009 23:20

So....is it okay with him if you ram a cucumber up his butt when he's snoring then? Fairs fair.

whomovedmychocolate · 26/05/2009 23:21

Ex-DH once tried to put his hand on my pussy while I was sleeping. He got bitten for his trouble (never mess with a sleeping cat in your wife's bed that's the lesson for tonight!)

dittany · 26/05/2009 23:22

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whomovedmychocolate · 26/05/2009 23:23

Also, I used to have an alsation that did that (sleep sex) but not to me obviously. He had a favourite cushion.

whomovedmychocolate · 26/05/2009 23:25

Perhaps he could wear some lettuce panties so she some vegetable related fripperies

whomovedmychocolate · 26/05/2009 23:26

had some fripperies rather.

brimfull · 26/05/2009 23:26

whomoved quick hijack-are you still disgusted by chocolate. I tried the pmckenna cd but didn't work for me

expatinscotland · 26/05/2009 23:27

Hell no! He'd be wearing his ball for earrings if he tried that. And he knows that.

lockets · 26/05/2009 23:27

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Pinkchampagne · 26/05/2009 23:31

Not read all of thread, but NO!!

whomovedmychocolate · 26/05/2009 23:32

ggirl - boak - yep. Am even thinner now.

whomovedmychocolate · 26/05/2009 23:33

But just as sarcastic

brimfull · 26/05/2009 23:33

wow-am impressed

whomovedmychocolate · 26/05/2009 23:33

Expat - what did you do with the other one?

brimfull · 26/05/2009 23:34

oh right

luvoneson · 26/05/2009 23:35

whomovedmychocolate, you have just made me pmsl. Love the pussy/cat thing.

whomovedmychocolate · 26/05/2009 23:38

ggirl - remind me did you just have the one CD (didn't work long term for me either - I have the five CD set and that did the trick - on my ipod for 90 days). Listen about once a fortnight now.