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Original poster

it happens so often on here, but I opened his mobile bill by accident and guess what?

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AreYouCallingMeDarling · 07/10/2008 03:24

yep

up to 30 texts a day to number that I find out is another woman

Just friendship says he

hahahahaha

I am a regular btw. Just don't want my mum reading this and knowing it is me. Or anyone else I know

I feel so feckin stupid

It is the middle of the night and I probably won't get any answers. But that is fine

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HappyWoman · 07/10/2008 19:58

She has offered to bow out of his life - bloody hell its the same ow as mine. This is exactly what she said she would do and that was on the phone to me. Wish i hadnt believed her either. I was too bloody trusting. Believe your own gut instinct and dont let anyone try and persuade you otherwise - he has to now prove himself not you have to trust him - if he is truthful it will come slowly but dont force it and dont let him make you feel bad for the way you feel now.

STD clinic is not nice - i too went to my gp but you still have to go back for check up later in case something develops.

Hopefully he will get posted a long way away from her.

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AreYouCallingMeDarling · 07/10/2008 21:27

He fucked her

finally got that admission 5 minutes ago

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AreYouCallingMeDarling · 07/10/2008 21:28

several times

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MonsieurHHTruqueur · 07/10/2008 21:29

wanker

I am so so so sorry

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squeaver · 07/10/2008 21:31

Oh shit. You poor thing.

Stay on MN. So many people here who can help you.

Piffle · 07/10/2008 21:32

oh Christ have been lurking dying to say I suspected that (resisted posting as not helpful) and desperately hoping he hadn't
I'm so fucking sorry
Please keep talking and preserve your head, you've been amazingly together this far you can deal with this x x

AttillaTheHan · 07/10/2008 21:35

I've been lurking as I could not think of anything useful to add but wanted to say how shitty this must all be for you. What a tosser...

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ninah · 07/10/2008 21:38

So admire the way you are dealing. Sorry you have to, though. Good luck.

kerryk · 07/10/2008 21:39

sorry you are going through this

jimjamshaslefttheyurt · 07/10/2008 21:40

oh I'm so sorry I really hoped he was telling the truth.

nooOOOoonki · 07/10/2008 21:42

Oh I am so sorry for you,

Pip51 · 07/10/2008 21:43

I am so sorry you have to go through this.
Keep posting you need to talk.

nooOOOoonki · 07/10/2008 21:45

have you got anyone you can talk to? are you on your own?

lizandlulu · 07/10/2008 21:46

i hope you are ok, it must be an awful thing to go through, i hope you manage to get some sleep tonight

DoubleBluff · 07/10/2008 21:46

Am so sorry.
What a prick. Give him hell.

Pria · 07/10/2008 21:47

So sorry that you are having to deal with such a shitty situation - stay strong. At least you do have all the cards on the table now. Remember though you do not have to make any decisions now - in fact probably best not to!

AnnasBananas · 07/10/2008 21:54

Am so sorry. At least he is telling the truth to you now. He must know if he has any hope for the future he has got to tell the truth.

Don't know what to suggest now. Do you have a close friend where you are you can confide in? You need lots of support but at the same time you don't want the whole patch to know or be talking about it. Especially if you think you might be able to work through this somehow.

Definitely a trip to the GUM clinic for both of you. You can go directly if you wish to your GUM clinic at your local hospital and not have to discuss this with your family GP.

Sending strong vibes to you, you sound like a determined woman. Fight for what you believe in!

Ohforfoxsake · 07/10/2008 21:54

Shit.

I'm sorry. Hope you are OK.

misselizabethbennet · 07/10/2008 21:56

Really sorry. You may as well get the full story now then you'll know what you're dealing with.

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AreYouCallingMeDarling · 07/10/2008 21:58

He is on the phone to his sister now

she is much more frightening than me

He is probably being given the dressing down of his life

But I said that I couldn't speak to him any more and he needed to speak to someone else

she is in singapore so early morning trauma for her

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ShinyPinkShoes · 07/10/2008 21:59

Blimey-very early morning call to her.

Are you okay?
Do you have RL friends who can help?

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AreYouCallingMeDarling · 07/10/2008 22:00

fuckity fuckity fuck fuck

I knew this would be the end result, but it still fucking hurts

he said it wasn't as good with her

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