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Update - Divorce is in sight from sulking exh!

191 replies

jamaisjedors · 12/12/2023 16:36

I posted a thread on mumsnet 5 years ago 😵and received amazing support from posters on here - couldn't have got through this without you all😘

Now the judge has finally come back with a verdict and she has ruled that we are divorced (no fault[ and rejected all of exh's claims of fraud etc. financially. She has made one ruling financially which is not particularly in my favour, and also reduced maintenance again but that's the price to pay for my freedom!

I had a nerve-wracking couple of weeks waiting to find out if exh was going to contest the decision, which would mean another 2 years of court and back and forth, but miraculously he has signed the paperwork accepting it and so have I, which means we all but divorced - just waiting for the official paperwork and update to marriage certificate etc to go through.

We also have to go back to a solicitor's to finalise the financial agreement, which I'm hoping will happen in the next month or so, so by early 2024, everything should be done and dusted.

I should be breaking out the champagne but it's a weird kind of anti-climax, still bits to tie up, still got to see exh again at the solicitor's, still in contact with my lawyer etc.

Plus I think after a rollercoaster 5 years I don't think I can let my guard down yet, I've had so many setbacks and delays.

I didn't want to jinx it by posting too early but my lawyer assures me that there is no going back on the divorce now, so it's finally time to share the news and thank everyone again for their amazing support.

Previous thread here: https://www.mumsnet.com/talk/relationships/4125147-Divorcing-sulking-DH-it-WILL-happen-in-2021?reply=130620438

OP posts:
jamaisjedors · 18/08/2025 15:24

@MMMMMBaconsorry, have just seen your post! I'm so happy that my thread, which was a lifeline for me, has also helped other people 🤗.

No real update for the moment, apart from all the custody drama finally being over as ds 2 is 18 and the police have dismissed the case against me for not handing over SS2 last summer when he was a minor and also for harassment (exh filed a complaint about me this year again to the police but they have dropped it too due to lack of evidence).

Finances still ongoing, he is being slow to reply and now everything is shut for the summer so no chance of any movement until this autumn really...

Patience, patience!!!

OP posts:
RandomMess · 18/08/2025 17:18

So it’s going to be 2 years since the start of this thread most likely to get it finalised. He must be fuming that losing final control is going to happen.

I hope you are loving and living well without him still.

Marylou62 · 18/08/2025 17:27

I often check your thread for updates and am so happy for you that at least the custody issues are finally over...
I wish you nothing but the best for you and your boys future ❤️..x

Bluebeanbag · 24/08/2025 19:50

Forever grateful to you Jamais, for also kickstarting my realisation. I am so pleased your custody battles are over. Bring on the financial resolution. Your fortitude continues to inspire me.

AutumnFroglets · 24/08/2025 22:38

Bluebeanbag · 24/08/2025 19:50

Forever grateful to you Jamais, for also kickstarting my realisation. I am so pleased your custody battles are over. Bring on the financial resolution. Your fortitude continues to inspire me.

And your threads helped give me the strength to tell stbx that I wanted out. Still not divorced but I'm now living in a different house and absolutely loving it.

Funny old world isn't it Flowers

Bluebeanbag · 25/08/2025 21:31

@AutumnFroglets great news! Seems like we all help each other ❤️

CarpeVitam · 27/08/2025 14:43

Women supporting women 🤍

goody2shooz · 27/08/2025 15:24

@Bluebeanbag wondered how you were getting on, hope all is well in your world 💐

MMMMMBacon · 28/08/2025 10:10

How are you @Bluebeanbag

Bluebeanbag · 28/08/2025 12:57

I was reluctant to reply on here because I didn't want to hijack Jamais' thread! I'm doing brilliantly, thank you both 😊 Will update fully over on my thread.

RandomMess · 28/08/2025 16:43

Oh @Bluebeanbag so pleased to read that!

Bluebellforest1 · 28/08/2025 19:56

@Bluebeanbag Ive followed your story from the start (as well as Jamais’) so pleased to hear you’re doing well

MMMMMBacon · 03/12/2025 11:01

has the divorce finally come through Jamais? Hope you are well and your DSs too...think of you often

Marylou62 · 22/12/2025 06:51

I've been up since silly o'clock and scrolling on MN.
Which got me thinking of you Jamais. I hope you have a happy and peaceful Christmas and a great New Year.

Spottywombat · 22/12/2025 10:05

Yes, I was randomly wondering this yesterday.

Hoping you have a lovely Christmas!

Mix56 · 17/05/2026 13:53

Hello jamais, I was just culling a load of old threads on my list.
So I thought I’d drop by & ask if you are any nearer a financial resolution?
I hope you & your lads & bf are all thriving 😃

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