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Well..its 4:30 in the morning, and you know my DP/XP, the one i said would NEVER hit me?

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StercusAccidit · 09/05/2009 04:51

Well, he did last night

After being told i may have an STI, obv i have been a bit wary, as well as with past experiences, anyway, he came over all lovey dovey and giving me the answers i needed to hear.. i am the abuser, none of it was your fault, ect, and i was beginning to warm to him to the point that i may have even considered trying again.

Well, last night i mentioned that i had a doctors appointment on thursday, he was like, oh, to check if you have an STI? I know you think i have given it to you. I can read you like a book, you think 'that dirty bastard has given me a disease'...dont you?

"I assure you i am thinking nothing of the sort," i said, "Given that you swore on your kids lives that you didn't sleep with any of them, you went to meet one, and chatted to the others online."

He got up from the sofa, and came towards me in the doorway, and PUSHED me by using his open hand on the side of my face. Shocked, i stood there with my mouth open while he walked into the kitchen. I then go upstairs to feed DS2, and put him to bed, and i'm thinking 'was it me or did he just??'

Then he comes upstairs and gets into bed as if nothing has happened. (I agreed he could stay the night as i asked if i could use the car to visit DD tomorrow morning) I then get up, and go downstairs.
I can clearly hear him caliing me a bitch and a cunt from upstairs.
So, his phone is downstairs and i have a quick nosey.
There are explicit texts to OW on there..THREE of them in fact.
Anyway, i choose to ignore this as i can now hear DS crying having been woken up by HIM having a whinge and a rant. As i go upstairs to pick DS up, i hear twatface say, "And you can shut the fuck up as well or i'll bounce you off the wall"

Without a word i went in and picked DS up, grabbed a babygro, and DS' changing bag, which i always keep fully stocked, its a habit going back to violent XXP...Once DS is outside the door, i walk back in, go up to twatface, and told him i want him to leave, and i never want to see him again as far as i'm concerned.
"I'm not going anywhere" he said, obv thinking i was just angry about STI and hadn't heard what he said to DS. I told him i HAD heard, and i had seen the messages on his phone, to which he replied he had done it because he knew i had changed the settings to save messages.

So, clinging onto the phone, i walked out, and phoned the police to remove him. I went back down near the house, he came out, i asked him, WHY? why do you do this to me? i have never done anything but love you and all you do is cheat on me"

Give me my phone, bank card and car keys, he replied, so i chucked the card and keys into the house, and walked off with the phone, texting one of his 'slappers' as i went.
He came up the street about five minutes later, to tell me, you can come back in the house now if you want.. hmph! I replied i didn't want to be anywhere near him the lying cheating scumbag, and walked off. I turned just in time to see him running towards me, so i pushed DS into someones driveway, and tried to run, he caught me, punched me in the side of my head, and dragged me backwards so i fell onto the floor, he then kicked me in the ribs from behind, and kicked the back of my head twice, before i rolled onto my other side, curled up into a ball, and covered my head with my hands. He then kicked my head/hands once more, screaming "Give me my phone bitch"
Then he walked off.

DS saw all of this.
How could i be so stupid ffs and so wrong about somebody? All the time he was being so nice to me and doing that with other women behind my back? One message said "I will come over there after work and give you a good seeing to" (he told me he finished work at 5, now i know he finishes at 4)

Oh well, i don't give a flying crap what he does any more. I HAVE reported to the police. I fully expect SS to come here giving me shit but i'm not letting him get away with this. I AM going to press charges. And i WILL get a no contact order for DS.

God i feel alone vulnerable and FUCKING STUPID right now

Sorry, had to vent........kicking the head of your babys mother FFS......like a fucking football!! Tosser. If he EVER darkens my fucking door again.....Grr

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SammyK · 15/05/2009 21:12

sorry LF

Alambil · 15/05/2009 21:35

what for?

kormachameleon · 15/05/2009 21:44

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FantasticMissFox · 15/05/2009 22:18

That sounds like a good idea. I dont have her details though. I'm v worried now. Her last post was on mon.

BitOfFun · 15/05/2009 22:18

Good for you korma! I don't think anyone knows though...maybe you could call womens aid as we think she may be in a refuge without Internet access. I know they won't tell you, but you might be able to leave a message asking her to let us know when she can that she's ok? If you give the few details that we do know (and my email is my mn name 1 at yahoo dot co dot uk if you want her first name and bits and bobs I know), they might be able to speak to her without letting on they know of her or not? That's all I can think of...

kormachameleon · 15/05/2009 22:24

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BitOfFun · 15/05/2009 22:33

Did that come across as sarky? Sorry, I didn't mean it like that at all, I meant "Great, I'm glad you're in a position to help- I wish I was nearer!" You're a star korma, I would never think otherwise

FantasticMissFox · 15/05/2009 22:37

Bof do you know her surname? Just thinking she might be in the phone book...

kormachameleon · 15/05/2009 22:38

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BitOfFun · 15/05/2009 22:43

< companionable squeeze for korma >

Nope, I only know her first name

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FabulousBakerGirl · 16/05/2009 13:01

Sounds OTT but I am getting scared for her now.

TrillianAstra · 16/05/2009 14:03

Just keeping this thread up in case of updates.

FantasticMissFox · 16/05/2009 14:42

Bumpity bump

kormachameleon · 16/05/2009 16:05

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FabulousBakerGirl · 16/05/2009 20:41

CHECK OUT MY THREAD ON SA

muralpainter · 21/05/2009 08:51

bump. What has happened, and where can I find your thread FBG

FantasticMissFox · 23/05/2009 11:06

Its in _Chat. here

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