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mummy917 · 2026-07-09T17:57:41+00:00

A follow on from my previous 3 threads; “my husband said he wanted to split up and I’ve been totally blindsided”.

JustLetMeHave · 13/07/2026 20:29

mummy917 · 13/07/2026 19:45

I absolutely love all of these 🤣

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Haha love a bit of wordplay. Can you save him in your phone as Little Richard NRG?
Hopefully cryptic enough that the kids won't figure it out for a good few years, yet if they read it out to him, he will 🤣

If the kids ask, it stands for Non Resident Guardian

Seeing70 · 13/07/2026 21:25

‘We’re not together anymore and we didn’t arrange to attend together - it didn’t occur to me for a minute that you’d expect to hang out with me, sorry.’ Said nice and cheerfully/lightly. I’d then be tempted to give his arm a condescending squeeze and suggest bringing his mum along in future if he can’t face these things alone.

PyongyangKipperbang · 13/07/2026 21:44

May I add Focus?

Fuck
Off
Cos
Ur
Stupid

MichLBee · 13/07/2026 21:59

Gets
Off
Because
Silence
Hurts
Its
Tiny
Ego

And

Doesn't
Inspire
Common
Kindness

Loveapostitnote · 13/07/2026 22:35

I’m struggling with KNOB 😆 someone help me!!!

ProperGandering · 13/07/2026 22:38

@Loveapostitnote

Kindly, not our business?

Loveapostitnote · 13/07/2026 22:45

ProperGandering · 13/07/2026 22:38

@Loveapostitnote

Kindly, not our business?

Superb! That’ll do nicely 😊thank you!

DearDenimEagle · 13/07/2026 22:54

Sodthesystem · 09/07/2026 20:53

I’d love to be able to sleep diagonally on a king size bed haha. What the heck is a super king size when it’s at home! Think that would have swamped most rooms.

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When I left my ex, I’d had 2o years gripping on tight to the edge 6 inches of a double bed, because he took up the rest of the space. First thing I did was buy a super king bed. And spread out, slept diagonally, and in the middle and let the dogs on with me. It’s awesome. I’ve since replaced the mattress but I’ll die happy in that bed.

Frillysweetpea · 14/07/2026 00:42

OlderGlaswegianLivingInDevon · 13/07/2026 18:18

Sadly I think you need to be prepared for him to object in the future to you being present during his 50% i.e. today was his day with the children so no need for you to be there.
thus you will be accused of controlling again.

And whilst it is under 6 months away, I don't think you should have any hopes/expectations re Christmas i.e. if it is your 50/50 day do not allow yourself to hope he will contact the children.

I think that is overly pessimistic. Lots of parents get to a point post-split up where they can put the children first. Recognising that both being there on sports day is a good thing would be an example of that. My DH and his ex used to do sports day and parents' evening together when their kids were at school. Their relationship is civil rather than cordial but they could manage that.

99bottlesofkombucha · 14/07/2026 04:28

mummy917 · 13/07/2026 19:31

I genuinely would like to think that we could do this in the future as yes it would be what is best for the kids, however as you said, I am nowhere near even the thought of this yet. The thought of him moving on with someone else still makes my eyes sting.

I’m hoping he will never sink as low as to say “oh well this event is happening on my day, so you aren’t impacting my time with them.” I don’t think he would do that though; he knows how much the kids love having both of us at their special events and how important it is to them and to me.

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You would just say all parents are welcome at school and sports club events, don’t be ridiculous. Go complain to the school and leave me alone.

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mummy917 · 14/07/2026 05:53

Love all of these acronyms!

I am having my new sofa delivered this morning, so excited!

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Beaniebobbins · 14/07/2026 06:29

mummy917 · 13/07/2026 19:31

I genuinely would like to think that we could do this in the future as yes it would be what is best for the kids, however as you said, I am nowhere near even the thought of this yet. The thought of him moving on with someone else still makes my eyes sting.

I’m hoping he will never sink as low as to say “oh well this event is happening on my day, so you aren’t impacting my time with them.” I don’t think he would do that though; he knows how much the kids love having both of us at their special events and how important it is to them and to me.

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you don’t have to attend these events together. you are perfectly ok to say that you just need a bit of space right now. You are allowed to ask for what you want. Yes it’s nice for the kids to see their parents together but right now it’s better for you to have some space and feel your feelings. You matter too.your boundaries are valid.

At some point in the future you might feel up to attending events together but it is ok if you don’t feel that way right now. You don’t need to rush your recovery. You aren’t three years down the line yet so don’t feel you have to compare yourself to people who are. Your ex was manipulating. It is good for you not to be in a position where he can manipulate you.

so glad you got your babies home. Enjoy the squishes.

Lostpassporthelp · 14/07/2026 09:48

mummy917 · 14/07/2026 05:53

Love all of these acronyms!

I am having my new sofa delivered this morning, so excited!

Yay, enjoy the new sofa!

LadyVorkosigan · 14/07/2026 09:51

A friend invented the insult 'wankerbreath' which is fantastic but a bit complicated for an acronym!
OP - you are an inspiration and an example to us all. Poise, determination, dignity; when all this blows over you'll have nothing to feel embarrassed, mortified, or guilty about.
In sisterhood,
LV

GreenCandleWax · 14/07/2026 11:53

Seeing70 · 13/07/2026 21:25

‘We’re not together anymore and we didn’t arrange to attend together - it didn’t occur to me for a minute that you’d expect to hang out with me, sorry.’ Said nice and cheerfully/lightly. I’d then be tempted to give his arm a condescending squeeze and suggest bringing his mum along in future if he can’t face these things alone.

Why the "sorry"?

🙄

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mummy917 · 14/07/2026 12:55

I’ve just had a message from him about his drop off on Friday morning when the kids come back to me again for the 5 days and he said “I’ll drop them off at 7 as I want to go and get my hair cut first thing.” This is coming from the man who could not drag himself out of bed anywhere near 7am when 4 kids were being noisy, yet can do it no problem when it involves a hair cut and meaning he can start his “time off” as early as possible 🙄

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Trickedbyadoughnut · 14/07/2026 12:56

mummy917 · 14/07/2026 12:55

I’ve just had a message from him about his drop off on Friday morning when the kids come back to me again for the 5 days and he said “I’ll drop them off at 7 as I want to go and get my hair cut first thing.” This is coming from the man who could not drag himself out of bed anywhere near 7am when 4 kids were being noisy, yet can do it no problem when it involves a hair cut and meaning he can start his “time off” as early as possible 🙄

There we are then. 😒

DearlyDiego · 14/07/2026 12:57

mummy917 · 14/07/2026 12:55

I’ve just had a message from him about his drop off on Friday morning when the kids come back to me again for the 5 days and he said “I’ll drop them off at 7 as I want to go and get my hair cut first thing.” This is coming from the man who could not drag himself out of bed anywhere near 7am when 4 kids were being noisy, yet can do it no problem when it involves a hair cut and meaning he can start his “time off” as early as possible 🙄

I can't be sure I'll be home by 7am, make it closer to 8am, please"

Then watch him flap about where you are and what you've been doing that you might not be home 😁

WhyamIinahandcartandwherearewegoing · 14/07/2026 12:58

DearlyDiego · 14/07/2026 12:57

I can't be sure I'll be home by 7am, make it closer to 8am, please"

Then watch him flap about where you are and what you've been doing that you might not be home 😁

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Brilliant!

VariantHela · 14/07/2026 13:03

God he is such a twat, you are well rid!!

ladylioness · 14/07/2026 13:11

Sorry I am away for a few days and won’t be back for 7am please drop at previously agreed time.

what barbers opens at 7am prick.

MrsTomRipley · 14/07/2026 13:14

Fabulous acronyms, and I agree with ladylioness - barber's open at 7 - no way

whynotwhatknot · 14/07/2026 13:20

what barbers open that early-what a liar

Bestfootforward11 · 14/07/2026 13:21

mummy917 · 14/07/2026 12:55

I’ve just had a message from him about his drop off on Friday morning when the kids come back to me again for the 5 days and he said “I’ll drop them off at 7 as I want to go and get my hair cut first thing.” This is coming from the man who could not drag himself out of bed anywhere near 7am when 4 kids were being noisy, yet can do it no problem when it involves a hair cut and meaning he can start his “time off” as early as possible 🙄

And of course there’s no other time he could go over the days the kids are not with him 🙄
Another one to keep a note of

TheScreen · 14/07/2026 13:22

What barbers are open at that time of the morning?! He's such a lazy liar.

Do you not have agreed times for drop offs? I thought the idea was he'd drop at school/nursery and you'd pick them up?

Don't let him take the piss.