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it happens so often on here, but I opened his mobile bill by accident and guess what?

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AreYouCallingMeDarling · 07/10/2008 03:24

yep

up to 30 texts a day to number that I find out is another woman

Just friendship says he

hahahahaha

I am a regular btw. Just don't want my mum reading this and knowing it is me. Or anyone else I know

I feel so feckin stupid

It is the middle of the night and I probably won't get any answers. But that is fine

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largeginandtonic · 08/10/2008 08:28

Agree with Lapin it is not all Service men that do this.

You must be reeling my lovely, where are you? Do you have a good friend to talk to?

What a shit.

geordieminx · 08/10/2008 08:34

Thinking of you AreYouCallingMeDarling.

We are all here for you.

watsthestory · 08/10/2008 08:34

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ScottishMummy · 08/10/2008 08:44

oh dear!what a bloody eejit he is.can anyone be a confidant and support you?

deep breath
no rash decisions,let your head clear
take care of yourself - what a rotten thing to happen

ScottishMummy · 08/10/2008 08:44

oh dear!what a bloody eejit he is.can anyone be a confidant and support you?

deep breath
no rash decisions,let your head clear
take care of yourself - what a rotten thing to happen

quinne · 08/10/2008 09:03

I suppose calling her up and telling her that you've just been diagnosed with a STD would be it a bit childish? Yup, thought so... you'd regret it sooner or later, but ... oh what pleasure it could be for a day or so!

HappyWoman · 08/10/2008 10:02

I have thought about the calling and saying about std (and i have had cause to) but my counsellor said she is not my responsibilty and she needs to look after her own health.

Do get tested there are lots of nasties that lurk for a while especially in woman.

I now actually hope ow has not had the sense to get tested how awful is that of me?

cheerfulvicky · 08/10/2008 10:06

So sorry for you, cried reading this thread. Men can be shits sometimes. Take care of you.

noddyholder · 08/10/2008 10:10

What a lot to cope with So sorry I hope you have support xx And like others have said don't make any rash decisions as this will take a while to sink in

GrabShellDude · 08/10/2008 10:14

Oh no. So sorry for you, really hope you've got some support today.

ClaireDeLoon · 08/10/2008 10:14

I'm really sorry you're going through all this it's utter shit and he's an idiot

Cicatrice · 08/10/2008 10:31

I'm so sorry for you. You seem very strong. Take care of yourself.

VeniVidiVickiQV · 08/10/2008 10:36

Great post HW.

I think having someone 'on side' at his work is a good idea actually.

ambercat · 08/10/2008 12:38

Sorry about my forces men comment, its very easy to tar them all with the same brush when i look at my h and his mates and then read threads like this, no offence intended, just me being bitter.

hope you are ok today AYCMD, have been thinking sbout you x

Tortington · 08/10/2008 13:06

how are you today?

AttillaTheHan · 08/10/2008 13:42

I've been thinking about you alot today AYCMD. How are you getting on today? Did you manage to sleep much last night?

Ohforfoxsake · 08/10/2008 13:44

Complete at "It is better with you".

Oh well, that's him off the hook then. Sorry, but what an utterley stupid thing to say.

Wise words from Happywoman.

I hope you are getting through the day.

Rhubarb · 08/10/2008 13:59

Are you ok?

NotDoingTheHousework · 08/10/2008 14:15

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SorenLorensen · 08/10/2008 14:28

Have just read the whole thread. Am so sorry. I don't know how you move forward from this but I know people do - if you choose to. Take care.

SorenLorensen · 08/10/2008 14:30

Have just read the whole thread. I am so sorry. I don't know how you move on from this point but I know people do and marriages do survive. If you choose for that to happen...to my way of thinking he has forfeited his right to have a say in that decision. I wish you strength.

SorenLorensen · 08/10/2008 14:32

That first post disappeared so I did it again and added a bit more. Then the first one reappeared - you get my gist anyway...

sayithowitis · 08/10/2008 15:42

Don't know what to say to you. As I read I really hoped that it would not be one of those stories where the husband claims frindship to begin with and finally ends up admitting he did sleep with OW. My heart sank when you reached that point and I felt sick for you. I don't know how you will deal with this, I only know that , for me, my marriage would be over because I would forever have an image of them together in my mind. And I would always wonder whether the affair would have continued had I not found out about it. The fact that he lied when I found out would show me that I could not trust him and I could not live in a relationship where I did not have total trust in my partner. I am so sorry for you and I hope that whatever you do, it works out for you.

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AreYouCallingMeDarling · 08/10/2008 19:02

Sorry ladies - have been at work since late this morning, and with him before that. I did let him read this thread last evening, and I think that is part of the reason he came clean on the whole truth (and I do believe it is, because I am not sure how it could get any worse, even in my fertile imagination).

Kids are in the bath

Do you want the whole sordid story once they are in bed?

My new pet name for him is Fuckwit

To which he answers yes and agrees with everything I say

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