Not invited to the party...

[MonetMuse]

I was chatting to a friend yesterday when she casually said, ‘Are you going to G’s 50th at the weekend?’
This was the first I’d heard of it so obviously my husband and I aren’t invited. My friend was really embarrassed when she realised…
We live very close to the party couple and are part of a group that does lots of stuff together. The women have coffees, do an exercise class together, go to the cinema… My husband and I have been to the party couple’s house for dinner and they’ve been to ours. We’re not close friends exactly, I’ve closer friends in the group, but you get the picture.
I can’t stop thinking about it, it feels like a real slight! I don’t think I’ve had this feeling since school days, the thought of everyone gathering to have fun just up the road and we’re not invited.
I wonder if she just forgot to invite us.. she’s quite a scatty person… but how will I ever know? Do I just act as friendly as ever when we see each other for our class next week - and if anyone mentions the party, act like I didn’t hear? (If they don’t mention it, that might feel even worse!!)

@Bellagi and how have the group dynamics been since?

Sometimes there are genuine reasons why people need to exclude others and reasons why people tolerate others for the sake of a group .....

The whole situation is difficult

@chopc Its recent but puts me off attending anything they may be at. I'm good friends with everyone and have always been really supportive. They arent mean people id say. The thing is I've always been the one invited to things as ive always had a lot of friends. Them less so. But what hurt was people in the social group who hardly interract were invited whereas only i was left out. I made it very clear to my closer friends how hurt I am. My friends think it was an oversight but when asked, he didn't correct it. I was hugely upset even though that sounds irrational. Friendships are so important to me and this really surprised me.