What harsh words from others have stuck with you for life?

[blackbutterfly22]

''You really aren't very photogenic, are you?' (Said by my ex husband about 25 years ago and still haunts me to this day when someone takes my photo).

'You'll never find anyone again' . (Said when I got divorced 8 years ago and I truly now believe that there is something wrong with me as despite dating lots, no one seems to want to be my special person.)

Anyone have comments from others that keep rearing their heads throughout life?

that was so rude of them, rude to you and also just rude to comment on anyone’s appearance generally

I didn’t at the time – I was really stressed (the whole reason for going!) so didn’t want to focus the energy on following it up. I just thought when I remembered it just now – I wish I had complained about her!

aww it sounds like he said this to try and reassure you that you had nothing to worry about, using Dad logic. Sorry this had such an impact on you – it’s true it’s so easy to inadvertently get it wrong

A friend and I had our first babies pretty close together so would often meet with the babies. She commented that she felt low as her body had changed so much and she didn’t like it. I sympathised as I felt similar, I gained a lot of weight during my pregnancy and was struggling to lose it. She commented that it was different for her as she had been so attractive before. Thanks mate!

Teacher at school "You're too quiet".
Boss at work "You're too quiet".

When being let go from a job. "There's absolutely nothing wrong with your work we can write you a glowing reference not a problem"
Just me as a person then, that really stung.

No I don’t have to see him, but I do still want contact with his wife who is lovely so I just put up with him. I remember him also saying ‘I don’t care about the kids, I’m only doing this for the money!’. Horrible man.

You are certainly not a nobody!! He is the one with the problem. He is likely jealous. Find your anger and prove him wrong!! So many sad answers on here. These nasty people are the ones with the problem! Happy, well-adjusted people have no need to be unkind like this!

Told that I had thick ankles as a teen . I wore trousers for years when I went out as a result. Looking at old photos I actually had decent legs .

How can people be this cruel? Especially to their own children its absolutely evil and vile. Sending love to everyone on here you all deserve so much more from people. Hope you can all heal and have some peace. Nothing anyone has said to you is true and is merely a reflection of themselves. Bitter unhappy people.

Ilsinmany over the past 49 years...
I had a flat bum so wide they could paint a whole horse racing scene on it
The back of my head is so flat they could balance a plate on it
Next to my lovely slim friend .. colleague told me I didn't have a nice figure , I was like the fat girls in the famous oil paintings
On a date a few years back .. you're ok but I'm looking for someone I can show off to my mates , you know trophy type
Possibly the worst from my mum in that she never wanted me but being catholic had to suck it up but because I was born 8 weeks early it was my fault we never bonded ( then added that I was a rape baby at that )
Mad when you look back and realise how powerful words can be

"Y*ou quit everything"
"You don't stick at anything"
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Said by two separate friends one in relation to work and one in regard to relationships. I've just simply always had extremely high standards and put myself first but it always makes me stop and think now when I give up something.

But I always seen stories of people having careers they hated gone through uni etc when they knew in the beginning they had second thoughts and the same with relationships, people ignoring red flags. I had a 3 red flag policy, in regard to work and relationships.

Now I'm engaged to the person of my dreams, we don't shout and scream at each other. We have excellent communication. And we genuinely love and support each other. We of course still have hardships but how we handle them is what counts. And we're both in the right place. Whereas that same friend who said that I don't stick at anything and want unrealistic things in a relationship is still going round in circles with toxic and abusive boyfriends ☹️

My other friend, who said it about jobs. Is still in the same job, at the same level and hates it. Whereas I am doing the job I wanted to do and enjoy doing after a slight bit of job hopping to find what I wanted to put myself into.

Well done to you!

😞 Awful

A needlework teacher in secondary when I was 11 fitting me for a skirt
We'll have to call you Burnt 'Bottom' Broccoli inserting the word between my first and last name.
This was at the time when bums were out of fashion. Gave me a real complex for years and years.

I wish I’d got rid of you when I had the chance. My mum.

My brother laughing to his mate that I had 'legs like an oil rig' . I was 11. I'm 56 now and I still feel the sting.

"It's your fault he killed himself" - my sister when my husband died.

"You're a whore, a cumpit and you let them cum where our baby died" - my ex, when I slept with someone 3 months after we split, a year after a miscarriage

also not to me but same ex said a lot of stuff about the women he slept with after we broke up, like "better than my hand but only just", "played with her tits cos there was nothing else to look at it was just flubber" "sloppy bitch with bad pussy", "only did it because I was drunk, they came on to me and I took what they offered cos they're drunk whores"

Absolutely vile

"What you lack in looks you make up for in personality" (a friend's boyfriend)

"You are quite attractive, you're just a bit bulbous" (my dad, god rest him. He was always coming out with howlers like this; it used to make my sister and I piss 😂)

Oh my god!!!! Shocking 😔

@hellobl Christ... I hope he ends up alone! He sounded absolutely vile and I'm happy you're not with him now. Scum.

@hellobl he sounds a classy dude!

😱That's horrendous, all of it.

Ooo, I've remembered another classic!

My mum, in disgust, when I finally got a new boyfriend, 4 years after my divorce.

"You've had so MANY men..."

2 (that she knew about) at that point!