The worst thing anyone has said to you?

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Just going through a break up with someone I thought I loved very much but should have been aware it wasn’t going to work - we met just as he was splitting from
a long relationship and in hindsight I should have realised he wasn’t ready for another one. I’ve been crying uncontrollably and it hurts …but remembering some of awful things he said to me - the top two being:

1: on our first holiday in gorgeous Athens after we had been together for two years - I was so excited to be with him until he asked me to take a photo of him and another group of people so he could say to his family he was on a history trip rather than away with me.

2: I have some bad perimenopause and had said that I had quite bad anxiety. He said “don’t put that on me”. What a gent.

anyone got anything better?

So sorry OP - you can do better than someone who takes two years to go on holiday with you.

I’ve never had anyone say anything truly awful but once an American boyfriend told me I was very negative. That always stayed with me and I did make an effort to change my outlook after that.

My ex once sent me a screenshot of another woman showing him she bought and was taking a pregnancy test because she thought she was pregnant with his baby while still seeing me. He sent me the screenshot and blocked me left me on a cliff hanger not knowing if she was pregnant or not.

So sorry to hear this.

My own mother would tell me I belonged in a children's home, throughout childhood and teens, after very minor misdemeaners.

She's now in her early 80s and frail and has recently accused me of not making enough effort .

Sorry but that is a really weird post. What had you intended that she do with the bottle of wine - drink it with you? That’s not why you give a gift.

I’m so sorry your mother is so awful.

“If you’re not careful you’ll end up with no job no kids and no friends”

something my sister said when I was suffering from depression and failed fertility treatment, shortly after a miscarriage.

it was years ago, I have had 2 kids and a thriving business since, and made plenty friends but I can hear those words like it was yesterday.

My mother has been saying that to me for 37 years (and counting). I had the nerve to get married, and made my father 'feel old' (he was 41) so that's why he had his exit affair.

She lives on the other side of the world - I moved to get away - and I've not seen her in 17 years (and counting). Probably won't see her again and definitely won't be attending her funeral.

You reap what you sow.

My MIL “I’ve had to buy a dog as you haven’t produced any grandchildren for me’ while I was in the middle of fertility treatment which she fully knew about. When I finally did produce said grandchild she made fuck all effort with them anyway

'Oh, I thought you didn't like him much.'

Said by my so called friend when my mum had phoned to tell me my stepfather was dying of incurable brain cancer when I was 18. I was sobbing at the time she spoke.

She also had her mum buy her a flat, then rented a room to me and dh for the cost of her remaining mortgage. It was a single room, while she had a double to herself, but she also included the hall cupboard. We moved out as soon as we could find somewhere else, to which she said, 'Well who is going to pay my mortgage?'

Terrifyingly she's now a doctor who works with addicts in a city centre, and I hope for their sake's she's finally grown a sense of empathy.

Not half as bad as most of these but a guy I was seeing said ‘I never met a white woman with lips as big as yours… the ones on your face are pretty big too actually. But seriously you’re worse than that woman off Embarrasing Bodies.’
I didn’t quite know what to say, was about 19 and utterly confounded by the whole statement so I just got up and left. Cue a lifetime of being self conscious, always having to wear a skirt over bikinis, long jumpers over tight trousers etc.
My mum had probably said worse over the years (about my personality) but that one stung a bit!

My ex-husband, after I raised a concern about his Mum driving our child without putting his seatbelt on, shouted in my face that I should NEVER question his mother, that ''at least he knows who his mother is'' - I'm adopted :-(

Or the time he hit me so hard, my head hit off my toddler son who was in my arms at the time & caused a huge lump on baby's head - ''Looked what you've done now''

Christ. The misogyny must have been weeping out of his pores !!

I can’t really remember because anyone who says anything bad to me I just file under “jealous bitch”. It’s probably not true, and maybe some of it was valid but when I was a kid my mum always told me people were “just jealous” and I’ve kind of just ran with that.

Yup all the self proclaimed “Christians” I know are a bunch of self righteous, smug assholes. Not a one of them actually lives by any of Jesus’ teachings but boy do they love to lord it over you as if they are somehow better for turning up to church once a week. Twats.

You’re so useless you can’t even carry my baby (when I was going through a miscarriage) followed by being thrown on the floor.
i now have a much better (second) husband

You didn’t lose a baby just a blob of cells .

You did nothing to prevent yourself from being sexually assaulted.

I can do CPR but I wouldn’t on you . I would call an ambulance and stand and watch .

There is no heartbeat.

Yep, truly thankful for lovely parents and genuine friends.

"I don't know why you're so upset, you're not the one who's dying"

Said by my toxic exH to his sister, whose DH was terminally ill.

I'm sorry that so many of you have had such awful things said to them, especially from the people who should love us most
@sharksnip @shhblackbag I'm sorry you had the misfortune to meet such utter utter C**nts.
Shout out to@VimesandhisCardboardBoots for sharing his story and learning from it. Glad your DP is now singing again.

A couple from my dad. The day after my husband died from cancer he "joked" to my distraught teenagers that id bumped him off for his money. Followed by attending the wake and telling complete strangers to him that my husband was the richest man in the cemetery and we were all fine. He's now a very lonely old man. I hate the sight of him

Me too!

Not the worst thing - and certainly nowhere near as awful as some on this thread - but I have never forgotten it. My now ex DH and I met up with a friend/acquaintance whom we hadn't seen for several years. She said "I wouldn't have known you, you have changed - woefully." This was at a friend's house. I just didn't know what to say and she seemed to have no idea of how rude she'd been. (I wonder if she knew what woefully meant.)

You're a cancer in my life - ExH

The context was I stopped blindly believing his lies and started to become braver and challenge his bullshit. When the dominos started falling he completely descended into someone I didn't recognise, still hearing him say that after devoting half my life to him was galling.

Better off now though, he's still a cunt.

I would have said Snap .