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Affairs

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Theanswersalemon · 22/08/2023 14:28

People who begin new relationships by cheating on their spouse/paerner end up "trading down" from their spouse. Often way down. Do you agree, or not?

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category12 · 09/09/2023 11:07

hev126 · 05/09/2023 13:27

My exH says himself he "downgraded" - I had a difficult pregnancy and had just given birth. He was missing sex and went elsewhere - typical cliche - his secretary!!

When he was trying to convince me to get back with him (for 2 years) he used to say how embarrassed he was about who he had cheated with.

She's 12 years older than me, 8 years older than him. Has a bit of a reputation for sleeping around, generally a bit "rough" - think orange leather skin from too much sun.

When I asked "why her?" The answer i was given was "I was a married man with a new baby at home, I didn't exactly have many options as anyone half decent would've told me where to go. She was there and offering it on a plate".

People were shocked when they heard of exHs affair.....the only thing that shocked them more was who it was with 😂

7 years on and they're now officially together - he told a mutual friend he got bored of being on his own. I often wonder her reaction if she'd heard some of his previous comments about her

Don't you think he was saying all that because he was trying to get back with you?

The caught-out cheater's clichés are always "it meant nothing! it was just sex! she didn't mean anything to me" blah-blah.

It doesn't speak particularly well of him (not that as a cheat we rate him anyway) that he was totally prepared to throw her and everything about her under the bus to avoid divorce,, but the fact he ended up with her must mean there was more to it.

I mean it's comforting to believe that I'm better than my ex's not-so-new wife and maybe he had no better offers and nowhere to go😂but fact is, they are better suited to one another than he and I were. He made me fucking miserable over the years to be fair, but he really fought to keep me, for god knows what reason I'll never really understand.

As it turns out, from all appearances he and Wife 2.0 are happy and well-suited.

I'm never gonna be best buds with her, but she's not worse than me or lesser value as a human being. People do shit. Infidelity is common.

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