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Update - Divorce is in sight from sulking exh!

224 replies

jamaisjedors · 12/12/2023 16:36

I posted a thread on mumsnet 5 years ago 😵and received amazing support from posters on here - couldn't have got through this without you all😘

Now the judge has finally come back with a verdict and she has ruled that we are divorced (no fault[ and rejected all of exh's claims of fraud etc. financially. She has made one ruling financially which is not particularly in my favour, and also reduced maintenance again but that's the price to pay for my freedom!

I had a nerve-wracking couple of weeks waiting to find out if exh was going to contest the decision, which would mean another 2 years of court and back and forth, but miraculously he has signed the paperwork accepting it and so have I, which means we all but divorced - just waiting for the official paperwork and update to marriage certificate etc to go through.

We also have to go back to a solicitor's to finalise the financial agreement, which I'm hoping will happen in the next month or so, so by early 2024, everything should be done and dusted.

I should be breaking out the champagne but it's a weird kind of anti-climax, still bits to tie up, still got to see exh again at the solicitor's, still in contact with my lawyer etc.

Plus I think after a rollercoaster 5 years I don't think I can let my guard down yet, I've had so many setbacks and delays.

I didn't want to jinx it by posting too early but my lawyer assures me that there is no going back on the divorce now, so it's finally time to share the news and thank everyone again for their amazing support.

Previous thread here: https://www.mumsnet.com/talk/relationships/4125147-Divorcing-sulking-DH-it-WILL-happen-in-2021?reply=130620438

OP posts:
RandomMess · 28/06/2026 18:55

Whoop whoop 🥳🥳🥳🥳🥳 so glad you are freeeeeeeeeee and I hope the boys are too ❤️

VexedofVirginiaWater · 28/06/2026 19:24

Such wonderful news Jamais!

Lunde · 28/06/2026 19:50

So happy for you Jamais - I never imagined when I started reading your threads 8 years ago - that it would drag out so long and that both of your sons would achieve adulthood before the divorce was finalized

Have a very good summer and enjoy your freedom

🍹🍷🍸🍾

Iloveacurry · 28/06/2026 19:59

This is amazing op! I remember your original thread all those years ago. Finally you are done! Congratulations

MMMMMBacon · 28/06/2026 20:21

Yay !!! so glad it all worked out for you Jamais ! Much happiness to you !!

Latenightreader · 28/06/2026 20:30

Oh what a wonderful update. I started reading when I had a clusterfeeding baby (she's about to finish year 2) and have followed with so much hope that all would work out for you. Thank you gor keeping us updated and I wish you and your sons joy and peace going forward.

MMMMMBacon · 28/06/2026 20:40

Literally thought of you today Jamais, even before I saw this. It was our 22nd wedding anniversary and H got into a major sulk.....

Came on here saw your post and feel it's a sign telling me to leave. I wish I had even a little of your courage, lovely lady.

TriceratopsRocks · 28/06/2026 22:11

This is wonderful news! Thank you for coming back and sharing this. You are incredible and I wish you every happiness in the future.

rosie0000 · 28/06/2026 23:16

Dearest Jamais, it’s so lovely to hear your update. I’ve been with you from the beginning. I’m glad you have had therapy to move on from the nightmares. Don’t be too hard on yourself, he sounded like a master manipulator and I was worried for your safety when you left him. Well done for navigating the last 8 years and giving yourself and your boys a better future. You are an inspiration!

SnowWaySnowHow · 28/06/2026 23:20

So pleased @jamaisjedors

All the best x

Weenurse · 28/06/2026 23:32

Well done, it was a long journey

Daftapath · 29/06/2026 00:05

Brilliant! You did it! So happy this can now all be put behind you. Well done for having therapy too. Good luck to you all

NettleTea · 29/06/2026 00:14

this is such a wonderful update and I cannot believe that it was 8 years in the doing, thats insane.
best of luck, and all the love to you and your boys, and to Mr DJ who sounds a keeper xxx

MonaChopsis · 29/06/2026 05:41

It's great to hear from you after all this time, happy and free at last! Thanks for updating!

shockeditellyou · 29/06/2026 07:25

Utterly brilliant news. Well done.

shufflestep · 29/06/2026 10:58

Amazing news, congratulations 👏

noodlezoodle · 29/06/2026 17:14

Oh Jamais I'm so pleased for you. It's a shame it took so bloody long but it sounds like an incredible outcome!

Beenhereforever1978 · 29/06/2026 19:26

@jamaisjedors I'm so happy for you!

De-lurking after years of following* *your threads to say they helped me so much when I was going through similar. You helped me see the pattern and the way out. Thank you

itwasyourshowallalong · 30/06/2026 01:40

Oh Jamais I’m so happy for you!

It’s finally over. Your nightmare is behind you. This is the time for your Happy Ever After

Huge congratulations, enjoy your next chapter x

LizzieSiddal · 01/07/2026 11:32

So very pleased to see your updates!

Whoop whoop whoop!!

Also pleased to hear you are able to see your Ex for what he actually is.

Enjoy your freedom 💃🏽💐🍹

CarpeVitam · 01/07/2026 18:27

Just THE best update! This online stranger is so happy for you x

WallaceinAnderland · 01/07/2026 20:22

I can't believe how many years it's taken to get to this point and you have been a saint. Enjoy your total freedom, live your best life, you've got a great future to look forward to with your boys and you've been a great role model for them.

JudgeRulesNutterButter · 03/07/2026 13:56

That's so fantastic!!! Congratulations and well bloody done.

If you ever write that book, come back and send us all the link to buy it 😆

Very very best wishes to you and your DSs, and hoping for a lifetime of happiness for you and Mr DJ 😊

Marylou62 · 04/07/2026 11:47

Another poster who's been with you since your first ever post..
I'm so pleased that it's finally over and you can put that episode of your life behind you.. Head Up, tits out and well done you!

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