Just caught up with this - so sorry - yes it the same script. If only these men (and ow) knew that some of us have already read it.
If you are to stand a chance - i really urge you to have no further contact.
The typical thing will be for him to say he needs to end it face to face with her - please dont trust him to do this. Either you both do it together or better still he just totally puts her out of his life now.
The other thing to watch for is he will be all moody and sad - saying that he does miss her in some way (he will say friendship), and that he feels terrible for what he has done to her.
Is there anyway someone at their work can get involved? You need someone who will help there so they do not have to work together.
Of course he will tell you what you want to hear - that you were better, but would he be willing to say it to her?
I also do not believe that there has to be something wrong in your marriage for this to have happened. Sure there may be things you could improve on now, but this does not mean your marriage was in trouble.
Some men just seem to want more - and when the oppotunity is put in front of them they take it, - the ow of course is led to believe that the marriage is not perfect - otherwise why would he be with her.
Think of it like women with shoes - you have a perfectly good pair that you love - and with little money in your purse you see another pair in a shop - sometimes you just cant resist - nothing wrong with old ones and new ones not any better - just something extra. I know it is not exactly the same but i do believe men think differntly in these situations and if they even thougth for a moment that they would either get caught or that it would end their marriage they would think a bit harder.
And because woman gernerally would only embark on an affair if their were problems in the marriage see it differently.
If he truely wants to stay married and you are willing to move on it can work, and he will find a way to stop this now.
Good luck and if you want you can cat me - i have done a lot of research and soul searching to get over my h affair.