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What harsh words from others have stuck with you for life?

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blackbutterfly22 · 26/07/2024 17:28

''You really aren't very photogenic, are you?' (Said by my ex husband about 25 years ago and still haunts me to this day when someone takes my photo).

'You'll never find anyone again' . (Said when I got divorced 8 years ago and I truly now believe that there is something wrong with me as despite dating lots, no one seems to want to be my special person.)

Anyone have comments from others that keep rearing their heads throughout life?

OP posts:
FamilyPhoto · 07/06/2025 14:08

Secondary school Deputy Head in front of an assembly " Well done to FamilyPhoto for winning ( sports event ) and getting her photograph in the ( local ) paper. Shame your not very photogenic, eh Family. Haha" Just what a very tall, lanky 13 year old needs to hear.

ThunderThighs123 · 07/06/2025 17:31

EmeraldDreams73 · 26/07/2024 21:35

God, there are some appalling people in this world. Off the top of my head, these really stand out for me:

"It's like climbing on top of a beached whale" - EXH, ever critical of my weight, referring to sex with me.

"Well, YOU can't wear a dress. X, y, and z will be there!" - EXH when I was debating what to wear for a NYE party with neighbours as a size 14 ish when the other women he was naming were all super skinny, if not particularly good looking or well dressed. I felt like shit for the entire night, hid from everyone and still recall it every NYE.

"You're really not cut out for this, are you?" - EXH, during the very early days with dd1 when I was suffering badly with PND (later diagnosed as PTSD as well)

"If you don't appear to be coping, they'll take the baby off you" - my mother during the same period. She genuinely believed that this would happen and was genuinely worried. I have never forgotten it.

"Well, I built a house when I had a young baby" - my utterly shit health visitor during same period when I was beside myself with a non sleeping dd1, working flat out (self employed) and managing the build of a house (XH was physically working on the actual build). I was asked by GP whether I thought I was depressed (I was suicidal) - no, I thought I was shit at this new job of being a mother.

I feel your pain. What is wrong with people?

ThunderThighs123 · 07/06/2025 17:43

Marineboy67 · 26/07/2024 22:27

After a really nice bit of rumpy pumpy a girlfriend reached over and did a thumb to little finger hand spread over my penis and said. "Hmm can't play a piano chord on that one, my ex was hung like a horse"
Don't think I'll be forgetting that anytime soon 😚

What a bitch! I'm so sorry you gave that cow a good time before she annihilated you!

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