Please help Husband and strip club

[ReadyforthechorusLTB]

My husband went on a works night out last night, he came home in a terrible state vomiting on the carpet that I cleaned to save the poor kids standing in it.
Anyway, I've picked up his pants and noticed an obviously stain at the front inside.
I confronted him and he said he went to a strip club. I asked to see his bank account immediately and he has spent £775 ! There is multiple charges some at £115 and even one for £230. Apparently this is the first time he has paid for a dance. I have downloaded a year's worth of statements and I can't see any other incidents.
To make things worse he slipped up and said he went alone after everyone else had gone home. Why?!!

Pre kids I would have walked away. But I have two young children, and leaving would completely change their lives for the worse. He earns more than I do, we have no outside support and I have no family to go to, and I couldn't manage the mortgage payments on my own.
I feel physically sick. I'm not sure how I am meant to trust him again!
Does anyone know what happens at strip clubs. What has he paid for. Is this just dances!

I couldn't stay after this. And not just for the strip club and dances. He spent nearly £800 in one night. That's family money. Can you comfortably afford that loss?

Hey, I totally get how you are feeling. That heavy feeling of dread in your stomach, and over comed with sickness and confusion. Although the thoughts in your head won’t be nice, you need to remember that this is a one off, he’s not done it before and hopefully when he understands how upset you are he won’t go again. In strip clubs there’s usually girls walking around with minimal clothing on, some may have pole dancers on stage too. The girls walking around usually approach people in the club asking them if they’d like private dances. And that’s all it is - a dance. Granted it’s different to dancing on a dance floor with someone, but he wouldn’t have been allowed to touch , kiss her etc, and it wouldn’t have went any further than a dance. I’m not sure if this will help or make you feel any better, but I hope you are ok.

When you say pants do you mean jeans or boxers/underwear?

Which strippers did he go too?

No unfortunately this is my life. I've also added it wrong its £878!

Sorry I name changed specifically for this. It's also 2 different strip clubs over the night, he must have gone for hours!

Living with a miserable mother due to husband being a dick is also quite bad for children.

£115 is a lot for a "dance" though and multiple times do.

The £230 is the one I'd be worried about either he's paid for 2 strippers or he's offered to pay double...

@ReadyforthechorusLTB fair enough. The money aspect would bother me more than anything else.

Highly suspect post but if genuine he's possibly paid for a handjob. You'd be crazy to enable any more of this.

Lots of men go to strip clubs and don't get a dance. The strippers just come and talk to you asking if you want a dance etc

But if you have one dance as soon as you come back they literally like vultures jumping on you for the next dance because they know you are there to spend money.

Those prices may not be the price for one dance, it normally goes on time. So £115 might be for example 45 minutes, and so on.

They won't charge per 45 mins they charge for like literally 10 minutes if that. The £115 could also be for a bottle of champagne etc to share with them is there is no charges for smaller amounts.

I know.

Thanks for the replies. I honestly don't know what to do and I feel too embarrassed to ask my friends in real life.
I meant his boxers sorry.
The charges are
Club 1
£23.00
£57.50
£8.50
£115.00
£92
£115
£132
£25.50
£230

Second place
£10
£16
£48

So your DH thinks it's OK to use sex workers?
I would no longer respect or trust him after this. My marriage would be over.

I know, was just using the 45 as an example. I think you can pay for more like you say bottles of champagne etc, or maybe other people to join. Or maybe he’s been ordering large rounds of drinks?

And maybe drinks

Second place looks like maybe £10 to get in, £16 probably a drink and the £48 could be more drinks? I’m not sure the price of a dance but I imagine more than £48?

He was on his own at this point so not rounds of drinks. I presume all the smaller amounts are drinks yes.

Genuinely this is real. I don't know why people are saying it's suspect. I had to name change because of other things I've posted about my life.

Do you know the name of the club on the statments?

Looks like he's buying drinks for them another thing they ask you to do, you literally sit down and they come over and sit have a drink with you ovbs your are paying.

You cant buy a drink and a dance at the same time so would be separate transactions for each

Have you asked him?

Thank you. It says Liberte and AP bar.

Yes he said he didn't know why, he is stupid and sorry. He didn't really have an answer. He said it was just dances of various times.