What harsh words from others have stuck with you for life?

[blackbutterfly22]

''You really aren't very photogenic, are you?' (Said by my ex husband about 25 years ago and still haunts me to this day when someone takes my photo).

'You'll never find anyone again' . (Said when I got divorced 8 years ago and I truly now believe that there is something wrong with me as despite dating lots, no one seems to want to be my special person.)

Anyone have comments from others that keep rearing their heads throughout life?

Big nosed bastard by bullies in high school.

I have hyperhidrosis. When I was around 13, I asked my mum if we could go to the doctors to get something to stop my underarms being wet constantly because it was embarrassing and uncomfortable. She ignored me.

A couple of months later we were at a little family get together at my nan's house, the family of a relative's new partner were there, all getting to know each other. My mum calls across the room to me "Oh dotty, I've spoken to the doctor about you." It'd been months since I'd asked her so I didn't realise what she meant so asked her what for.

"Because you stink."

I was a really shy and anxious kid, so she knew exactly how humiliated I'd feel, especially in front of new people. I honestly wanted to die on the spot, and it stung that nobody pulled her up on being a knob.

I'm 30 now and it's really bothered me all my life. Didn't want to get a partner because I was scared of getting intimate, have horrible anxiety if I have to go anywhere crowded where I'll be close to other people, don't feel comfortable hugging friends and family.. If someone sits next to me I kind of scrunch up and try and lean away from them and can't relax because I'm paranoid that I smell bad even though I clean myself and my clothes excessively.

There are loads of other things she's said and done but that's the one that affected me the most.

Being called "objectionable" and "obnoxious" on numerous occasions by my father, from when I was a young child through to an adult.

Being told by my older sister, when I confided in her that I sometimes felt suicidal, that I may as well go ahead and kill myself. I was around 20 at the time and she knew I was suffering from an eating disorder and other mental health conditions.

Being called a bitch, c**t and whore by the first man I slept with, someone I was very much in love with. He also said he wanted to rape me.

You are going to die and I don’t care if you do by my mum when I was 11 and I’ll in bed with a temperature , she then stormed off and didn’t speak to me for 2 days or come to see if I was ok , I was so scared . She never explained or apologised either

@dottyshihtzu that's so sad to read!

17 year old me following a boyfriend dumping me ‘face it he didn’t want you.’ - said by mum

You have a face like a pizza - bully at school

You don’t look bad from the back- my sister when I was in my early 20s

you are a 10pm woman (meaning by 10pm most men are slightly drunk on a night out so might find me attractive by this time) said by a male colleague.

@Itsamountainof That's made me tearful. Sending hugs. 🤗
Some of these comments are truly shocking. It does seem to stem a lot from jealousy.
It's heartbreaking to read all the vile things that have been said to us all at one point or another. Hugs to everyone 🤗

My ex said “who will want you, you have the belly of a 90 year old” after I had his child. my now dh absolutely loves every inch of me before before I had his children and after. But it still haunts me

My DM once said “I wish you were more like Deb” (my best friend at Sunday school at the time).

I was told once at the age of 14 by my foster dad ‘you will amount to nothing, you will become a single mum on benefits and living in a council flat (not that there is anything wrong with that) and you will become a nobody’. I never forgot what he said and yet that was said well over 25 years ago. To this day I had always felt like he looked down on me, because I was just a foster child, so therefore nothing special, a nobody. The good news is, I am slowly growing in confidence and not giving a toss about his opinion anymore (he still looks down on me) and knowing my worth, as there is no such thing as a nobody and I shall not be made to feel like one either!

My God this is the worst one yet. How despicable of her.

Teachers mixing kids up does happen. I remember a teacher being 3/4s way through a meeting and nothing she was saying sounded right. Nothing terrible, just a few things that made me think really ?? That doesn't sound like her, but ok you see her at school. Later she said something else that nailed my sense that something wasn't right and i said "to be clear, you are thinking of Anna Brown right, not Anna White, and there was this look of *oh.....wait, what, crap" on her face. Then my time was up.

I'm so sorry. Beyond evil.

Why do people like that become foster parents? Does it give them a power trip? It's utterly disgusting and I'd stay miles away from him if you can. He's vile.

Oh my goodness, do you have to still see him? Not aure l would want to.

One from my teenage years by some random bloke at a party "you're very gobby for an average looking bird".

More recently from my narcissistic mother because i wasn't behaving how she's wanted me to after i left my abusive ex and working like a demon to provide for our child with no help "nobody likes you, you're all alone. You've got no one". I went cold when she said it as i realised that she'd been saying things like that to me all my life and I'd carried it with me on a really profound level.

Being told constantly by my mother that I had "such a long face" that I needed my hair cut a certain way to hide it, amongst other gems such as that I was like a "fat person in thin person's clothing" whatever that means. Also comparing me to my 3 sisters I was always the clever one while she went on about how beautiful the others were. Also being called ugly by my big sister CONSTANTLY as a teenager really damaged my self esteem and the way I thought about myself.

When I look at myself in pictures I think yes, perhaps I wasn't what you'd call beautiful but I was fairly average looking and scrubbed up pretty well. I was also naturally slim and have never been above a size 8 in my whole life!!

I did manage to bag myself a handsome and caring husband despite all this, and have got two daughters of my own who I never say any negative comments to about their appearance - because I genuinely think they're the most beautiful things to walk the earth.

I no longer speak to my mum or my sister.

Following three very hard years since leaving my abusive exH where I lost and sacrificed pretty much everything including my dogs, I had worked my way back from nothing, gotten a first in my Law degree, a distinction in the Bar and was about to be offered pupillage… and all my parents could say was it didn’t pay enough money.

I got really upset by that given I had been through so much to get to that point, and my mother told me I should ‘stop being a victim, I needed to ‘pick up my trauma’ and I ‘didn’t want to keep my dogs anyway’ so I didn't deserve to be crying about it.

I bet it was other women that said this . I was hated for being slim in my younger days . Weight is a massive trigger for women just as height is for men .

“Time to go lighter on the hair colour honey.” She was right and I did.

People are cunts, in reality.
☹️ First time swearing like this in writing.

So sorry.
Piece of 💩.
💐

Nothing like as bad as some terrible things that have been said to pp’s on here but my DH, whilst we were talking about which parent we each looked like, told me my nose was bulbous like my Dads. I was so hurt as I’ve always been very sensitive about my admittedly, slightly bulbous nose.
We were actually away for a couple of days and out having dinner, I got up and walked back to our B&B, he still claims not to remember having said that. We’re still married but I’ve never forgotten what he said.

"If you don't change your ways, DH will leave and dip his wick somewhere else"

This was said by my mother after I'd told her I was struggling with PND.

my Dad tells everyone I’m a “waste of talent”. Lovely.