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Well..its 4:30 in the morning, and you know my DP/XP, the one i said would NEVER hit me?

295 replies

StercusAccidit · 09/05/2009 04:51

Well, he did last night

After being told i may have an STI, obv i have been a bit wary, as well as with past experiences, anyway, he came over all lovey dovey and giving me the answers i needed to hear.. i am the abuser, none of it was your fault, ect, and i was beginning to warm to him to the point that i may have even considered trying again.

Well, last night i mentioned that i had a doctors appointment on thursday, he was like, oh, to check if you have an STI? I know you think i have given it to you. I can read you like a book, you think 'that dirty bastard has given me a disease'...dont you?

"I assure you i am thinking nothing of the sort," i said, "Given that you swore on your kids lives that you didn't sleep with any of them, you went to meet one, and chatted to the others online."

He got up from the sofa, and came towards me in the doorway, and PUSHED me by using his open hand on the side of my face. Shocked, i stood there with my mouth open while he walked into the kitchen. I then go upstairs to feed DS2, and put him to bed, and i'm thinking 'was it me or did he just??'

Then he comes upstairs and gets into bed as if nothing has happened. (I agreed he could stay the night as i asked if i could use the car to visit DD tomorrow morning) I then get up, and go downstairs.
I can clearly hear him caliing me a bitch and a cunt from upstairs.
So, his phone is downstairs and i have a quick nosey.
There are explicit texts to OW on there..THREE of them in fact.
Anyway, i choose to ignore this as i can now hear DS crying having been woken up by HIM having a whinge and a rant. As i go upstairs to pick DS up, i hear twatface say, "And you can shut the fuck up as well or i'll bounce you off the wall"

Without a word i went in and picked DS up, grabbed a babygro, and DS' changing bag, which i always keep fully stocked, its a habit going back to violent XXP...Once DS is outside the door, i walk back in, go up to twatface, and told him i want him to leave, and i never want to see him again as far as i'm concerned.
"I'm not going anywhere" he said, obv thinking i was just angry about STI and hadn't heard what he said to DS. I told him i HAD heard, and i had seen the messages on his phone, to which he replied he had done it because he knew i had changed the settings to save messages.

So, clinging onto the phone, i walked out, and phoned the police to remove him. I went back down near the house, he came out, i asked him, WHY? why do you do this to me? i have never done anything but love you and all you do is cheat on me"

Give me my phone, bank card and car keys, he replied, so i chucked the card and keys into the house, and walked off with the phone, texting one of his 'slappers' as i went.
He came up the street about five minutes later, to tell me, you can come back in the house now if you want.. hmph! I replied i didn't want to be anywhere near him the lying cheating scumbag, and walked off. I turned just in time to see him running towards me, so i pushed DS into someones driveway, and tried to run, he caught me, punched me in the side of my head, and dragged me backwards so i fell onto the floor, he then kicked me in the ribs from behind, and kicked the back of my head twice, before i rolled onto my other side, curled up into a ball, and covered my head with my hands. He then kicked my head/hands once more, screaming "Give me my phone bitch"
Then he walked off.

DS saw all of this.
How could i be so stupid ffs and so wrong about somebody? All the time he was being so nice to me and doing that with other women behind my back? One message said "I will come over there after work and give you a good seeing to" (he told me he finished work at 5, now i know he finishes at 4)

Oh well, i don't give a flying crap what he does any more. I HAVE reported to the police. I fully expect SS to come here giving me shit but i'm not letting him get away with this. I AM going to press charges. And i WILL get a no contact order for DS.

God i feel alone vulnerable and FUCKING STUPID right now

Sorry, had to vent........kicking the head of your babys mother FFS......like a fucking football!! Tosser. If he EVER darkens my fucking door again.....Grr

OP posts:
FabulousBakerGirl · 14/05/2009 07:56

Am I being a bit OTT to ask MNHQ to contact her to check she is okay?

I am really concerned for her and her children.

RealityIsMyOnlyDelusion · 14/05/2009 08:29

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pottycock · 14/05/2009 08:34

Didn't the PC belong to him (think I remember her saying that way back?) - maybe he's taken it with the rest of his stuff. Whatever...I hope her and the children are safe and well.

AuntieMaggie · 14/05/2009 09:19

Didn't she say somewhere that she knew people from MN in RL?

Do we know who they are?

posieparker · 14/05/2009 09:23

Still no sign......

FabulousBakerGirl · 14/05/2009 09:51

Can't help thinking it was a good idea that somehow mobile numbers were logged somehow (with MNHQ or with a MNer) so that we had someway of getting in touch.

SA Please just check in.

TrillianAstra · 14/05/2009 10:10

It's a good idea FBG. I have a couple of MNers on facebook so they could get my number in an emergency (don't know what that emergency might be, but you never know).

If the PC was his that still means there has been contact (which is a bad thing), and since he has already not been living there for a while you'd think it would have gone already if he was taking it away.

WorzselMummage · 14/05/2009 11:12

I keep checking back in the hope that SA has posted again.

I only live about 15 minutes from her i think. if there is anything i can do.

FabulousBakerGirl · 14/05/2009 11:20

I have emailed MNHQ.

BitOfFun · 14/05/2009 12:16

Any chance of popping over Worzsel? Or does nobody know exactly where she is? It's worrying now, although hopefully there is no sinister explanation, but it's not like Stercus to go awol for this long.

FabulousBakerGirl · 14/05/2009 12:23

I was wondering that BoF but wasn't sure about suggesting it.

RealityIsMyOnlyDelusion · 14/05/2009 15:38

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FabulousBakerGirl · 14/05/2009 17:43

MNHQ have replied. They have emailed her to ask her to get in touch. They said that was all they could do.

Can anyone tell if the computer has been trashed?

BitOfFun · 14/05/2009 18:04

I feel so frustrated not being able to do anything...

StripeyOss · 14/05/2009 18:08

I've emailed her again and asked her to reply to me if she cant post on here.

I've also offered to go help her out if she needs anything.

WorzselMummage · 14/05/2009 20:40

If anyone knows her address i'd certainly be able to pop over and check she's ok, no problem atall.

I've kept my eye on the local news but seen nothing which could be related, I'll keep looking too.
This is very worrying.

Supercherry · 14/05/2009 21:34

Thinking of you Stercus.

dittany · 14/05/2009 22:12

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BunnyAndJoon · 15/05/2009 09:15

I do hope you are OK.

Please let us know if there is anything we can do for you

FantasticMissFox · 15/05/2009 11:42

Thinking of you Stercus, hope your safe

theDreadPirateRoberts · 15/05/2009 12:37

Bumping in the hope of news...

FabulousBakerGirl · 15/05/2009 17:47

Worried bump

Does anyone know her contact details?

LobstersLass · 15/05/2009 19:03

Just what I was thinking FBG. Someone must know surely? I'm getting very worried about her.

SammyK · 15/05/2009 19:39

Stercus I hope you are okay and feeling less achey now

Even if you post just to say you are well, that would be great

Alambil · 15/05/2009 21:00

Even if you are NOT well; even if you've got back with him.... we'll still be here.

There's plenty people gone through this who know how difficult it is to sever all ties....