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Update - Divorce is in sight from sulking exh!

191 replies

jamaisjedors · 12/12/2023 16:36

I posted a thread on mumsnet 5 years ago 😵and received amazing support from posters on here - couldn't have got through this without you all😘

Now the judge has finally come back with a verdict and she has ruled that we are divorced (no fault[ and rejected all of exh's claims of fraud etc. financially. She has made one ruling financially which is not particularly in my favour, and also reduced maintenance again but that's the price to pay for my freedom!

I had a nerve-wracking couple of weeks waiting to find out if exh was going to contest the decision, which would mean another 2 years of court and back and forth, but miraculously he has signed the paperwork accepting it and so have I, which means we all but divorced - just waiting for the official paperwork and update to marriage certificate etc to go through.

We also have to go back to a solicitor's to finalise the financial agreement, which I'm hoping will happen in the next month or so, so by early 2024, everything should be done and dusted.

I should be breaking out the champagne but it's a weird kind of anti-climax, still bits to tie up, still got to see exh again at the solicitor's, still in contact with my lawyer etc.

Plus I think after a rollercoaster 5 years I don't think I can let my guard down yet, I've had so many setbacks and delays.

I didn't want to jinx it by posting too early but my lawyer assures me that there is no going back on the divorce now, so it's finally time to share the news and thank everyone again for their amazing support.

Previous thread here: https://www.mumsnet.com/talk/relationships/4125147-Divorcing-sulking-DH-it-WILL-happen-in-2021?reply=130620438

OP posts:
ReineMarieGamache · 11/03/2024 12:29

That's lovely news. Congratulations!

LookItsMeAgain · 11/03/2024 12:29

Aw Jamais - never say never!!!

I'm really really pleased and happy for you and for Mr DJ who, by the looks of things was just what you needed and when you needed it! May you have many many more stories to tell (all of them good). Delighted that your boys are doing well too.

So pleased to read your update.

You are a completely different woman to the one who wrote that first thread just a few years ago. Well done you!

Lunde · 11/03/2024 12:30

I have followed your threads from the start.

So happy that the 5 years of legal wrangling has come to an end and that you are able to move forward with Mr DJ ❤🍾

Lovingtheglitter · 11/03/2024 12:32

At last!! Such a long journey for you all 👏💕

Edenvale · 11/03/2024 12:38

Congratulations jamais that sounds wonderful! Thanks for the update

goody2shooz · 11/03/2024 13:18

@jamaisjedors what a fantastic update - so pleased for you 🍾 🥂
Now just need to hear similar good news from @bluebeanbag

Gingernaut · 11/03/2024 13:23

May your ex always be irritated by shreds of toilet paper between his arse cheeks

May your WiFi never lag

Congratulations OP. You deserve any and all happiness

IHateLegDay · 11/03/2024 13:23

Such fantastic news! So happy you're finally rid of the fucker and with someone who brings you joy xx

RandomMess · 11/03/2024 13:24

🥳🥳🥳🥳🥳🥳🥳🥳🥳

Are we invited to the party 😂

Absolutely thrilled for you.

Latenightreader · 11/03/2024 14:13

Fabulous news, and what a journey!

Pashazade · 11/03/2024 14:15

Brilliant news Jamais! So pleased to hear all the positives are happening for you.

SirWalterElliot · 11/03/2024 14:15

What brilliant news 🎉

Newestname002 · 11/03/2024 14:18

Keeping it all crossed for you and Mr DJ, dear @jamaisjedors - you certainly deserve it!! 🌹

MinkyWinky · 11/03/2024 14:22

Congratulations, that's such lovely news to hear! It's been a very long slog, but you got there in the end 😁

balzamico · 11/03/2024 14:26

👏 persistence paid off!

Grenola · 11/03/2024 15:11

Ooooo love this update!!!
so glad u are happy xxx protect your assets tho!!! 😜

Marylou62 · 11/03/2024 15:30

Oh Jamais... I've followed you from the first day and often visit your posts for updates...it must be such a relief... I'm sending some good wishes to you and your boys...may life be calm from now on...

Mix56 · 11/03/2024 15:41

Brava !!!!!
So delighted to hear its finally done & dusted.
The boys are fine & can deal with their own father
You rejoice in never having to talk or consider him ever again.
Hoorah for Mr DJ
And I hope ExH is self combustiing with rage that you are happy & have found a new life & partner😁😁

Daftapath · 11/03/2024 15:46

This is fantastic to read Jamais. Much love and luck to you all

Bluebeanbag · 11/03/2024 16:24

What a fabulous update! I am so grateful to you Jamais for sharing your journey and thereby kick-starting mine.

Still can't get over how far I have come and how much I needed mumsnet throughout the whole ordeal.

You are all the best!👊

This ^^ is so true.

HazelBite · 11/03/2024 16:46

What a fabulous update!
Its been a long...........time. I remember reading your first post at work, I've been retired a while now😁

Theluggagerules · 11/03/2024 18:22

So happy for you all, well except sulker! Can't believe it's been that long since it all began

FredaFox · 11/03/2024 20:34

What wonderful news!!! So happy for you!

Hepzibar · 11/03/2024 20:53

So pleased for you xx

shufflestep · 11/03/2024 20:54

Congratulations, some much overdue and very well deserved news!!