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Do you check your husband/partner’s phone?

182 replies

Marissa270 · 27/06/2026 14:56

Does anyone check their husband/partner’s phone? Is this considered normal and for the ones that do are your husbands ok with it? Thanks!

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SpottyAlpaca · 26/07/2026 20:32

Marissa270 · 27/06/2026 16:48

How about Instagram/social media to see who your husband’s following or if he’s looking at any women online? The majority of my friend group does and again I don’t so they consider me the odd one out

No. He isn’t on facebook & wouldn’t have the first clue what instagram is.

SummerInSun · 26/07/2026 20:36

mugglewump · 27/06/2026 14:57

Absolutely not. I don't open his mail either.

I don’t check his phone, but if I didn’t open his mail once the pile is inches high it would never get opened! All mail is either junk or stuff relevant to both of us eg insurance renewal, so I’m not risking something like that not being paid because he has an aversion to paperwork.

Summerunlover · 26/07/2026 20:43

I don’t know his pin but even if I did I wouldn’t even think to look on his phone.

Rocknrollstar · 26/07/2026 20:44

Heavens no. He tells me what’s on there and it is all so boring. He wouldn’t notice another woman if she stood on the doorstep with nothing on.

Sunnyday321 · 26/07/2026 20:46

I don't check his phone because he hasn't got one .
He used to have a phone for work supplied by them so they can be in contact .
now he does not work for them he's never bothered to get one .
I'll admit this can be frustrating if I need him and he isn't near a landline .

Littlepurpleridinghood · 26/07/2026 20:47

mugglewump · 27/06/2026 14:57

Absolutely not. I don't open his mail either.

Me neither.

whiteroseredrose · 26/07/2026 21:02

No. It would never occur to me. DH leaves his phone in the kitchen when he gets home. I look at it if it pings and take it through. That’s it.

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