Has anyone tried a couples boudoir photoshoot to rekindle intimacy?

[Beachlover1993]

Has anyone done a couples photoshoot, been with my partner a little while now and hes asked about a boudoir style shoot together to spuce things up a bit as lets face it things do settle down after the initial excitement of a new relationship. Im a little bit nervous but also curious

Hes a few years older but i generally like older men anyway. Been together a few years now

Just make sure its what you actually want to do, and not just because hes pressuring you.

And if you split up, make sure you take the photos.

I have nothing useful to add but I am very much enjoying this thread. Particularly the idea of OP in her undies with her dp trying to look sexy in smart casual. Surely he should be in some kind of uncomfortable underwear too?

He should be in undies and you in smart casual op!

How horrible.
What is going on mumsnet? Multiple threads about women feeling the need to or being told to dress (or undress) in a certain way for men.
Is this the new feminism?
I prefer the old sort. Where we don’t pander to penis power.

Eewww

You've mentioned "confidence" quite a lot.
Why do you lack confidence, do you think? Does your partner never make you feel good about yourself?

But you keep saying you're doing it to build confidence?

So, he'd be in a polo top and chinos?

And does he usually wear chinos and a polo shirt when you have sex, OP? Otherwise, do feel free to explain why a 'boudoir shoot' which is supposed to help you with body confidence, is going to involve him dressed in his normal clothes, as if going to the office for meetings, while you're trussed up in a teddy and garter belt, like an Ann Summers window display? I mean, what does that say about gendered expectations as regards sexual 'performance'?

Lynn! They’re sex people!

Plus the ones from the "beach shoot" as well.

I think many young women lack confidence in their appearance because of the unrealistic images that their "fellas" see online. Not understanding that they are digitally enhanced and of course, there's the pervasive influence of porn.
Brian wants some pictures.....

Just a late evening beach shoot with a photographer who worked within the hotel. We didnt plan it but the results were really good considering. The beach was perfect csught the waves around me really well, other we did on some rocks nearby

Have I accidentally woken up in 1992 ?

How on earth do you ‘recover intimacy’ with a photographer there? What is it about this that you think will help? Is it that you are putting more effort into how you look / dress (undress?) for the photo? Is it actually having the third person there?

What else will he suggest afrer this.
Is it a big pictute to go on your wall?
Tacky.
Go for a weekend away

Nothing says sexy like a hotel in Leicester

Except a breakfast inclusive hotel in Leicester.

It could be a bit of fun, why not. It’s something fun to do with each other and see how it turns out. I had normal photoshoot done once and the photos were awful, but it was a fun day out.

I've never been to Leicester. Going to immediately add it to my 'must visit' list 😀(presuming the photo shoot is optional...)

Precisely this, MN at its finest.

We did a photo shoot like this early on in our relationship. I baulked a bit at the cost, but we loved it, and have the photos proudly displayed. Yes, the naughty ones too, in our bedroom.

i first read this as “we did it in some stocks nearby” 😆

Yes, there is a thread that begins with a woman feeling self conscious because her partner expects WAG level femininity and a high maintenance beauty regime, only for it to evolve that really she doesn’t mind that but thought he should be underwriting it. I know MN is the space where people with problems and problematic men come for support, and it’s a cardinal sin to say ‘not all men’ are like that so you should try to love yourself more and attract one of the men who will reflect that self love back at you… but I am staggered by just how awful some of these men are and how willing many women have been to submit to them.

It was only a starting off point, hes cool with getting undressed when we have talked about it . He looks after himself goes to gym few times a week

Would you do it again,