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The Dating Thread 62 - They'll be FALLing for you 💖💕💘

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Nosdacariad · 15/08/2026 22:31

The Rules:
-The first rule about the dating thread is don't talk about it with people you're dating
-Develop a thick skin
-Do not invest emotionally too soon
-It’s all BS until it actually happens
-Trust your gut instinct
-People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault
-Know your worth
-If it's not fun, stop
-Loo update is mandatory
-No dating the thread
-Treat others as you'd like to be treated
-Any relationship you have that could get ruined by having a conversation about your feelings, standards and/or expectations wasn't really stable enough to begin with
-The things you choose to ignore/ tolerate now are the reasons you will break up in the future
If you're wondering if you're being too picky/should give another chance after the second chance/should try harder - the answer is invariably NO! You're not and you shouldn't. If this, now, is as good as it's going to get, the A game, then do you want what comes next?!
-OLD can get very time consuming. Keep doing other activities you enjoy Optional: Please give your irons (potential dates you are talking to) nicknames like Mr Scottish. Initials are allowed (Mr S) when you are an item*

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Thiswillbefun · 31/08/2026 10:44

@NosdacariadJust to say that he is excited about the holiday and to have a good day. I'm guessing no more contact today...just deciding what to write back...

Nosdacariad · 31/08/2026 10:55

Thiswillbefun · 31/08/2026 10:44

@NosdacariadJust to say that he is excited about the holiday and to have a good day. I'm guessing no more contact today...just deciding what to write back...

I would either leave it there or reflect his level of input x

eta but I know rien, zilch, nothing 😁

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Thiswillbefun · 31/08/2026 11:00

@Nosdacariad I will just respond with a smile to have a good day 😉

Nosdacariad · 31/08/2026 11:02

Thiswillbefun · 31/08/2026 11:00

@Nosdacariad I will just respond with a smile to have a good day 😉

Perfect 🌟

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Thiswillbefun · 31/08/2026 11:05

@NosdacariadNext 🤣

Thiswillbefun · 31/08/2026 11:07

@NosdacariadThe flaky lawyer isn't replying :)

Thiswillbefun · 31/08/2026 11:28

@NosdacariadI have asked him out and suddenly he is alive 😂

Nosdacariad · 31/08/2026 12:42

Thiswillbefun · 31/08/2026 11:28

@NosdacariadI have asked him out and suddenly he is alive 😂

Okayyy - date set?

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Thiswillbefun · 31/08/2026 12:51

@Nosdacariadtentative - he is checking the travel 🤣 Speaking to Mr. Tennis on the phone in a bit.

Nosdacariad · 31/08/2026 13:01

Well you are doing well. I'm not...lots of chats, one of whom has actual assets and a job 😅

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Thiswillbefun · 31/08/2026 13:03

@Nosdacariad🤣 I am aiming for pulse at this rate!

Nosdacariad · 31/08/2026 13:06

Thiswillbefun · 31/08/2026 13:03

@Nosdacariad🤣 I am aiming for pulse at this rate!

Yep the bar is on the floor!

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Thiswillbefun · 31/08/2026 13:30

@Nosdacariad🤣

Thiswillbefun · 31/08/2026 14:40

@NosdacariadDate with Mr. Tennis on Saturday. Mr Post messaged to say he can't wait to see me when he is back. Mr Lawyer silence 🤣

Ilovelurchers · 31/08/2026 16:37

I've just got back from my holiday and logged on - 52 messages since I was last on, so will try to catch up - apologies if I respond to random ones and confuse everyone! 🤣

Nosdacariad · 31/08/2026 16:51

Thiswillbefun · 31/08/2026 14:40

@NosdacariadDate with Mr. Tennis on Saturday. Mr Post messaged to say he can't wait to see me when he is back. Mr Lawyer silence 🤣

As Meatloaf sang, two outta three aint bad.

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Nosdacariad · 31/08/2026 16:51

Ilovelurchers · 31/08/2026 16:37

I've just got back from my holiday and logged on - 52 messages since I was last on, so will try to catch up - apologies if I respond to random ones and confuse everyone! 🤣

Never mind catching up, tell us about your hols!

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Thiswillbefun · 31/08/2026 16:53

@Nosdacariad🤣 Mr Lawyer has said he wants to meet on a weekend. He suggested mid week 🤣

Nosdacariad · 31/08/2026 16:56

Thiswillbefun · 31/08/2026 16:53

@Nosdacariad🤣 Mr Lawyer has said he wants to meet on a weekend. He suggested mid week 🤣

What have you said?

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Thiswillbefun · 31/08/2026 17:00

@NosdacariadI haven't read his message yet 🤣 I think I am seeing Mr Tennis on Thursday so can see Mr Lawyer on Saturday, which was our original date! Not sure when Mr Post is back. I haven't asked him...

Ilovelurchers · 31/08/2026 17:05

Thiswillbefun · 31/08/2026 14:40

@NosdacariadDate with Mr. Tennis on Saturday. Mr Post messaged to say he can't wait to see me when he is back. Mr Lawyer silence 🤣

@Thiswillbefuni think you are right to keep chatting to and dating others - at least until Mr Post comes through with a solid second date. Hard to tell at the moment how genuine he is - he may well be - but you have made no promises - you are perfectly free to date whoever you like right now. He needs to step up and sort that second date!

Ilovelurchers · 31/08/2026 17:07

Chocolatefreak · 30/08/2026 22:22

@Nosdacariad fairly true to form for most men. If they haven't already been looking for a new woman they immediately start looking when their marriage/relationship breaks down. It's very rare that a man seems to be genuinely single for a while before looking again. That seems to be much more common for women. Why is it that men just can't take some time for a bit of self reflection before moving on?

This is my experience too. Of course there are some exceptions, but pretty much all of my exes segued seamlessly from one relationship to the next (often with overlap!).

No doubt some women do this too.....

Thiswillbefun · 31/08/2026 17:08

@IlovelurchersThat is what I have decided. It is too soon to just speak with him especially with him going away. I do like Mr Lawyer hence persevering with him...Mr Tennis was good to chat to on the phone too :) Mr Lawyer and Mr Tennis were around before Mr Post. He was just quick off the mark!

Ilovelurchers · 31/08/2026 17:08

Nosdacariad · 30/08/2026 17:03

Hmm another iron. Mr Tractors.

Fb pics with partner on 15th of this month.

That's not even two weeks ago right?

This is shocking. Not only was he still in a relationship - it was going well enough for him to be plastering it all over his socials!

Sometimes I despair ....

Nosdacariad · 31/08/2026 17:50

Ilovelurchers · 31/08/2026 17:08

This is shocking. Not only was he still in a relationship - it was going well enough for him to be plastering it all over his socials!

Sometimes I despair ....

Only I'm not 100% sure it's a partner now, may have been swayed by Mr Paint

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