Anybody else desperately trying not to contact a guy?

[FuckSakeGetAGrip]

I am, and it's honest to god wrecking me.

Please tell me someone else is struggling too.

I'll hold your hand if you'll hold mine...

I did the same last night, I’m such a twat - was doing so well!

We need to get a life 😆

I'm joining in solidarity. I am trying no contact with a classic love bombing then disappearing man-child. If I used all the time I spent thinking about him and reading his astrology birthday chart (I'm one of those) on advancing my career instead, I'd be much richer!

Ooh that's a good way to think about it actually, put an hourly rate on it!

😂😂

I am actually really tempted to message him but life is so good I’m not going to sabotage it like usual

I might need your help though

Don't. It set you back more than you imagine. It's just a fresh rejection.

Thank you. You’re right. I just need to hear it so thanks. Even if he answers it will be a mundane exchange and I’ll be wanting more or I’ll get deep and he’ll get mad and there we go again

Exactly. You're always going to want just a little more than he gives, and it's unattractive to him.

I say this with love knowing it's also me...

Oh this resonates - I get mad when the text answer is so boring. Why do we do this? My friends are much more interesting so why do I give him all this energy. Don't get me wrong, we've had some deep (and late into the night) chats, and I think that there is the problem. That and he's a handsome devil :(

I'm so annoyed with myself - I had had a couple of rather strong G&Ts in the sun on Saturday and thought it would be a good idea to text him - sent him a hello along with something a little witty, and asked how he is....nothing!
So annoyed at myself. I was doing really really well. Honestly it's probably my fault because when we last spoke and decided to stop it, I wanted the last word and I wasn't very nice...I should have gone with the silent thing and left him wanting more! Now he's the one doing the silent thing and it bugs me no end 😭

It's a game I am determined to win!

Oh yes! I’ve been there and got the t shirt many times! Thing is he is nearly 50, drinks too much and is not my type but there’s something ridiculously sexy about him especially when we talk on the phone. But I’m determined. Might reward myself for each day I don’t do it!

Agree with the other comments as well. I don’t know what I expect from him really

So glad I came across this, glad am not the only one going through this, it's so hard

Trying to imagine a thread like this on a guys forum...

The fact that it would literally never happen says it all. I'm embarrassed for myself.

Can I join in? So my one is close and I can't really delete etc. very tricky!

Anyway he said 'I need you to cool it down' ok fine. Then he text me twice at the weekend and then ignored me when I replied!! So I felt like I was doing well last week but now not so much!

Oh he's fucking with you for his ego...

Yeah I think he is fucking me about I'm a bit like WHY? It would be fairly catastrophic if anything came out or developed so can't believe he'd just do it for an ego boost but then I guess if he's enough of a twat?

What a dick. Mine once asked me if I was ok after my dad died and I sent some messages then when he didn’t answer he said sorry I got really busy then. He used to do that a lot. And ignore me and then when I said anything he would say I was being too intense!

I do think they do it for an ego boost

Honestly, he gets you worked up, he knows it, he has a wank over it, then is done until the next time he fancies diverting himself from the football for 10 minutes.

So true! Gosh I love this thread. Feel I’m not alone anymore

Absolutely true 😂