There We Are Then - part 4, but episode 278946, probably.

[mummy917]

For anyone who is still offering messages of hope, wisdom and general loveliness 🥰

Hopefully they spelt his tattoo wrong and he doesn’t notice @mummy917

Is it the twins' birthday soon ?
Has he dropped off presents ! or will he give them when he next has them - which is Wednesday I think.

or do you think he won't bother.

I misread this comment initially and read it as “hopefully they spelt his name wrong and he doesn’t notice”, that made me giggle as I thought it would be very on brand for Twattoo to actually have his own name tattooed on to his body 😂.

Happy Birthday to the twins, I hope they have a magical tea party today.

@mummy917 well done for dishing out the home truths. He must have done something twattooish to have made you snap, so well done for sticking up for yourself. I can’t imagine he was expecting that. I hope it shocked him and he could see how much you’ve grown.

Finally I hope despite the £400 on a tattoo spending that he actually makes an effort to get the twins a present, although I imagine he will go begging to his Mummy for the money.

I wouldn’t put it past him to come out with some bullshit like, “my tattoo IS my gift to the twins.”

He got them some presents and gave them to them last weekend and his mum went to his for a little gathering for their birthday, so he made some effort.

He has been a massive twat over the past week or so though and I’d just had enough. He was very taken aback and said shockingly little, but I told him I didn’t care what he thought of me anymore during that exchange, and for the first time I actually meant it.

Well done OP. He needed that.

Send him a reminder of how much he owes for the uniform still.

Well done for sticking up for yourself. I’m sorry he’s being more of a twat than usual (didn’t actually think that would be possible). Hopefully your outburst will have quietened him down and he’ll leave you alone.

I imagine his new life sucks and he’s only just realising it and the only other person he can pretend is the villain and caused this is you. It’s much easier to lash out at you than accept he’s screwed up and it’s all his fault. He really is quite weak and pathetic.

He can blame me all he wants, I’m happy to be the bad one in his story if that’s what he wants to tell himself and others.

I have said nothing about the remainder he owes for his half of the uniform, but it’s all noted down.

So his outbursts and Twattooishness isn’t even over money then, what an idiot, why can’t he just leave you alone. He doesn’t need to be contacting you constantly and kicking off, starting arguments.

You are becoming a total rockstar when it comes to dealing with him.

👏👏👏👏🥳🥳🥳🥳 well done, it was a long time coming. Hope it’s made you feel better to get it all off your chest. Probably gave Twatoo a bit of a shock too.

I hope the twins have a lovely time today ❤️

Hi op I’m so glad you have let rip at him he needed this. Op all this time he’s been pushing your buttons he now knows you fighting back and not to be taken advantage of. Enjoy your day with the twins. Well done op so proud of you.

It’s about time he heard some home truths. Well done OP

Attagirl. About time someone told him like it is. The amount of power you rebalanced by not caring what he thinks is HUGE

Have a lovely tea party! 🥳

Happy birthday to the twins! When/if you want to outline the series of events leading to the first true outburst of home truths, we are here and ready to marvel at his twattery.

Bloody well done 👏 I'm delighted you gave him what for, it's no less than what he deserves ❤️ prick!

Happy birthday to the twins. And happy couldn't care less day to you!

Applauding here. Sometimes a few home truths are required.
Enjoy the lovely birthday party!

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Well done for letting it rip and giving him some well deserved home truths @mummy917 Have a lovely time with the twins today for their birthdays.

Girl power!!
Have a lovely birthday tea with your little ones.

@mummy917

He was very taken aback and said shockingly little, but I told him I didn’t care what he thought of me anymore during that exchange, and for the first time I actually meant it.

Marvelous!!! I hope you realize that you've blunted one of his (to him) most important weapons. He's always believed that what he thinks of you is very important to you and he has used it to make you toe his line. I suppose that was true in the past, but no longer! I'm sure he was gobsmacked and is now floundering around trying to find another weapon to (dare I say it?) control you.

So I think you may see some odd or nasty behaviours from him for a while as he tries to find a new 'weapon'. Just be calm and do not react to provocations.

I put my hands up to being nosey because I really want to know what you said to him that shut him up!!

We’ve had a gorgeous day for the twins, it’s been lovely 🥰

We’ve all had lots of cake, my friend loaned me her bouncy castle and just had a great day all round! Everyone is shattered now.

He hasn’t bothered to tell me that his mum is going away on 20th, so a week tomorrow and he’s told her that I will just have to take the Wednesday off. I said absolutely not and that it’s about time he started acting like a proper dad to them because it involves dealing with the shit and inconvenient stuff too. I also said I would absolutely not be asking for a shift swap, taking annual or unpaid leave, so he will be left to sort things out and I’d be dropping the kids off before I go to work, as normal. He said I’d have to do something and I was being an arsehole, which is when I said I couldn’t give a toss what he actually thinks of me anymore. It’s no odds to me whatsoever. And it wasn’t just anger talking, it’s how I genuinely now feel.