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What instantly makes a guy hot?

237 replies

BobbiPinsOn · 18/09/2021 14:22

a confident {but not cocky) smile and their hand for me and you?

OP posts:
secretsad · 18/09/2021 21:15

A nice toned chest
Hairy arms

LivingDeadGirlUK · 18/09/2021 21:16

Competence.

InnPain · 18/09/2021 21:19

When he is great with kids

Cazzovuoi · 18/09/2021 21:20

Intelligence (my DH is incredibly intelligent and it’s so sexy)
Slim
Beard
Loves to cook
Cat lover
Handy
Feminist
Curious
Active
Italian

Just described my DH Grin

Rainbow0821 · 18/09/2021 21:20

Dark hair, glasses

nannannanana · 18/09/2021 21:25

Having his shit together

PandaMine · 18/09/2021 21:28

I don’t know where all this ‘nice ass’ BX comes from - some mind-numbingly crude and ludicrous Pepsi advert probably. Perhaps some women are that basic (creepy tho’ nonetheless).

IsThePopeCatholic · 18/09/2021 21:39

Intelligent face
Intelligent conversation
Good sense of humour
Kind
Dark hair
Casual clothes

MuffinsAreJustCakesAtBreakfast · 18/09/2021 21:48

Rolled up shirt sleeves
Floppy hair
Reverse parking

ElephantCup · 18/09/2021 21:52

A slim geek who can make me laugh 😍

NeverDropYourMooncup · 18/09/2021 22:02

@Timmytoo

Men who look like this...
Working for the Sirdar Catalogue? That's a bit niche.

Eyes that crinkle slightly at the corners when they smile.

Yes to tanned forearms and sleeves rolled up - to just hint at the biceps underneath.

Enough muscles and shoulders to look stocky and solid, rather than skinny. If they do weights, they never, ever miss Leg Day.

Hair - either thick and slightly unruly or bald.

Eyes - bright, lively and with a 'spark' in them.

Clothes - a dark shirt in a thick material, plain mid-dark blue, green or red plaid. Will make an exception for Tattershall - if it's not a wine bar in central London. T shirt underneath. Dark jeans, not skinny or at half mast. Solid boots.

Preferably slightly muddy and with a smattering of animal hair on the lap.

Notices birds, animals or other wildlife/plants. Does not scream and flap at spiders, bees, wasps or beetles. Smiles and does the little play bob of his head when a dog makes eye contact and instinctively turns his head to the side if there's a horse so he doesn't make it feel under threat. Won't recoil if I say 'look what I've found' and my hands are clearly cupping some sort of creature inside them - will be interested immediately.

Doesn't charge on ahead but slows to my pace. And if they are ahead, realises and turns back/waits for me before going into a place.

And if they're caught talking softly to an animal by this point, I'm at the point of no return.

NeverDropYourMooncup · 18/09/2021 22:04

@PandaMine

A field force of intelligence

and Awareness

and slight sense of humour

Ideally combined with good looks.

possibly not found wandering round Tesco’s UK especially as most Englishmen are mostly gormless phillistines (though some are genuine salt of the Earth - also attractive)

Oooh, I nearly forgot.

Excellent written English.

And preferably a Dartmoor accent.

Lookingoutside · 18/09/2021 22:08

Tall, big dick, comfortable with himself.

Lookingoutside · 18/09/2021 22:09

Northern Irish accent 😻

Distant memories of being told, ‘You like that don’t you’. ☺️

Windmillwhirl · 18/09/2021 22:11

I'vecreadcthis whole thread and still laughing about Tipex gravestones Grin

My answer:
Strong, tanned arms
Dark hair
Cheeky grin
Kindness

ImInStealthMode · 18/09/2021 22:17

I've never much been into live music but DP is the lead singer in his band. They don't gig very often (covid) but when they do.. Oh. My. Days.

Also;

Smells nice
Kind
Loves animals
Good with kids
Good social skills
Great cook
Generous in bed
Tall, dark, handsome

me4real · 18/09/2021 22:23

I have a type- shaven head, ideally blue eyes.

whattodo2019 · 18/09/2021 22:23

@notlongtillxmas

Tall , bald , smells nice and is not a total knob head
bald????
MumofPsuedoAdult · 18/09/2021 22:27

Long hair and beard (Russell Brand-style without the attitude)

Crikeyalmighty · 18/09/2021 22:29

Amazed on here how many women like bald men— I’m
Late 50s and put good and well cut hair near top of the list— I’m wondering if they mean shaven headed , rather than naturally going bald. I appreciate men can’t help it if they do go bald, but wouldn’t personally have it on my ‘hot’ list

PumpkinKlNG · 18/09/2021 22:34

Tall! A guy can be very average looking but if he is tall it makes him so much more attractive

EvenMoreFuriousVexation · 18/09/2021 22:35

An average-to~small penis coupled with a talented tongue.

Confidence is always sexy. Arrogance is not.

NCBlossom · 18/09/2021 22:37

Unfortunately, my cheating Ex.

Tall, fit, Irish, intelligent, didn’t look strong but was really strong, beautiful voice, shy but very capable, great with kids, did the washing, took the bins out, not classic good looking but roguish face, carried himself well as if he knew he was sexy…

Bastard!

NeverDropYourMooncup · 18/09/2021 22:44

@Crikeyalmighty

Amazed on here how many women like bald men— I’m Late 50s and put good and well cut hair near top of the list— I’m wondering if they mean shaven headed , rather than naturally going bald. I appreciate men can’t help it if they do go bald, but wouldn’t personally have it on my ‘hot’ list
Nah, I'm fine with bald. It's not a decision to 'try to look hard' that way. It means they're confident enough to accept their genetic lot in life and are aware of how changes in appearance can be completely outside your control. Well cared for, smooth skin feels great when you run your hands over it, too.

It also meant that when I was losing great clumps of hair due to illness and then the medication to try to deal with it, my new boyfriend didn't walk away in favour of somebody who wasn't looking quite so motheaten, he just put his arm around me, grinned and said 'we can go wig shopping together for our next date!'.

As it is, he ended up with a DP who sports sufficient hair but has a bloody great white stripe emerging from the top of her head when it started growing back. He thinks that's great, too possibly in a Lily Munster way

znaika · 18/09/2021 22:44

Yes @whattodo2019 bald is hot 🔥Not wispy combover or bald and ponytail but shaved head is super masculine. Better than manbuns, anything involving gel or Hugh Grant style floppiness. Actually better than all other options.