What harsh words from others have stuck with you for life?

[blackbutterfly22]

''You really aren't very photogenic, are you?' (Said by my ex husband about 25 years ago and still haunts me to this day when someone takes my photo).

'You'll never find anyone again' . (Said when I got divorced 8 years ago and I truly now believe that there is something wrong with me as despite dating lots, no one seems to want to be my special person.)

Anyone have comments from others that keep rearing their heads throughout life?

When I told my mum I was leaving my husband due to physical abuse she said where's the bruises??? I never saw any bruises on you. I got divorced soon after,

My soon to be ex husband looking full into my face “ you are not my mother therefore I’m not celebrating anything with You”. ( said on Mother’s Day to me)

excellent. I know where I stood and there were no more Christmas or Birthday presents from me

Same husband “ Yes, I love looking at her. I have a crush on her”. Talking about our 19 yr old upstairs tenant.

”Paulie doesn’t have a boyfriend because she’s really plain” - my so-called best mate in 6th form. I’m 52 and still single.

I totally get you. I have just joined a choir and I told my friend (who I know has a lovely voice as I have heard her sing in church). She told me that she used to go to church with her grandparents as a child and had to be 14 to be in the choir, but when she was just short of that someone once told her ‘well you will never be good enough for the choir’. She is 50 now and actually had tears in her eyes telling me that. I so want her to join ours and mend her heart as she has carried that all her life and it isn’t even true. People can be cruel.

What power we allow others to take from us!! Luckily all the horrible.comments I have heard about me have been from virtual strangers so easy to dismiss (but took years!). But reading these cold, it has really struck me how these words suck away at our personal power.

I was told by a colleague after a long tirade about how much I pissed him off:
And, and, you even have hands like a rat.
🤣🤣 Why thank you kind sir.
He got away with it because it was me alone and I wasn't in the mood for killing anyone that day.

Also, one girl wouldn't come on the dancefloor when we went to tween discos (I know, so wrong) because I was there and she didn't want to dance near a snob. A snob who lived with my mum who was single in a little terrace house with no central heating.

@Freespirit44 wow there are some tossers out there.

My mam taking me to the pub at 17 and telling me h9w desperate she was to abort me but she was too far gone

I get excited more by my left hand than by you

Exh , while I was getting dressed post mc

I have no confidence or self esteem due to my mother and her horrible comments

My parent's neighbour who lived next to me since childhood "you were a very plain child" looks at me again "yes, very plain" 😂

I overheard my mother telling the neighbour " auntieMarys is very plain, no.one will marry her".
I was 14 and it stuck with me. I never felt good enough for decades.

At my brother's wedding reception, my mother hissed at me "Why did you have to do your hair like that, it makes you look like a fat pig!"
My sister in law-to-be had asked me to wear my hair up because she had hers up and all the other bridesmaids had refused. It didn't suit me but I'd agreed in order to support her on her special day.
I've never forgotten it, what a dreadful thing to say to your daughter.

A regular poster on here actually, who said there was no point dropping Fridays at work as my life was "utterly dull and minimal" (single and child free)

When I was about 9 or 10, ‘why are you hanging round us, go and play with your loser friends’ and when I told a girl at my table in school I’d won a competition on holiday for designing an outfit she said ‘eurgh, who would want to wear something designed by you’.

these stuck in my head and I’m now 37. Kids can be horrible.

My mothers mother ( I can't even bring myself to call her grannie, like she used to refer to herself as) constantly put me down as soon as I could understand what she was talking about.
"You'll never get married, nobody will ever want a fatty like you" and such like, constantly. (She was also a feeder and built like an Oxo cube on legs! And yes, I was a chubby kid). She was also very jealous of my close relationship with my mum. She tried all she could to drive a massive wedge between us at every opportunity.
But thankfully, my mum took after her lovely dad and not her mother, so we remained tight, despite all the hostile attempts to spoil things.
As I've got older, I've realised she was a narcissist. Mum was an only child and I was an only child too. And her only grandchild. My great aunt once told her that she would lose me as I got older, due to the way she spoke to me and treated me. She didn't listen and finally, after a hideous campaign to destroy my wedding in 1995, I went NC... Best decision I ever made. My poor mum was piggy in the middle for many years. Obviously she stuck up for me and when grandmother was pulled up by her, she did the stupid giggle like she was just joking.
A lot of the things that were said to me, I kept to myself so as not to upset my mum.
But my confidence has been low all my life due to her. It's only in the last 5 years or so that I've come out of my shell...
Sadly I lost my lovely mum in 2007, before grandmother... Who by that time was festering alone and bitter in a nursing home 70 miles from me. I rang and explained the situation to the manager there when I informed them that my mum had died. I said that I wouldn't be visiting and that I didn't want ringing unless it was to tell me she'd died. Which she did a few years later...
Sorry for the ramble. But due to her and her comments all my life, this post has raised a chance for a rambly rant! 🌸

At 13 - you are 9 stone now. Don't out ony more weight on or men won't find you attractive. Said by birth mother

oh my god you are my spirit animal. Also dyslexic!

I remember being a teenager and at the beach with another friend and a mum and she poked my belly and Said "what's this?"
As an 18 year old overhearing two boys my age talk about me. One Said, how about her? And the other one saying "no, she's too fat!"
Me as a child wanting to have a career in meteorology and my friends mum scoffing that you have to be really clever for that!

What did your aunt know about university? What a nasty thing for her to say - if she knew anything about higher education she would've known you clearly were suitable.

When I was 13ish a teacher told me that I would never become a vet because I wasn't good enough at maths. As it happens it turned out to be true but I should never have been told that imo I should have been left to find that out for myself in time.

When I was 21 my dad told me I shouldn't have an operation on my legs because "if it goes wrong you'll be in a wheelchair and no man will ever be interested in you".

Last year my friend who I allowed to live with me and my kids for free for 18 months, when I asked her nicely to move out, told me what she really thought of me. "I can't have an intellectually stimulating conversation with you" and "all my other friends have interests and hobbies".

My mum mostly.
That I'm a nasty piece of work
That I always ruin everything
There are other things. But those are the things that come to mind at the minute

Why would your boyfriend (now husband) be with you?

Someone once mistook me for Princess Beatrice. During the awkward years.

My mother also said I'm a walking heart attack and said aren't I worried my boyfriend (now husband) will leave me. I'm a size 12

A guy who was trying to hit on my friend grabbed my arms and said look at the size of your arms, they're bigger then mine!

Getting on a boat and heard a man say I didn't know they were letting the big ones on

Cooled it off with a guy I'd been seeing at uni and he text me saying fat girls don't diss

Long term bf who I was obsessed with telling me he was the skinny one and I was the fat one, that's just how it was and laughing

Another ex who must've weighed about 19/20 stone telling me that another thing he didn't like about me was that I never stuck to a diet when I started one

And all that time I was a whopping size 12. Thankfully I now have an incredible husband who is always telling me I look amazing but I met some real horrible bastards back in the day! They probably sensed that was my weak spot and used it against me, pretty successfully as I had an on/off bulimic spell throughoutout my 20s