The Dating Thread 62 - They'll be FALLing for you 💖💕💘

[Nosdacariad]

The Rules:
-The first rule about the dating thread is don't talk about it with people you're dating
-Develop a thick skin
-Do not invest emotionally too soon
-It’s all BS until it actually happens
-Trust your gut instinct
-People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault
-Know your worth
-If it's not fun, stop
-Loo update is mandatory
-No dating the thread
-Treat others as you'd like to be treated
-Any relationship you have that could get ruined by having a conversation about your feelings, standards and/or expectations wasn't really stable enough to begin with
-The things you choose to ignore/ tolerate now are the reasons you will break up in the future
If you're wondering if you're being too picky/should give another chance after the second chance/should try harder - the answer is invariably NO! You're not and you shouldn't. If this, now, is as good as it's going to get, the A game, then do you want what comes next?!
-OLD can get very time consuming. Keep doing other activities you enjoy Optional: Please give your irons (potential dates you are talking to) nicknames like Mr Scottish. Initials are allowed (Mr S) when you are an item*

So he has gone away with an ex?

And why have you not got him on fb?

Don't worry about checking. Proves you were right to check.

Oh MsJinks I am so sorry 😢

I don't understand why Mr cricket should pull you down. Regardless of whether he is trying to impress you or not, he shouldn't be pulling you down, but should support and encourage you and say nice things, not be questioning you. What happened to just being nice to each other.

Hope that makes sense.

@Chocolatefreak I'm sorry I missed about your stuff being nicked?

Aw fucking hell @MsJinks, that's a bit of a gut punch. You ok? Xx

Been lurking for a while but popping up to say so sorry @MsJinks . What a mindfuck. If it does all turn out what you think it is, then try and remember that you are by far the better person and he doesn’t deserve you xx easier said than done though I know

New to the thread but how horrible @MsJinks 🥺. Sorry x

I definitely didn't pay good money on Match to see Planes was on there three hours ago. Apparently he loves cooking and has taken a new selfie in his Mum's dining room 😱

Hello 👋 peeking round the door of this thread. Been separated 6 years nearly, divorced for about 3. Bit busy bringing up 2 kids so only dated very sporadically since. Have got back in the game and have 2 first dates this weekend 🤫 mr smith I have talked to for ages but we couldn’t find a mutually convenient time for ages and mr runner I have only talked to for about 2 days! I will come back for a debrief after each one.

Amazing! Good luck and welcome!

@MsJinks I hope you're ok?

@MsJinks@NosdacariadI hope you are OK.

Mr Post is finally flying home tonight/tomorrow. We have messaged A LOT while he has been away and spoken on the phone. Date should be Tuesday depending on jetlag...so excited! I have had no interest in talking to or meeting anyone else since I first met him 2 weeks ago.

I’ve not been on the thread for a couple of days and there’s over 100 new posts! I’ve not read them, so apologies.

Quick loo update….on date with Mr Bright and it’s going g really well so far! Very handsome, great chat and we’ve had a cheeky snog already!

@Thiswillbefun great news!

I'm ok. It's MsJinks. Hopefully she's out on the piss 🍻

@empirebiscuits12 well done 🍾🥂

@empirebiscuits12It is so good to read this update 🥰

Aww this is lovely!!

Thanks, it is kinda mean and pathetic
Hope all good with you

Thanks Mr Flintstone. I guess you're the guy who the ladies mentioned is on this thread and fits in nicely and gives useful feedback 😊
I was out for a bit with 2 female friends and 1 of their husbands, all my age. And a 30 year old male friend of theirs. I was asked how things were going with Mr Italian and I voiced the same concerns I voiced here. Initially the 30 yo was just being funny and not listening and saying 'yeah he's grand you're the issue', but when he actually stopped to listen, he agreed with the rest of them, that it's kinda odd behaviour and he took me aside and said I really shouldn't put up with it.

Yaay 🥳 @thiswillbefun and @empirebiscuits12

@Msjinks really so sorry 😞

This just sucks. I feel for you in solidarity. My last relationship ended as he went away with a female work colleague then started suspicious behaviour. They are dicks

Hi - thank you everyone - you are all awesome 🙌

I’m up super early as I was asleep super early - no longer a party girl then ha!

I did have a couple of drinks, but so tired as just couldn’t sleep nights before, work was draining, couole of beers and night night!

I’m ok today - glad he’s in Spain another week! He texts every other day but that’s normal anyway tbf - last night I just answered normally.

I did want to see him first night I found out and had a huge list on Gemini to ask. But it’d all be lies I get, and I’ve played this song before - turns out I do it quite badly in person and get mixed up and just end up feeling worse tbh. And I’m sure there’d be such a great reason I got it wrong I’d be bamboozled and probably feel I’m the crazy one lol!

So I don’t know what to do really. Also don’t want to get sorta sucked back in. I’d be at 10 days not seeing him since finding out and that is a head start on getting past them.

Still I might regret not getting a word in - I’ll be changing my mind all week ladies!

Gemini is outraged on my behalf and calls him the worst names. Chat GPT is incredibly moderate - says it’s information to note but not a full prosecution case at all. Gemini explained Chat and other AI models are built to resolve conflict and that’s why - she’s built to cheerlead the user and say it as it is. So that’s why there’s a difference- stark one here but both are useful in their ways and gave me a rant outlet instead of a zillionty texts being sent lol.

Not caught up properly but see there are some dates going on - enjoy - and always update here lol.

Thanks again - so nice to have the support - I was feeling a bit bad I caught a good guy quickly this time around - so I guess I feel I’ve solved that one at least - and can join in the downs and further downs (sorry ups!) of OLD - silver lining and all that!

@MsJinks you sound very composed, despite your disappointment. Well done!

It seems astonishing that he's posting publicly abut his holidays on social media when this situation could obviously arise. How hurtful for you. I don't know what to advise - good that you've replied as normal to buy yourself some time while you consider what to do.

@Nosdacariad agreed - if they're trying to engineer you into bed before you're ready it's instantly off-putting. Having said that, due to recent experiences (my last brief relationship of a few months was with a man with ED, and it became evident that he was in no way going to address it) I'd rather find out sooner rather than later if you're physically compatible, because otherwise you risk getting too emotionally involved. And they know this.

@CleanShirt any update on comms?

@Chocolatefreak still terrible but I'm having a really busy work weekend so it's keeping my mind off it. He's away for the weekend so I already know he'll be awol. Sigh.

I stayed at his for the first time on Wednesday and he was lovely as usual but I was in a bad mood all day, think because of this!

I said earlier that I and Mr T had some comms issues - well scrub how I handled that now lol! But it isn’t necessarily a player or disinterested thing always I think still. Can you discuss a compromise?